Post # 1
don’t know if this should go in FAMILY or in ETIQUETTE…
so my husband’s nephew – who’s really the biggest issue with the NO KIDS rule at our wedding – his nephew is 23 and he’s an usher IN our wedding – and we’ve kindly told them we are having an adults only – no children ceremony/reception…
so i get back the rsvp from them today and it says “mr. and mrs. nephew AND KIDS” right there on the rsvp.
c’mon – really? how mature is this? my husband will be having a face to face (again) with his nephew (who, btw, he’s pretty close with). as I have a feeling it was mrs. nephew who wrote the rsvp back – but either way c’mon.
Post # 3
haha that is RIDICULOUS! In that situation I would have to laugh for fear of crying from frustration!!
Post # 4
Gahhhh! This really annoys me! Seeiing as this nephew is in the wedding as an usher, he HAS to know the no-kids policy. Whether his family likes it or not, that’s the policy, and it’s silly of them to just write in “and kids.” Like writing that in is suddenly going to change your mind or something. When really, it just adds more awkwardness about the whole thing.
I’m sorry 🙁
Post # 5
LOL I thought at first you were saying your nephew was one of the “kids” in question and I got confused. I was thinking “well, 23 is YOUNG, but a “kid”…” I’m an idiot. Yeah, your Fiance needs to have a(nother) chat with him. If he’s difficult have your Fiance tell him that if he doesn’t shut up the cut off age for children will be moved to 24 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Ahh! That’s so frustrating! 🙁
Post # 7
Uck. Completely tacky and uncalled-for.
Post # 8
Oh my god I would have probably laughed/fumed at the same time—some people are so ridiculous and rude.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry. This is one of my biggest fears with all of wedding planning. We have family that are socially awkward and wouldn’t have a problem doing what happened to you!
Post # 10
Ugh!! Why can’t people understand that not everyone wants to have loud children around them. I am having an adult only wedding also. My Future Mother-In-Law mentioned that people might not come if we wrote that on the invite. My answer was simple: our guests have had 8 mos+ of notice that there are no kids allowed. If they haven’t found a sitter in that time, well then I guess our wedding isn’t important to them and they can stay home. That may sound rude, but I think its more rude to insist on bringing your children. I hope this works out for you.
Post # 11
i know there’s no debate with him about his nephew coming – he absolutely WANTS his nephew there – even though part of me’d love to say “fine – they wanna bring their kids and we don’t want them here then fine – they don’t need to come either”. but that’s out of the question.
it’s just very frustrating because we told them STRAIGHT UP “no kids”.
Post # 12
I am sorry, that is awful!
The only person under 21 that will be invited to our wedding is our flower girl. I am having nightmares that one of our less tactful guests will do the same thing to us, or worse – show up with their kids in tow!
Post # 13
Wow, how many kids do they have? That is very annoying! And I can’t believe you have already mailed your invitations, I feel so behind!!
Post # 14
I would put a big, black “X” through the “and kids” and mail the RSVP card back to them. Perhaps there’s a reason my immediate family is somewhat estranged from most of the relatives…
Post # 15
they only have 2 – a 2 year old and a 5 year old – but c’mon – we want the parents (nephew/wife) to come and have a good time and be ADULTS not PARENTS at the wedding. we are having a lot of alcohol and just do. not. want. kids. at the wedding. period. :p
Post # 16
Maybe you could just make this one exception since he is a close family member? I usually tend to let people win fights like this in order to keep the peace. The cuteness will outweigh all potential annoyances.