Post # 1
thought i would share!
1) it is SO FUN
2) People will make assumptions, so if your budget is firm, SPEAK UP. I had a $3K budget that I had no problem staying under. At one store, the sales consultant was asking about where we were from, etc. and my mom mentioned the name of the affluent town we grew up in. My parents are paying for 1/2 the wedding only and so that $3K is coming out of my pocket. I found out after getting dressed that only 2 of the 9 dresses were under budget. Most were in the $5-6K range. She assumed our budget was soft because of where we were from. I specifically said i wanted to stay under $3K when i walked in.
3) There is mostly ALWAYS wiggle room. At every store i went to i heard “and if you buy today you get this, that, and that” Stores want you to commit right away. I was told at the store that has my dress i would get 15% off if i bought that day. I didn’t, but emailed after my 3 other appointments 3 days later and asked if they would honor the 15% still. She said of course. Always ALWAYS ask.
4) Pay attention to the service. At my second appointment we were 10 minutes early and they told us “oh well we are 10 minutes behind schedule so why dont you run up the street and grab a cup of coffee.” They had a waiting area! It felt very dismissive for our first impression of the place.
At my third appointment the woman was just not warm and fuzzy at all. She was a manager filling in for a consultant and acted like she was too good to be on the floor. I felt uncomfortable. The place where I am getting my dress had the best service at of them all…i felt relaxed and beautiful and I am so happy to be giving them the business.
5) Enjoy every second…it goes by too fast. I really had a blast.
Not sure if reading this will help anyone, but thought i’d share!
Post # 3
@capebride924: I went dress shopping for the first time this weekend too.
I actually didn’t run into the budget issue. The consultant did come into the room with a dress that was over budget, but she TOLD us first and said, “Do you still want to try it on?”
I agree about asking for discounts/wiggle room. I was told if I opened a store credit card I’d get 10% off all purchases that day, we were not going to buy the dress that day (won’t but until end of November) but we asked if we could use the 10% on the dress then and they said yes. So I opened the card, got 10% off my shoes and a coat on another floor and will get 10% off the dress if I do buy it there.
I also agree it is SO fun and goes by SO fast. I was very worried about fitting into samples because I’m a street size 14 or so. I was able to get all but 2 samples on (out or 30+ dresses I tried) and some were even too big!
The one thing I would say is be prepared that many places do not allow pictures. That was the most discouraging part. But it just means I have to make appointments to go back and visit my top choices again.
Post # 4
I had some dresses shown to me that were over budget as well, but like Plantains my consultant told me that before so I could decide whether to try it on (I refused them all).
One thing I wasn’t prepared for was that not everyone really cared about how special your appointment is to you–I went to a shop that really made me feel like I was just a number to them and they treated me pretty horribly. But thankfully I bought my dress from an awesome shop!
Post # 5
@KatNYC2011: I also went shopping this weekend. If you don’t mind, where did you go? I thought most places wouldn’t but Pronovias let me and so did POB and one other store I went to. I also went to the Brides Against Cancer sample sale and they let me take pictures. POB didn’t like it but I lied and said my mum was paying for the dress and she wants to see me in it…sorry. They let me take pictures of my top contenders!
Post # 6
@capebride924: I also grew up in an affluent town, and I get those comments, too. Very frustrating:)
Sounds like you had a successful time…did you shop in Boston or on the Cape?
Post # 7
I didn’t run into the budget issue too much at the places I went to. The first two stores I went to mostly had you pulling gowns you wanted (the first gave you 5 tags to put on dresses you wanted pulled, the second just had you grab them off the rack yourself) so I was able to glance at the price before I chose to try it on.
The third store I went to was David’s Bridal. My max. budget was $1500, so not really a problem there.
The fourth store the consultant knew my budget, and she had me pull 3 dresses and then she pulled 3 initially, then she continued to pull more as the appointment went on. All were at or under my budget. I initially found my dress there (didn’t buy b/c it was out of state) and it was only $1070 there.
The final store I went to was a local store that carried “my” dress. It was $20 cheaper than the out of state store, so in the end I got the dress for $1150 b/c I ordered it in a custom length.
I think being VERY up front, checking the tags as you pull them/try them on, or just flat out asking what something costs before you get into it is the safest way to handle the issue. If you’re adamant, and keep refusing to try on over-budget dresses, the consultants will know to stop pulling them.
Post # 8
@bRooklynRocks: I went to RK bridal (they have signs posted that say no photos), Wedding Atelier, and Saks. I didn’t ask at Wedding Atelier or Saks and my mom was with me so I couldn’t use that line.
I’m going to Amsale this weekend with one of my bridesmaids, so maybe I can use that line there.
Post # 9
bpcmarj: I went to Allegria Bridal in Belmont, Country Weddings in Hingham, and Priscilla of Boston on Boylston Street in Boston. I had the best experience at Allegria. I am going back tomorrow night to try on the dress for measurements and a deposit! My wedding is on the cape, but i live in Boston so I wanted to shop at places closer to home. 🙂
Post # 10
@capebride924: My friends live right near Allegria and I never thought to look there…good to know that you had a good experience there, though!
Post # 11
@KatNyc – Please take pictures at Amsale, no matter what. I love Amsale. Sigh.
Post # 12
@Linz1231: Haha… I will try my best. Don’t want to get kicked out though!
Post # 13
@KatNYC2011: I went with one of my best friends to Amsale and we totally took pictures. We also took pictures at Kleinfelds. You should just take them when the sales lady is out of the room. I usually just call the place and ask outright before my scheduled appointment. And next time, if your mum is there, use the ‘grandma’ line 🙂 Funny enough, I’m going to Amsale on Friday!!
Post # 14
@bRooklynRocks: Did Amsale allow pictures? Or did you have to sneak them?
At all my appointments last weekend the consultant was never out of the room while I was in a dress. So there was no opportunity to “sneak” a picture.
Post # 15
@bRooklynRocks: how was your experience at POB? i was thinking of going there, as i love their dresses, but have read horrible things about their customer service so i’m scared.
ha, i tried the grandma line but it didn’t work! (my grandma happens to be mostly blind and there’s no way she’d be able to see a cell phone pic anyway)