Post # 1
A friend of mine asked me to try on a pair of bikini bottoms over my pants so s he could gauge whether they’d fit her daughter or not. They were a little big on me but she said that’s fine since her 14 year old is curvier than I am. Then she said, “You have no curves. Right [other friend that was with us]? She has no butt.”
Um, ouch. I know I’m petite, but I do have curves thankyouverymuch! I actually defended myself and playfully said, “Hey! I have a butt!” Then she said, “No, not really…”
I actually get comments on my figure/weight all the time. Women seem to think it’s ok to say a woman is too thin or not curvy enough, like it’s ok since you’re not saying she’s too fat. It isn’t ok! It is not ok to call someone fat, thin, inbetween etc. NOT COOL. My friends comment on my size all the time. They’re giving me a damn complex!
I don’t have any pics that show my butt, but you can kind of tell I have a butt in this pic. Not big, but not flat or “no butt” either!
And I’m a C cup. Doesn’t that count as “curves”?
Post # 3
One of my (male) co workers said I should gain about 10 pounds today. He said it willale my boobs bigger, “cause that’s how it works, right?” Too bad the same cant be said for men’s fun parts. Hey, they gain 10 pounds of muscle, and it grows? I bet they have more incentive to hit the gym, huh?
Post # 4
Yes I do. I have been called “chicken legs” as a kid and got that joke about my chest being as flat as my back. As I got older, it did not get as bad. I would have people make comments on how I should sit in the middle seat because I am “so skinny” and stuff like that, it gave me the mental image of me being a twig. Thankfully with pregnancy I gained a full cup so thats not an issue anymore, but before I was very insecure about breast size.
To answer your poll question: I don’t really know how to answer that. I think it just depends on the person. If you feel offended then its bad no matter your size. People do tend to be more “mean” when it comes to heavier people though.
Post # 5
@BlondeBee: Lol! If only. Men actually lose penis length as they gain weight. The fat builds up around the base and their penises lose length that way. If they lose weight, more of their penis is revealed. Supposedly they reveal an inch for every 30 lbs they lose (unless they had a tiny peter to start with, lol).
@Cady: From my experience, it is way more common for women to comment on a woman’s weight if she’s thin. I have received SO SO SO many comments! It is ridiculous.
Post # 6
@bunnyharriet: It is easier to tell a woman that she is so skinny rather then telling a woman she is fat, know what I mean? Like, yeah it might be more common to get comments about your thinness, but when people make remarks about how heavy someone is…it is usually behind their back and its very nasty.
It is because being heavy is usually associated with being lazy, disgusting, and unhealthy…(which is really not always the case).
I don’t know if that makes any sense? Someone might be able to explain that better then me.
Post # 7
I was really skinny in high school, and one time a random woman came up to me in front of a group of people and told be to “stop being anorexic, EAT something.” It was shockingly rude, and somewhat embarrasing, but it didn’t really hurt my self-esteem, nor did lesser comments about my thinness.
But, when I went through a heavy phase, ANY unsolicited comment on my weight hurt my feelings a LOT. And I’m naturally lanky, so I’ve been called “too skinny” 10 times to every “fat” comment. The 1 fat comment hurt me MORE than the 10 skinny comments.
I’d say “fat comments” are much worse than “skinny comments,” although skinny comments are rude. It’s because skinny is “in”, skinny is the celebrities… no matter what mean comment they make about you being underweight, at least 3 “Hollywood Babes” would have gotten the same comments. And you know that. Some people say “you can never be too thin.” (It’s not true, but many people believe it). There’s such a thing as “Thinspiration,” and most adolescent girls know about it.
There is no equivalent “You can never be too fat,” or “Fatspiration”. The stereotype is that “fat people are lazy slobs” (just terrible people). The stereotype for skinny people is that they’re “self-disciplined overacheivers who went too far” (great attributes if only they wouldn’t get so carried away).
I don’t know. I’m also not very into the concepts of “reverse sexism” or “reverse racism.” The privileged class is privileged. It doesn’t mean it’s ok to mistreat them/us but overall, no, people just don’t suffer as much in the privileged class as they do in the “other” class(es), even if the insult is phrased exactly the same. Social context matters.
