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I've seen this post in the past, and it makes me crack up every time I read it. I think it's gotten lost, but what comments have people made to you during your wedding process that made your jaw drop?
After the wedding, a woman I worked with wanted to see my wedding band. She looked at my hand and said, "See...it looks much better now that you have your band...it's not as small."
Before the wedding I had to Mall employees comment on how pretty my name is and how I shouldn't take Mr French Bulldog's name. His name isn't bad and it made me really sad :(
My Aunt also told me the day before my wedding that b/c my Gma was having a hard time getting around w/o a wheel chair, she wished she hadn't come! WHO TELLS A BRIDE THE DAY BEFORE HER WEDDING HER GRANDMOTHER WISHED SHE HADN'T COME?!?!
Someone told me a few days before the wedding, after they had a few drinks, that they never realized how stubborn I was and that my DIY flowers weren't going to work and I'd be walking down the aisle with dead, droopy flowers which would be so embarrassing.
This wasn't said to my face (thank god, would have punched her), but it got back to me that one of my so-called friends was talking s**t about how we probably got engaged because I got knocked up. I have gained weight over the past year - but not baby weight, thank you very much.
I laughed it off because she's a pathetic excuse for a person and no man will ever love her.
I can't tell you how many times I have gotten the "You must be having a DW b/c you and your FI can't afford a real wedding"...LOL.
That one and ..."Gosh...your ring is so big and shiny..it's beautiful...is it real?"...spoken in a stage whisper of course *rolls eyes*
I am convinced some people don't think before they speak...I am also even MORE convinced that some people know EXACTLY what they are saying and they just want a reaction out of you or to bring you down.
@teaadntoast - LOL a good place to start would be NOT telling mutual friends that the only reason my FI would want to marry me is because i'm pregnant :)
My great-uncle, bless his heart, asked my dad if the reason we were getting married so soon was because we were pregnant. We're not, we wanted a short engagement. But of course, my mom had to reconfirm by asking me. My mom is super cute like that, any time I gain a little weight or complain about the nasuea I get from riding trains, she is always asking me if I'm pregnant. Gotta love moms!
Edit: I wanted to add we got engage in July, and set a date immediately. If we were pregnant, I don't think I would have wanted to be like 5-6 months along when I got married!
What is it with the mothers and preganancy? My FMIL who, it must be said, had not yet met me when FI proposed, inquired rather delicately as to whether I was "in a family way" when she learned of the engagement.
Edited to add: Is anyone else hugely annoyed when people assume that if you aren't pregnant now, you will be in the near future just because you're getting married?
People are so crazy! I haven't had anything that I can think of, though my fiance invited our family and friends to be there when he proposed and his Opa kept asking everyone "What do we do if she says no?" My parents kept saying "SHE WON'T, TRUST US!" Haha!
Ha when I said I wanted a short engagement I was with my sister and some of her friends and they all said ohhhhh, are you pregnant? (Yes that's why we've been drinking all evening because there's no way to celebrate a pregnancy like throwing a few back)
my friend was just telling me that she's playing games with her new bf, trying to get him to chase her. i said that i don't think that's necessarily the way to go, my fi would have killed me if i played games with him. she said, "but my bf's so hot!"
and my fi isn't?
My FFIL actually sent my FI a text a couple of months after he proposed telling him it was still ok to back out if he wanted...hey, welcome to the family right?! HAH! Then they actually have the nerve to complain that they don't feel as involved as they would like (whole 'nother story there my friends, whole 'nother story!)
@JamaicaBride People have said you're having a DW because you can't afford a REAL wedding?? Grrr... I hope no one says that to me because I will be pissed. We're having a DW because that's what we want. Besides, from talking with some of my friends, the difference (once you include airfare, etc) isn't all that different. Rar.
@JamaicaBride - Whenever someone uses the phrase "real wedding" I'm tempted to ask, "Real as opposed to...? I've never been to an imaginary wedding before so I'm hoping you can give me some tips as to what to expect, because I can't tell the difference."
Jamaicabride: OMG that is so rude for someone to say that your having a DW because u can't afford a real wedding! My jaw just dropped when I read that! Thats when you say, well did you see my ring, what makes you think I can't afford one!! Screw them!
These are hilarious! I haven't had a comments like these. Just a couple of rude, "I'm invited, right?" comments.
So funny and cringe-inducing! >.>"
Upon seeing my "different" home-made chair covers, FI's aunt decides to bluntly tell me it would be better to just rent covers. Which wouldn't be so bad, if I hadn't just taken the time to explain to her the overall vision for my DIY ones. Then, after venting to FI about it, he adds, "Well, some of your ideas are pretty hokey." Yeahhhh.
