Thick wedding band in leiu of a traditional engagement ring-Thoughts?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Just my favorite type of question, and Welcome!

If you love your intended, and your intended loves you, and if “The Question” has been asked, and you’ve responded “Yes”, and you’ve found a beautiful band ring covered with small diamonds, and you both love it and agree that it confirms and declares what you mean to one another——–It’s an ENGAGEMENT RING!!!!!!!

May your Union be richly Blessed!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan

Go for what you love. Who cares what everyone else thinks? Any band on your left hand’s ring finger is interpreted the same way, so go for it 🙂 

One of my good friends had something like what you describe. A band, with a bunch of small diamonds in 2 rows on the top. She LOVES it and rocks it every day. My ring is also not “traditional”–I wanted a saphire and not a diamond since I love colors, so I rock a blue stone on my left hand.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  Emm85.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I love this look, I say if you and your future husband both like it, do it!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I did something similar. My “wedding ring” is actually an engagement-style ring and I wear it alone. It’s wide enough that no one really questions my marital status and it is more comfortable than wearing two separate rings on one finger, which is how my wedding set was before the switch to a single ring. 

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

I say go for it.  I have a fairly thick eternity band that I often wear in lieu of my e-ring/WB because it is more practical.  You could also do a stack of thinner bands and add to it for special occasions.  Wedding sets are so individual…get what you love!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

lg1028:  I like that idea quite a lot, and a while back I was actually thinking of wearing something like that. Go for it!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

I actually wanted to get a band as my engagement ring. I dont wear much jewellery and i never really loved the look of a traditional solitaire. My boyfriend wasnt keen though and we have ended up getting a three stone low profile ring with sidestones. Still has a bit of a look of a band but a bit more ‘traditional’ and i love it. Go for whatever you love, youre going to be wearing it everyday 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

Later on in life, I could see myself forgoing the e-ring and just wearing the wedding band. If you were currently engaged, people might get confused when they just see the wedding band, but you can explain it and they’ll get over it. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

There is no real right or wrong … esp these days when gals have more say in their rings. Do what makes u happy and feels most “right” to u! Any pics of this band? We’d love to see! I particularly love intricate wedding bands 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee

One of my close friends did that, just had one ring. It’s thick, has 4 rows of baguette diamonds, and looks beautiful.  She’s very well off and could have afforded a massive solitaire but chose this as it’s what suited her and her lifestyle.  I don’t think we should be dictated to about what’s “normal” – you are the one wearing it, so get what you want and what you’ll love and be practical about wearing.  I don’t plan to wear a wedding ring after we’re married as my e-ring is a split shank with the bands very wide. I’ll have a wedding ring to exchange on the day but will only be wearing my e-ring after that.  I say go for it!  

Alternately, perhaps you could choose something very low profile, like this:

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I’ve got a friend who did that, it looks so beautiful and simple, and perfectly suits her and her DH.

My ring is also not a typical ‘engagement’ ring – it’s a sort of cluster/dress ring but I LOVE it, it suits me perfectly and symbolises something really special. So don’t listen to what the jewlery industry tells you, go with what you want!!!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I decided to go with just a wedding band, and like you, it just felt more my style.  None of my friends seemed to think it was weird – maybe they they were just afraid to tell me!  Even though I knew I wanted more of a wedding band style, it was harder than I thought to find options that weren’t just plain or channel-set diamond bands (I’m from a pretty small city).  I ended up ordering the garland wedding band from Blue Nile and loved it!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

I wouldn’t think it’s weird at all. Wear whatever will make you happiest when you look down at it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

My engagement ring is a band style ring.  If you typically worry about everyone else’s thoughts, it’s probably not a good choice though.  

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