(Closed) They want us to get married in 8 days? LONG VENT.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MattysBeeBee:  Wow. So much stress, I am sorry to hear you are struggling with all of this.

First.. where are you having it outside? If it is public you may not be able to have candles.

Second.. are you SURE this is what you want? I completely understand stress of families, but will this be something you hold a grudge for as it is not “your wedding”? Perhaps, you and he need to stand up and just say “no” to their idea and do what you BOTH want. It sounds more as if both of your families are bullying you around…. do you really think they will not come to a wedding in Georgia?

 

Post # 4
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1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It doesn’t sound like this is what you or FI want. I would advise that you shouldn’t let yourself get pushed into this. Don’t get married right now, take a step back, give some time or your families to settle down and then plan the wedding. Or just run off and elope! At least you can tell everyone that you just couldn’t get the legal stuff sorted in time. 

 

 

Post # 5
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3594 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

First of all…that really sucks! Your wedding day should be about what you and your FI want, not what everyone else wants!  Secondly, it sounds like you FMIL is being resentful towards you for “taking her son away.”  I think your FI needs to have a heart-to-heart with his mom and tell her that he planned to move himself and that it’s not you that’s forcing him to move. I think she also owes you an apology, but that’s just my opinion! 

Anyway, to answer your question…could you use tiki torches??  I wouldn’t put any citronella candles on tables for centerpieces as it is unhealthy for people to sit in that close of a proximity to them.  You could also see if whoever is in charge of the park upkeep could go out there and spray the area before the wedding.

Post # 6
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1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MattysBeeBee:  I couldn’t read your whole post but I think I got the gist. My opinion/suggestion… just elope in Savannah. It’s a beautiful and romantic city and I think you will be happy to have a day just about the two of you. I don’t think your family can be pleased

Post # 8
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3594 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MattysBeeBee:  You’re welcome! I hope everything works out how you and your FI want! I couldn’t imagine my FMIL saying something so rude to me that it made me cry.  Maybe eventually she’ll realize that she’s at fault and just pushed your FI away from them.  It sounds like he really wants to move to get away from all this drama, and if FMIL keeps this up, FI will end up being bitter towards his family.  

Post # 9
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612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You don’t HAVE to do anything. If they are hell bent on being at your wedding, then they need to plan on attending the original one that you had planned and were PAYING for. 

 

But actually, I would totally elope. In secret, like tomorrow.

 

Post # 10
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7168 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Elope.

Post # 12
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208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I saw your update and if you’re happy with that plan (and wont resent it) then best of luck!  And I have to say, I think moving 1000 miles away is the smartest decision ever 😉  

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