Post # 8
I just wish people would stop commenting on other people’s weight when unsolicited. You don’t know if that person has self-esteem issues or has/had an eating disorder. And it’s unnecessary and rude.
Post # 9
I get comments on my weight all the time. I’m really thin. People have asked me if they can pick me up when they meet me. My favorite was when someone asked me how many times a day I poop to maintain my weight. Really?
I think any comments on weight are rude. I feel really badly about how I look to be honest, I feel like a twig. When someone makes a comment about it, it makes me really upset. It doesn’t hurt any less because I’m thin, rather than overweight.
Post # 10
I’ve gotten it since I was a kid. This new wave of thin bashing is especially hard. I’m an over eater because of it, and even though I have no control over my weight, it makes me feel ugly. I am a real woman, and I think people have given the word curvy a very different definition.
Post # 11
@Cady: Being thin is associated with obsessiveness, anorexia, and bulimia.
Post # 12
Wow. That was rude. Especially to say it in front of another person. Could it be jealousy? Or does she usually put people down?
Post # 13
When I went dress shopping for my wedding gown the first thing the consultant said to me was “your pretty straight with no curves”. I hadn’t even even taken off my bulky sweater yet. Actually I am pretty curvy, 34b -26″ waist 37.5″ hips (my bootie makes most of those ‘hip inches). I’m pretty sure I am far from “straighstock stick figures, thank you very much!
srsly though- it took me 3 months to get over the comment and was super self consious about it. Like, people see something completely different than I do?? My friend had to reassure me it was a silly comment on the consultents behalf and that I didn’t need to worry cause it wasn’t true
Post # 14
Argh, I get it ALL the time. I weigh like 100 pounds and am 5’6, so I really am fairly thin but I eat like a horse! People assume I’m starving or something, but I eat a LOT. I feel like people think it’s a compliment to say ‘OMIGOD! YOU’RE SO SKINNY!’ but an insult to say someone is fat. I also have a C cup, which IS curvy imo.
I have family, friends, people at work telling me i’m too skinny. I have people poke and prod and grab my wrists to point out how thin I am (like I didn’t already know that).
I think on the day of our e-party I had 5+ comments on how I’m ‘just SO skinny!’ and how I must not be eating.
I do love my body and i’m really thankful I can eat whatever I like, but yeah it can be a bit irritating to have so many comments in such a short period of time, or to have people grabbing at certain areas to say how small they are. In highschool I’m pretty certain there were rumours going around that I was anorexic or bulimic, which really got to me back then because I had anxiety and EVERYONE needed to like me or it was the end of the world (for the most part people did like me and were kind, but there were one or two people who were just a-holes).
What REALLY irritates me are the facebook pages like ‘curves are best, only a dog wants a bone’. Yeah, seriously, let’s just perpetuate the cycle of body image issues but this time we’ll make skinny girls feel bad about themselves! It shits me, it’s like they THINK they’re trying to give women confidence, but we come in all shapes and sizes so why not just stop putting so much emphasis on body image?! Also, the people who run that page would probably be super offended by a page titled ‘fat people are gross, skinny girls FTW!’ Drives me crazy!
Also interesting that the polls results are ‘Oh poor skinny girls! Shut up!’ on 28% but the ‘Oh poor fat girls! Shut up!’ option has gotten 0 votes. People who voted that way- you piss me off and are just as much a problem as people who go around fat bashing.
Post # 15
And to take it a step further – thin girls are just as self concious of their bodies as the next woman and its really unjust for people to disqualify their insecurities just because they are thin
Post # 16
It’s just generally rude to criticize someone’s weight, unless you are having a genuine intervention.
I used to get slack for my thinness all the time- my mother actually told me that I wouldn’t be able to catch a man unless I gained weight (nevermind that my SO likes my petiteness)!
I’ve never had eating issues and my athleticism has been inconsistent over time- I just am what I am. What am I supposed to say?