So we finish a sample, and he says, shocked, "Wow, these look a lot better than I thought!" Then he spends the rest of the evening marvelling about how awesome they are.
Hokey my foot.
Oh it gets worse...it was actually the SALESPERSON at the first bridal shop I went to. I have heard it a few times since then but the fact that somebody in the wedding business would make a comment like that is just crazy to me. That's OK though...when he (yep..the salesperson was a man) asked me what our budget was for the wedding, I told him 30K for myself, FI, and 1 guest.....while his mouth was still on the floor...I politely sashayed...b/c you have to sashay at times like those...right on out of his little shop. LOL! Then he had the sheer, unmitigated GALL to call me the following week trying to sell me a dress...HA...I laugh in he face of your dresses!!!
That whole "real wedding" thing really gets me hot! At the end of the day, regardless of the type of wedding, the cost, etc...we will all still be married at the end of the day.
I was on the phone with my cousin, who's from abroad and is in college in the US. This is the same little cousin who flirted shamelessly with my then-bf at a family gathering. I asked her "Will you be in the US that summer (when we get married)? I hope so!" and she goes, "I don't know, but you CAN'T get married without me!"
LOL. Pretty sure I can.
@JamaicaBride: Ha! I'm glad you showed him! He'll never say that again.
My aunt, who has been on thin ice with me for about 3-4 years now, and I were emailing back and forth the other day and I casually mentioned how my fiance and I were going to look at a house today because we're thinking about buying one soon.
Her response was, "Well, that's great about the house, and don't take this the wrong way but make sure that this thing you guys are up to is really serious and that you're both (more so him) going to go through with the wedding before you start looking at houses. Don't want to get in over your head and have to handle being stood up at the altar or filing for a divorce, plus fighting over a house."
Wow. Nice way to be a Debbie Downer.
@sn01uh...when my mom first found out abt the engagement, she asked me why I would want to leave my "good job" to get married and move.....LOL!
My parents have been married for 37 years mind you so I know it wasn't a dislike of marriage. She was just shocked at the fact that I would consider marriage since I had absolutely no intention of ever being anybody's wife.
Overall, I tend to give close family and friends a little more leeway when it comes to crazy remarks b/c at least they know me and my earlier stance on marriage....but strangers? That will be a no...
When my mother and I got into a fight two days before the wedding (because of her - she couldn't hold in her crazy for two more days, and SHE started the fight) she accused me of masterminding the fight all along - planning it out so it would happen two days before the wedding.
Yes. I work 10 hours a day, drive for 2 hours a day (1 hr to work/1 hr to home), go to college, and am planning a wedding... but I totally sat up all night planning a fight with you that YOU started!!!
Grrrrr.
well, i'm not married yet and my mother said in the middle of the store yesterday that it's the size of the engagement ring that counts. i love my ring (it's not the largest, but not the smallest either) but i think it's beautiful. it just so happens that my fiance and i r trying to decide if i want to wear his aunt's set. she said that it should just be a promise ring. *gasp*
@JewishBride: Gasp. You don't say that!!
@Laylabelle: Sigh.
Is it okay to post another one? If not, please cry foul and I'll delete it!
Another ring story: I was wearing my engagement ring in our student lounge for the first time, and my friend asked if my fiance had one. When I said no, she said, "Oh, wow. I'm suprised you're okay with that. It would feel too much like ownership to me!"
I refrained from saying, "I guess that's why you don't have one." (It would have been REALLY mean -- she's been having boy trouble. But I was MAD.)
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I was talking to my roommates/bridesmaids about an acquaintance that always posts updates about her wedding plans on Facebook, and one of my bridesmaids said, "You knew better not to do that from the beginning, because you knew if you talked about the wedding nonstop, we'd slit your throat!"
SLIT MY THROAT? Really? She was joking but it hurt my feelings. In my mind, I thought, this is why you aren't my maid of honor (although she assumed she was!)
I thought of one where my fiance actually had an issue! He went into a store looking for a suit. At that point he was considering a khaki coloured linen suit, since we're having a fairly casual backyard wedding. He asked the employee if they had anything like that because he was looking for his wedding. The employee said "Ha ha! That's not nice enough for a wedding!" 
