(Closed) They're my pictures, damnit… (vent)

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just do a bunch of different shots. Just sister, sisters and husband, sisters and dates.  You can print a few small ones with the boyfriends in it to give to your sisters, and use the ones you like for your album and picture frames.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

So My Brother and his long-time girl friend are quite a bit on again-off again.  So, for all the pictures of my extended family, I took one with her and one with out her.  She was cool about it, and it took all of an additional 30 seconds to throw her in, and then kick her out of my family formals

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it’s YOUR pictures and if you don’t want every random flavor of the month in your pictures then that’s your choice, pooh on them it’s YOUR day!!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I really don’t think it matters?

DH’s brothers girlfriend was in all our family shots.. they broke up shortly after and it doesn’t change how we feel about our pictures, nor has anyone suggested we throw them away because she is in them.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would do lots of different shots. Just humour them and let their SO’s be in a couple of shots, but then say you’d like some without them too. Talk to your photographer and explain you want them photoshopped out as well, so he/she makes sure it can be done.

Post # 9
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Yeah do multiple shots. Take one with them in it, then another without. Problem solved.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have this problem with my brother, he and his (ex at the moment I think) girlfriend are very on and off, I have trouble keeping up with what’s going on between those two. They have three kids though so I guess if they are together at the time of the wedding then she will be in the pics and if not, I don’t imagine she will even be at the wedding.

My sister and her husband look like they are heading for divorce (they are really just in a marriage-of-convenience at the moment) but, if they are still together at the wedding he will be in the pics.

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. You could always do what PPs have suggested and get some pics with them and some without.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Tell the photographer to instruct the shots 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey bee

@Nic01:  I like that idea! Tell the photographer that you want a shot of just your family and your sister’s husband. He/she can make it happen and it won’t look like something you did. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Yeah, but if you’re allowing them to be in some/lots of photos then your sisters may not think anything of it?

I agree with getting the photographer to tell them to get out. We once had a family portrait done and my FBIL and I were asked to get out of the photo, we weren’t engaged or married to the family at that point so there was no issue (except that the photographer was rude to both of us about it). Even though they are engaged, they’re NOT married so technically not family. They’ll still be in some pictures, but a family one without them should not be a big deal. Write a list of all the shots you want and give it to your photographer. Even if you need to tell them you want a photo of just the married people, who the hell are they to complain? I’d have no issue telling my sisters that their bf’s are not in my photos. Then again, my sisters don’t sound as ‘hurricane’-ish as yours lol.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Take some pictures with some and some pictures without. Just don’t be like my FSIL who didn’t include me in the photos at all even though I am engaged (and will be married to her brother by the end of this year) at her wedding two months ago.

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