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I will not make you pay to get your hair and makeup done, when I know you can do it perfectly well yourself
I will not monopolize all of our conversations for the next year about MY wedding and continue to take an interest in YOUR life!
I will ask you about your life as it relates to you, not my wedding.
If I am the sort of person to require professional hair and makeup, I will pay for it because I am dictating it.
I will ask you about your dress budget before going dress shopping.
I will not try to give you an 'out'. Ever. I know how much that would hurt your feelings.
If you get pregnant, that's wonderful! I can't wait to meet the baby! That in no way, shape, or form, will effect my happiness during my wedding.
I will treat you first and foremost as a friend, and a bridesmaid second... because that's the order of importance to me.
I do not expect a bridal shower. I'd much rather have a girls' lunch or brunch and just hang out with my best friends.
It would be nice to have a bach party, however I DO NOT expect my best friends to go broke flying all of us to Las Vegas, paying for flights & food & entertainment. I can and intend to be perfectly entertained locally, and on the cheap!!
I will ask my FI to help with DIY projects, since this is his wedding too. If my bridesmaids want to help out, lovely. If not, well that's lovely too. SOme of my girlfriends don't have a crafty bone in their bodies. Please don't mess up my favors with your un-craftiness!
I promise to be a friend before a bride. I promise to treat you like a friend :)
I will not tell you to go tanning and that you should make the sacrifice even though you have a history of cancer in your family.
I won't tell you to grow your hair long or have it cut short. I won't tell you to cover your tattoos or alter your appearance for my wedding.
I will make sure your wallets and purses are locked up in a safe place so they aren't stolen during the ceremony (yes, this happened at the last wedding I was in).
yes, I love this, I feel I am better bride because I've been in several weddings.
1. I will understand that you have life, and some people don't like crafting and won't force you or get angry if you don't want to work on my diy projects with me.
2. If you aren't a wedding person, or have your own things going on I won't accuse you of being jealous of me.
3. I will not foce you to tone down or change who you are for my pictures, ie covering up your tattos with makeup, making people take peircings out, asking someone to dye their hair, tone down their makeup.
I love this thread!
I will not tell you "Don't worry, you're day will come!" 10 times over on my wedding day.
I will shower you with love and respect for accepting to be one of my bridesmaids!
I will not demand anything of you, in any way, shape or form.
I will not compare my wedding to your wedding.
I will get you a gift that you will appreciate and use; not a gift that will complete the look I want you to have for my wedding.
I will not force you into anything that would make you uncomfortable; whether that be a certain dress, shoes, or a dance with someone you barely know.
This thread makes me happy!
- I will not ask you to step down or give you an out because you don't ask about my wedding or go dress shopping or help me with DIY projects or you got pregnant.
- I will not get upset if you can't take off work to do wedding related activities.
- I will give you a plus one regardless of if you're dating anyone or whether or not I like your SO.
- If you get engaged - AWESOME! I won't think you are in competition with me and trying to steal my thunder.
- Your finances are none of my business. If you say you can't afford something then I believe that you can't afford it.
I will not make you buy a dress that you don't like or want because it fits my "vision" of my wedding day. My vision means you feeling happy, comfortable and pretty in whatever you're wearing, and that's more important to me than some color scheme that nobody cares about. Therefore, I'm just going to ask you to show up in any black knee-length dress of your choice.
I'm not going to make you wear a particular kind of shoes. I don't care whether you wear flats or stilettos, or whether you end up looking taller than me, because I know that nobody cares about your shoes, and people are going to be looking at me.
You do not have to throw me a shower.
I will organize my own bachelorette, because a) you've got more than enough going on in your life already and b) I like organizing parties.
I will not blame things on you which are out of your control. My inability to make a decision and dictate responsibilities is not your fault.
I will not force, ask, or mention weight loss, diet plans, or gym schedules with you.
If you want to wear sleeves, let's find some Kate Middleton ones asap.
Flats are totally acceptable.
You're a vegetarian/vegan/have food allergies? Then I'll find something substantial for you to eat, not just a plate of green beans (most likely cooked in butter).
You do not have to dance with that random guy you just met five minutes before the ceremony. In fact, if you dont want to lock arms with him, that's ok too.
I promise to not make you get to the venue at 8 am for a 6 pm wedding. and if i do, i promise to have something for you to eat and drink there :)
I will give you a heads up about the things I expect you to buy - shoes, dress, etc. I will not wait until it suits my last minute style to tell you what is required.
I will give you a heads up about the time commitment I expect of you.
I will not invite people to my engagement party that are not invited to my (large) wedding, so that the bridesmaids must field uncomfortable questions.
I will not plan to be almost late to my own shower.
I will not bug you about helping me with small tasks like addressing invitations because you are my friend and would do that anyway. If you can't handle that, let me know so I can get another BM!
I will not blame you for my thoughts of eloping and cancelling the wedding.
I will not talk badly about you to other brides.
I will not wish everyone to be included and then knowningly allow the other BMs to begin planning other parties.
I will not get mad at you if your life doesn't revolve around my wedding.
I will not begrudge you your non-wedding related expenditures. You should plan vacations, buy electronics, and save for a house, go shopping or clubbing. I have no right to judge that, and if you tell me that a party or shoe or hair do is too expensive, then it is too expensive.
1) I will not make you pay a fortune for your bridesmaid dresses.
2) I know that all dresses aren't flattering for everyone. I will try to pick one that makes everyone happy, but if it doesn't, I'm sorry, but it and move on.
3) I will not make everything about me and my wedding.
4) I will make sure that you are happy.
5) I will not make you buy random shoes that look the same, when you, in turn, will throw them away.
@Kewii: "I will get you a gift that you will appreciate and use; not a gift that will complete the look I want you to have for my wedding."
Love this!
Great list going on here ladies!!! Love all of it and thankfully, have been abiding by them too! Three cheers for ladies that learned their lessons in other weddings to make it easier for their bridesmaids!!!
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Lets make a list, I'll start:
1. I will take you to the department store to try on dresses that don't cost a fortune. If nothing works, then we'll head to a bridal shop.
2. I know we all have body issues somewhere and I will try to make you happy with the dress choice.
3. I will not make you all buy shoes you don't need.
4. I will ask if certain dates work for your schedule rather than pick and dictate.
5. I will not micromanage and criticize the shower/bachelorette you are throwing for me. It is a gift and you're not supposed to look a gift horse in the mouth.
6. I do not expect a shower at my bachelorette. I can handle my own unmentionables.
7. I will not argue with you about driving anywhere over 20 minutes away to get dress measurements if you can call them in.
9. I will not turn you into my personal party planner.
What else can we swear off?