Some of these are really terrible! Glad we can just all come in here and make jokes about it. :-)
One of my coworkers is getting married really soon after meeting the guy about 6 months ago, they got engaged and are getting married on the 5th. I've had 2 coworkers ask me if she was pregnant! Noooo I'm pretty sure she's not at all pregnant and it's not like it's your business anyway.
LOL you guys are so fiesty... I LOVE IT!
FI's aunt said our Sandals honeymoon was like ordering Lobster at Bennigan's (meaning wanting something nice but going cheap I guess? all I know is we are HAPPY with our choice) and also said this on our wedding website:
"OK, kids. Love you but your engagement gift registry is lay-hay-hay-HAYME! Aunt Steph is taking matters into her own tentacles."
(We registered for a Dyson, a mattress, gift cards to our photog, and our honeymoon. We got sooo many gifts 2 xmas's ago when we moved into our house that we don't need anything- and can't fit anything- else in our 900 sq foot house!)
She then got us random expensive towels- each wrapped in their own box- and put post-it's on them saying things like "better than a vacuum right?"
Um no- sorry we've never used your towels and our dyson KICKS PUG HAIR BUTT!
The only thing that has shocked me thus far was an email I received from my FIs Step-Grandma When we were choosing our date. She sent me an email with a list of dates that I could not choose for various reasons, one of which was the Kentucky Derby. Oh and she also plans on doing some vacationing and even though she hasn't booked anything heaven forbid we plan are wedding any where around her possible vacation. She literally had months blocked off! Now is it just me or is that a little hard to swallow?
@ prettylady LOL I'd throw out her list because of her inflexibility!!! That's insane! My mom was FINE with us having our wedding the day after her birthday... I mean REALLY now? WHOLE MONTHS?
Alright, I absolutely love my FMIL, she has been more than wonderful every step of our relationship and engagement, but everyone has their less-than-stellar moments:
After months of politely mentioning to me how much she would love to offer any help I need with the planning but that she promises not to be pushy or demanding in any way, she sends me an email one night after having a few drinks at dinner. She informs me that our plan to have a 50-person wedding is "not enough" and that there will need to be a lot more guests because "for US it's all about the celebration of your marriage."
She's claiming not to be meddling, but then flat-out informs me that the size of wedding that FI and I have carefully planned and envisioned is unacceptable given her definition of what a wedding is about? I had to sit on my hands to keep from typing back "Well that's very interesting that for YOU a wedding is about celebrating, but for us I kind of think it's about swearing a sacred vow before God and our loved ones to stay by each other for the rest of our lives." (Did I mention my parents are footing the entire bill for the wedding?)
She apologized to FI later that week, so it all worked out, and again I have to confirm that she's normally the best FMIL a bride could ask for, but I had to share that jaw-dropping moment! I'm sure I'll be a rude idiot a few times before the whole thing is said and done too, so we live, we learn.
@LittelistBird I feel ya... FMIL isn't contributing yet when we told her we'd be getting married in March 2010 she said NOOOO you should have a fall wedding (meaning fall 2009- this is after we told her we'd need the time to save up, and Christmas bonuses / tax returns!)
@danielle...oh wow...slitting throats?...murder over talking about your own wedding??
@brianalara...that is so crazy...especially since I thought linen was the fabric of choice for men and outdoor weddings..
people are crazy....LOL
I had no idea Destination Weddings were called not "real." I thought that was just my own problem with City Hall weddings... lord. Why can't people understand a wedding is a real wedding regardless of location, guest list, and decoration??? Two people get married = wedding.
Harumph. Now I'm grumpy on behalf of all the destination brides.
These are absolutely great! Sometimes it helps to just get them out there. I can't believe the gall of some people!
Early on in our engagement (about 15 months before our wedding date) my FMIL threw a small dinner for her relatives (no special reason, just wanted to have everyone over for dinner). Well, my FI's aunt, a very lovely lady who i like a great deal, pulled me aside and informed me that I ought to get pregnant NOW, because our engagement was so long i'd have plenty of time to be pregnant, have the baby, and still buy a dress! OMG! What is More jaw-dropping is that she follwed this statement with a wink and leaning in she said I should just stop my BC, not tell my FI, and let him think i got pregnant by accident! I was so blown away by this statement that I just walked away. What do you even say to something like that?!
A relative of FI's said we were spoiled for having the wedding in a historic mansion rather than a hotel. Bitter much? The mansion was not any more expensive than a hotel would have been, btw.
On a venue visit, the manager at a venue said that we needed to "figure out if we want a real wedding party or not" when we mentioned a Sunday afternoon reception. Apparently Sunday afternoon receptions are not real wedding parties.
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