Post # 1
I definitely have become a lot more sensitive to things now that I’m going through the wedding process! I’ve started a list of things I’m doing differently now that I’ve gone through this.
1) I am sending back RSVP cards right away. I admit…I wasn’t always as on top of this as I should be. I now realize how important this is. I am sorry to anyone that I stressed out!
2) Someone scheduling a wedding close to ours is not the end of the world. Once again…I hate to admit that at first, I was a little bummed that my cousin and his Fiance (who had gotten engaged after us) were getting married about two months before us. Yes, I do realize this is ridiculous. It was out of fear that people wouldn’t care about our wedding. I have learned the error of my ways on this one. We never turned it into a competition, and it was nice to have somebody to talk to during the planning who definitely understands my stress.
3) I cannot make everybody happy. This one definitely stung a little…okay, a lot. I’m still going through some of this (and trying very hard to ignore it), but I’ve had to realize that I may hurt feelings, and they will get over it. It is about my Fiance and I. This is one day where we can be somewhat selfish (to a degree…we still want to have friends and family that like us after the big day!).
Anybody else have any pearls of wisdom? I’m not completely finished yet…we still have less than 3 months before the big day, so I plan on referring to this when I am stressing!
Post # 3
@keepsmiling19: I totally agree with #1! I used to be ehh about sending RSVPs back in a timely manner, but wow the next time I get an invitation in the mail the RSVP is getting sent immediately!
Post # 4
Number 2 speaks to me. One of my best friends (and bridesmaids!) got engaged a few weeks after me and when we met up to talk about plans, it came out that she us getting married before me and that we had picked the exact same colors! I was bummed at first but now I have a ton of fun planning with her. It’s good to remember that your wedding will be special no matter how much is similar to someone else’s…you can share in each others joy 🙂
Post # 5
I give in to everyone and often don’t take my own opinion into consideration… Darn it
Post # 6
I have learned to focus on what we REALLY want and to screw the rest.
Post # 7
One thing I learned is that there are some aspects of the wedding I couldn’t care less about – like alcohol, since I don’t drink. I assumed Darling Husband would take care of it, since he definitely does. In the end it turned out I did have opinions about it – I wanted an open bar, but agreed to drink tickets since we had some pressure from guests who are in AA. I think the point is here to not ignore any areas which are important to your guests.
Another thing is that seating charts take a long time to work out. I finished ours the day before our wedding and it screwed up our last minute printing.
OUTSOURCE. Outsource, outsource, outsource. You should put some time and effort into figuring out who wants to offer help. I found the offers came pouring in the week before our wedding. I wish we had known earlier. One thing I could have done which I do regret not doing was to get more input from people about the kind of music that they would want to hear. Our guests were all over the map age-wise. I know there were other people more into music than I am who could have contributed. That said, I was glad that Darling Husband and I got plenty of what we had wanted and chosen before guests started messing around with the playlists.
Post # 8
This list is a great idea…it’s nice to have something written down to remind yourself of things. I definitely agree with #3. At first I was so into getting everyone’s opinions, and trying to alter things to make people happy. Well, with so many people saying different things (and different than what I/we really wanted), in the end it just stressed me out. So now I just talk with Mr. Mouse about it and we do what we want. 🙂
Also, I’ve wanted to do a ton of DIY projects. Some I’ll admit are kind of silly in the sense of what they are and how much time they’re taking (eventually I’ll be posting my wine cork place cards that are taking forever to make 360, with 3 different parts that need to be glued per each one), but it’s important to me. So, I’ve started everything SUPER early and am just trucking away as the weeks go by.
Post # 9
Stick to a budget no matter what.