Post # 1
People who didn’t RSVP are apparently coming (I’m having a super small wedding, so one person can mess up the count 🙁 )
My FI’s dad who doesn’t get along with FI’s mom is staying in the same hotel… (small town, small hotel) Also, my Fiance didn’t even expect his dad to come, so we didn’t include him on anything. Of course, he was the first to RSVP.
We are having 2-3 overnight guests the night before and after the wedding
All of his family is expecting us to spend time with them, and these are people that haven’t bothered to come see us or call in like 3 years
My future step-son is resenting me because he thought his dad was going to live with him and now he thinks I’m the reason he won’t. He’s six so it’s sad 🙁
Ughhh! I just want to hide until this is all over. I expect this is going to be a day full of awkwardness.
Post # 3
@Hbomb84: I am sorry you’re feeling stressed out! Keep in mind, many brides have had to deal with awkward family situations at their weddings! You are not alone! For example, my soon-to-be father-in-law absolutely DESPISES his ex wife (as does his entire family) and almost wasn’t going to go to our wedding! I think they are staying in the same hotel too (without realizing it themselves) and I am not going to mention it to them. I figured I would let that one unfold itself…
I am sorry about the situation with your soon-to-be stepson. Perhaps ask your fiance to spend a day with him before the wedding. They can go to the zoo, or watch a movie or something and he can explain to him why he cannot live with him. Or if your fiance doesn’t have time or cannot for some reason perhaps try to include your soon-to-be stepson in the wedding in way that shows how important he is. Whether that be during the ceremony, or maybe in a speech, or having a special dance with him… something that shows that you care about him and he’s a significant part in both his father’s and your life.
Good luck with everything! Congratulations on your wedding! 🙂
Post # 4
keep calm and breath!all this will pass…u will have a wonderful wedding, and everything will sort itself out…
Post # 5
Put your foot down on the overnight guests not staying with you. It’s really NOT going to be ok that they are there. You guys will be stressed, and you deserve privacy and space!
Post # 6
So sorry you have to deal with this. 🙁
Strength and good thoughts your way! I can empathize, have had similar unpleasant wedding planning “wakeups” this evening, and I’m two weeks away from leaving for our destination wedding.
No matter what, I’m sure nothing will be able to take away from the happiness you and your fiance share when you say your “I do’s”!
Post # 7
Awww thanks! Your kind words are really helpful! I know I just need to focus on what the wedding means, and not all of the surrounding mess 🙂
Post # 8
I think everyone has these dilemmas/problems/issues to some extent or another. I know I do and they are to a pretty annoying extent!!!
BUT, I decided very early on that for one day, NO ONE or NO ONE THING will take my focus off of the happiest day of my life…….and this is typically not how I react to things, but I know there will be so much stress and other upredictable things that I will need to turn my attention to and I don’t want to be at the end of my rope at any point during the day…..
Relax, enjoy. This day only happens once. Take it all in and smile!!! 🙂