- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
I have been married a month and I swear its been the happiest time of my life. Our children are happy, our families are happy. It wasnt the wedding I paid for, because he is about to deploy and our big wedding had to be cancelled. However there are lessons learned. I thought I would share mine with you all. I hope its okay.
No wedding is perfect. Something is bound to go wrong. Heck even with our improvised wedding with just our children and parents and two good friends, I was still annoyed that my lovely little step daughter was banging her foot on the chair. LOL…kid thing you know…but I wouldnt have changed it because I was about to cry and ruin my make up and instead I told the minister to hold on a second and turned around and told her to stop, It was a moment of comic relief when she said…well hurry up my tights are making my legs itchy.
Photographs, I can tell you half of them didnt turn out right because everyone was moving around, kids were hugging everyone and the parents where just so excited they couldnt stop hugging us. I wouldnt change it because in the end, there were alot of photos of everyone hugging and that was more important that a photo of what my dress looked like.
No bridesmaids rocked…our kids stood and gave us both away. My kids gave me away and his kids gave him away and my Mother-In-Law let them light the unity candle as their symbol for being siblings for now and always.
Number of guest. I thought I would be sad that I was giving up my 40 odd guest wedding for 12 people. I barely noticed because I was so happy about becoming Mr. Texas wife.
I have never been so glad to get out of my wedding dress. Im just as girly and dressy as the next person, but after all the stress out leading up to the ceremony and then the ceremony itself, I didnt even want to stay in the dress for the small reception our parents threw for our family and few friends. However I bore it with great pride and let everyone take pics and then off it came before we left on our honeymoon.
Looking back, I wouldnt have changed anything. The most important lesson of all is that at the end of the day your married to your best friend, your soul mate and the person that you will hopefully be sharing rockers with when your 90.
Even the small wedding stressed me out, but I dont remember it now. I just remember thinking, Im his wife now and I hope I can live up to my part in our lives.
You can argue about budget and flowers, about wants and needs and everything under the sun, but always remember that the most important thing isnt the dress, the flowers, or how many people show up or what kind of food your serving, its this…If your lucky enough to find someone like I did, all of that pales in comparison when you lay your head down at night and close your eyes beside the person who has vowed to spend their days making you as happy as you make them.