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So I've been reading some funny posts about what our SO or FH didn't know about weddings. Please share your story!
One night we're watching Platnium Weddings on WE and the rehearsal dinner comes on. He says "Wait they have to rehearse the dinner too???" At first I thought he was joking...no he was serious.....
Hahaha!!!
My FI didn't know that the bride's parents paid for the wedding. He also didn't know that you couldn't see eachother the day of!
Mine was married briefly before and STILL doesn't know 'anything' about weddings. I sure hope when the day comes, he realizes how much work I really did put into everything and how wonderful it turned out.
What our response cards looked like.
I left our first RSVP out for him to open. He said, "It's addressed to you." I said, I know, but you can open it. He is confused and says, "Why?" And holds it like it's going to explode. I say, "Just open it!" So he does. He looks at it and says, "It's a card from Mr and Mrs Steve Whitney." OH MY GOD!!!
Yes dear, that's our first RSVP. "Oh, I like the envelope and this sticker label thing. It's very nice."
Um...you helped stack them..but ok. Oy!
My FI didn't know what cake toppers were. I was looking at some pictures online and the conversation essentially went like this:
"What are those??"
"They're cake toppers."
"What's a cake topper??"
"Uh...they go on top of cakes...."
"oh..."
My FI had NO IDEA what things cost! He thought we could get a photographer who was amazing for like $500.
My FI is totally blown away by the cost of things too. I think once I got him over the initial shock of the cost of renting a hall everything else was a little easier to accept.
LOL @leilafl, I think FI and I had EXACTLY the same conversation... then he followed it with, what do we need that for?
Why do we? Except that its cute and pretty! Is there another reasoning behind them?
That the wedding colours would affect what he chose to wear!
@effinjess: Yeah, FI actually reached a point where he thought $300 was a bargain fr something haha!
Add my FI to the list of men that have NO clue how much weddings cost. We're not even having an extravagant wedding by any means but at one point he was like ...
"Can't we just tell everyone to go to the park and just do it there?"
"Um... even if we DID do that, we'd have to reserve it, pay a fee, and rent chairs..."
"What the hell! WHY would we have to reserve a PARK? It's public property."
"That's exactly why. So we don't show up and find another 3 weddings at the park!"
*Sigh*
Ha. Mine still thinksa that a couple of our friends will be able to take good pictures. And I quote: "It won't look any different from a professional's pictures!"
1. The difference between white and ivory... (haha ok, that's not so bad but...you know)
2. "What do we need flowers for?"
3. My personal favorite: We were talking about photography and
FI says, "We HAVE TO HAVE a wedding video" (completely out of left field)
Me: "How come?"
FI: "Because what are we going to watch when we feel sad? Don't you see couples in the movies watching their wedding videos?"
Mr. Tough guy FI has a soft side :)
Why we cant hand out the invites! Is prob my fav of all the things he didnt get.
My FH has no idea what things cost, but in the opposite direction. When I first started looking at dresses, he was SHOCKED you could get a wedding dress for less than $5,000. He just assumed that's where the prices started and went up from there.
Definitely the money thing, he was shocked at how much everything cost (so was I, but we've done pretty well with the budget). Second, planning: he didn't understand that 9 months was a relatively short engagement, "we don't need to think about this stuff until a month before the wedding." His "put-it-off-until-a-month-before-the-wedding" list included: music, food, bar, attire, and flowers...um, sure but it helps to think about it sooner than one month out. Needless to say there was a lot of explaining on my part during those first weeks of being engaged.
Haha these are awesome! My fiance and I were late in starting our wedding plans (got engaged in November, but finally nailed down a date sometime in the spring). When we booked his church for the ceremony and mine for the reception he was like "Wow, baby, we are basically done!". Um, baby, I love you...but not qute.
@mishelleez: My Fiance still wants to do that even though I have explained the whole process to him. Finally I had to have my mom lay the smack down.
My fiance didn't know what a registry was too. I was like "are you serious?"
He doesnt understand how much everything costs or how strict reception places are.
His suggestion - "why can we lie to the reception hall and tell them we have a 200 guest list but invite 300 people"
My response - "tacky"...with the screw face on. SMH
We're sitting at a wedding during the ceremony and FI opens the program. He exclaims, out LOUD 'OH NO! WE HAVE TO DO ONE OF THESE! I FORGOT!' Baby, that's why I asked you for those readings about a month ago. It's all taken care of. *pets*
He doesn't realize half the things that have gone into the planning. I'm pretty sure he has no idea what I'm doing all day and why packages keep showing up at our house. LOL
my FI was checking out his little "everything a groom needs to know" book and is flabbergasted that it told him he must buy me a wedding gift...he replied that he was my gift and that the rings were his gift! since we are on a budget, we aren't going to do the gift thing, but at least i knew that most couples do...haha.
My DH had no idea that you needed time to plan a wedding... To this day I still don't know exactly how he thought things were supposed to happen, maybe he thought that when he would ask me to marry him, we'd have to do it right away or something. Not sure. But I did have to let him know that once we got engaged, I'd like to get about a year to plan everything without stress. After that we was like: let's get engaged now, then!
Oh boy! Funny stuff! My FI:
Thought $1,000 for a DJ who would be playing for 11 hours, extremely expensive.
Didn't understand the concept of Save the Dates. He asked "why don't we just email everyone?"
