- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
so i have been wanting to write this post for a while but just havent gotten up the nerve to put down on paper (on keyboard? on computer?) all the things i was unhappy with. to be clear, my wedding was awesome. best day of my life EVER. im SO happy to be married, but a couple things really just irked me. they especially irked me bc i honestly do not think i could have planned better or more carefully had i tried. so the only way i know to reconcile that irk, is by passing my tips on to you, the hive.
1. even if you think something is too small, too insignificant, too obvious a request to make, make it.
case in point: i didn’t think it was neccesary to tell our bartenders NOT to put out a tip jar as it was already px’d into our contract, oh but they did. after my dear sweet mother about had a heart attack. and after 100 people had waited in a LINE (yes, like in a cafeteria. i was actully impressed at how orderly my guests were) for drinks bc the bartenders “lost” the trays they were sposed to have for passed drinks. but no matter, they put it away quickly when my new hubby threatened to kick em in the teeth (well, threatened that *I* would kick em in the teeth). marriage was off to a good start. my own personal thug.
2. be aware of exactly what a “photojournalistic style” means.
it means a) not as many candid pictures of all your sorority sisters saying “cheese” and b) a lot of shots of people with their eyes closed or of their backs. i loved my photog and we got some really great shots, but going back to item #1, i didn’t think i had to mention that i *wanted* all those shots of my sorority sisters faces (not backs). i should have.
3. if your hairstylist shows up on the morning of your wedding and is frazzled bc he can’t pick up his sort-of but-not-really adoptive foster child that he fathered with his sort-of-but-not-really-ex-girl-friend due to their ongoing custody battle and has to leave your house after doing four girls’ hair to then come back to do yours an hour later, you should just do your hair yourself.
this may be somewhat event-specific, but i thought good advice nonetheless. it just never ocurred to me to do my hair myself (and im pretty good at hair) until it was waayyy too tragically late and we were late for the church. which brings me to #4.
4. they cant start without you! dont rush. even if you get 10 minutes off your careful, minute-by-minute 12-page itinerary (thanks for the template mrs. daffodil – got a lot of heat for that one, but no one was late or got lost!), they still cant start without you. they may fine you, but they cant start without you!
5. and this one is serious – if you’re having a lunch the day before or a big rehearsal dinner and you can swing it financially, get a photographer.
i found someone on craigslist who was just starting out. she didn’t cost much and we have HUNDREDS of non-photojournalistic style pics of those events. a great memory and totally worth every penny. ditto on videographer. wish i had a video.
6. remember that any music you select for the processional of the mothers, groomsmen, et al, you wont actually be able to hear.
im an idiot, didnt realize this and put my favorite song first. just friendly advice for other idiots.
ok. whew. feels so good to have that off my chest. if you’ve made it this far, i congratulate you and appreciate you taking the time to read my wedding dissertation. any questions, im happy to share 🙂