Was livid our caterer charged us $600 gratuity. Granted, he did call the caterer and discuss it, and he's now removed the gratuity! Embarassing, but hey, it saved us some cash.
Didn't want to pay for a limo. He was going to drive us all himself in his brother's mini van. Nice. I overuled him - we're getting a limo.
Decided 2 weeks before the wedding he wanted a band! Are you joking!
The list goes on . . . Hehehehe.
My FI thinks that you can plan a wedding in about a month. He was like oh good we have over a year so we wont have to plan or put any money into anything until next summer!!!!
These are all so funny to read...
Here's mine:
"I had no idea how much work was involved in planning a wedding" - I've got to give him props though he's been a huge help! :)
he thought a wedding cake was suppose to have our names on it (like a birthday cake) and that people were suppose to sing to us (like happy wedding instead of happy birthday) LOL.. seriously. not. making. this. up.
Mine was blown away with the cost of things too. He doesn't 'get' why we can't see each other the day of and when we registered for gifts, he thought we registered for all wedding gifts. He didn't get the connection to registry and shower.
Awww...aren't they just so cute?!?!?! Lol.
Mine didn't understand the etiquette in why we couldn't call people up 2-3 weeks before the RSVP deadline and ask if they were coming. I tried to explain to him it'd be like if you were given a work assignment and your boss asked you 2-3 weeks before it was due if it was done yet.
He still doesn't get it though ... but surprisingly, he has no slacker RSVPs ... they are all mine.
He also struggled with the whole you need to plan things months in advance. He thought it was just me being me (I am a plan aheader). I booked the church more than a year before our wedding date, and about 1.5 months before the ring was ready. I knew that if I waited, I would miss out on the church. Sure enough, by the middle of October the church didn't have any availability until November of this year.
He also didn't quite grasp thank you cards. He said he doesn't send formal thank you cards for christmas etc.
Fortunately, my BF seems to have his head pretty solidly on his shoulders. Granted, we haven't *really* started planning yet, but so far, he's been fairly on the ball. That being said, we started talking about costs last night. He has a massive family that's very important to him, so I think we're going to end up with a guest list of 300+ because he won't get married without them. He nearly crashed the car he was driving when he realized that a guest list like that plus the formality level we're both hoping for is going to put us well into the $35,000 range.
FI was tasked with music (his one wedding responsibility) so he came up with a list of songs for his groomsmen to enter the reception too. Each song personalized for the particular groomsmen. I asked him what about he BMs and he said that I would need to do those as he does not know them as well. He was totally caught off guard when I told him they walk in as pairs. He also though Wierd Al's "Eat It" would be a great cake cutting song!
Sometimes the cost of things suprises him and other times he is all for spending the money to do it right. I never understand his logic. Basically he feels like if we're allready spending $25k then what'S another $400 or $50 or whatever and that drives me insane!
me: do you care if i wear a veil?
him: do people still wear those?
Seriously? The list is HUGE.
Why we can't just send out evites?Him: "Phil Collen (Def Leppard guitarist) just got married and HE sent e-vites"
Why we can't just do this in our backyard? Me: "Where will 130 people sit? Where will they park?"
Why we need flowers? Him: "Nobody is going to look at those while they eat cake" (Cake is the MOST IMPORTANT thing)
Why we need ceremony music and reception music? Me: "So you just want the sound of people chewing?"
Why we need to know how many people are coming/why we need to plan anything! Him: "We'll just roll with it, if we don't have enough chairs some people will stand"
It makes my brain hurt. Mostly he doesn't understand that it stressed me out MORE not to have a plan than it does to have to worry about everything.
Plus they don't understand the cost of ANYTHING - but that also means they will haggle and get some bargins.
I already posted on this board, but I love it and I have a couple of new ones.
1. My FI doesn't get why we have to 'plan' the post-wedding brunch. "Can't it be casual and whoever wants to come can just show up?".
Sure sweetie, I'm sure the 50+ members of our families who you want to attend can just show up at any restaurant, and they'll have room for us.
2. He's also upset that I spend time organizing the wedding. "I just wish it could be so casual and low key, what happened to that?"
Well, if I want to *feel* casual and low key on the day of, I need to make sure that the DJ shows up, that we've organized transportation, that the MC knows when to announce things, etc.
@gill84: Mine's the same way about the low-key thing. I'm like "When we invited 145 people it became less low-key".
It'll still be pretty laid back but in order to have it look nice and make sure people know where to go some planning is involved. I guess our definition of low-key and theirs is different. They probably don't realize how much planning goes into something mellow.
My FI thought we could have a big wedding for $2,000. He was SHOCKED when I showed him all the price research I did. It's impossible for what we want LOL. I guess the sky's the limit when you don't know how much things cost. :P
The general manager at our venue (a man) didn't know what escort cards are. The event coordinator wasn't there so he had to walk us through and go over the contract. When I mentioned to my mom something about escort cards he replied "Whoa escort card? what kind of wedding are you having?" I snickered and nicely explained what they are . I still to this day wonder what he thought it was. His react made me kind of wonder if he thought it was inapropriate like a male/female escort thing. LOL
These are always so funny!
him - why do we need save the dates?
I explain..
him - can't we just send out the invites really early??
And while we were watching SYTTD, he asked if $5000 is what brides usually spend on wedding dresses, or more. I wish! :)
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