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I know I can't be the only one...what do you find on weddingbee that just bugs you???
For me, I can't stand when bees ask for advice and then argue with everyone who tries to be helpful and supportive. If you didn't want or don't like people's advice ignore it, don't tell them they're wrong especially when it counters your original post.
I just wish there was a button to delete your own posts... like when you try to upload something and it doesn't work so if you try again it is a double post! Just drives me crazy that i can't delete the one that didn't work!
I wish on the classifieds you could search for the most recent posts instead of when someone commented last.
I hate when i see something that I'd love then I click on it and see the seller posted 7 months ago... ugh!
I hate seeing posts with no replies. 
I think it's a me thing though, I hate for people to feel ignored.
And I agree on the advice thing. I just wrote some advice and I don't think she's going to like it.
And when the professional bees go on the defensive/crazy over a post. I understand you are in the wedding industry and have seen a lot, but please don't tell someone they would be a bad client and you wouldn't work with them either especially since you personally weren't involved in the situation and don't know the whole story. I've seen this a few times...
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@Miss CuppyCake: I agree! I also wouldn't mind it here on the regular boards, too. I don't really mind seeing endless "which dress should i choose" posts, but if it's 8 months old, I think they already made their choice.
I haven't been on the bee very long, so I hope it isn't a gaff to say this, but I really dislike it when vendors either post to advertise their services and/or when professionals post things like, "What all brides should know about hiring a photographer" or "What you should ask your cake baker."
I don't really know WHY it should bother me so much because who cares if I ignore them (which I do) and I suppose they're just trying to be helpful, but I really like posting here as a fellow bride/lady/guest/former BM whatever to give myself a break from being the client.
I find it irritating when people who respond make assumptions or try to read through the lines of the original post. It just makes the whole thread become a big distraction from what the OP is actually asking.
@divergirl: try not to be offended if someone doesnt like your advice... i dont think people do it purposely were clearly all different and sometimes just want a place to vent not necessarily advice... i definitely can fall into this category... i dont mean to offend someone..
i personally cant stand the personal attacks... if you dont like what i have to say move on...or find a polite way to say it... are we not all adults? plus we dont know anything but the limited information we post... no real reason to get fired up unless someone specifically call you out
I hate the "wet blanket society". The people that come through almost any type of post and say "Now ladies, little old women in the jungles of South America that have never touched a computer in their lives may stumble on this and find it offensive." You know what? I strive to avoid being rude, but maybe youre being overly sensitive? I'm a grown woman and you are not my mom, dont try and be her. The whole thing seems very elementary school "teacher, she's picking on me". It's annoying. If the only thing you have to contribute is to tell the people posting that they're being offensive (which 9 times out of 10, there is nothing offensive about it), DONT READ THE THREAD or pull up your big girl panties and get over it. You are not the political correctness police.
/RANT
That, and people that ask for advice and then get all huffy and offended when people give advice. If you can't take it, dont ask for it.
@zippylef: Hahahah!!! I've been really irritated with this lately, especially in that last recent thread that got PC-policed by the WBS. Barf!!
I'm not a huge poster, but I definitely read a TON of posts. The thing that is absolutely the most frustrating is when people are outright mean, and when someone says something back they become the big jerk all of a sudden. Blergh.
I read a post a couple months ago where a woman was clearly talking about another poster in such a rude and uncalled for way, was called out for it, and apologized in an offhand, condescending way. Then someone posted something afterwards about how rude her original statement was and a few bees ripped her a new one for it!! "She already apologized! Just drop it!" etc. It generally seems that the bees who have a high post count are the "cool kids in school" and can do no wrong.
Don't get me wrong, most bees are gracious and kind. I really do think that for the most part, WB is a nice environment with nice people.
But, there are a few who are on the boards more often bickering than planning their weddings, discussing relationships, offering advice. So annoying.
I couldn't agree with you more!
Seriously some people are just too sensitive or delicate or dramatic!
I think there should be a time limit for the classifieds section. If it hasn't sold in a certain amount of time it should be deleted and the seller should have the choice to relist it.
I agree with all the PPs...especially about posts being time sensitive instead of most commented on. I feel like it just makes more sense. I hate seeing a post from a year ago or even several months ago. Especially if its one asking for advice regarding a wedding that has, at this point, already passed. I also hate not being able to delete posts - at any time. Not just a post on someone else's page but a post that you created yourself! Seems silly that you have to contact an administrator any time you want something deleted!
I agree that one of the things that annoys me the most is when someone asks for opinions then gets upset with everyone/overly defensive and declares that they're leaving. If you don't like what everyone said, don't follow their advice, just know that you asked and you got honest opinions.
On a much smaller scale, it somewhat frustrates me when someone includes details in their original post and another person's only comments are to ask questions that were answered in the original post (I know in longer posts it's easy to miss something but in shorter posts where it's only a sentence or two is what I'm talking about).
When I first joined it really annoyed me when I would start a thread to ask a question specific to my situation and more 'senior' posters would immediately reply with links to other similar threads and say something like "This has already been discussed" instead of actually answering my question. I haven't seen this happen in a really long time, but every once in a while someone will do it.
It's like, I know that topics and discussions get repeated on this site, but no two situations are exactly the same and maybe with time answers change anyway.
I also dislike when people are overly sensitive and combative if someone disagrees. Sometimes I see posters forget basic manners and go totally balistic on someone who just says "I think the purple looks better than the pink" or something like that. I think people should strive to be more accepting of others opinions, even if it's the total opposite.
okay, this is really something pretty small/petty but it drives me insane. STOP APOLOGIZING FOR POSTING A LARGE PICTURE! Seriously! Every other picture says "sorry it's so huge, I can't resize it!" Listen up. We WANT the picture to be huge. Is it a close up of your ring? Great! We can see the detail! Is it your dress? Awesome! We can see all of it and see detail. This just drives me up a wall because I want to ask each person who says it, "What, do you think I want to see a thumbnail here?" I'm sure that the need to feel like we shouldn't post giant, flashy photos is some deep-seeded Puritan teaching but let's all accept the fact that we live in a world of 24 inch computer monitors and larger-than life pictures are totally fine. Cause honestly, if I can't see the details very well, I'm probably going to ask for additional pictures anyway!
Okay, I'm done.
@artichokey: LOL its true and I think I am guilty of this. I think I have said it because the picture is GIANT and I didnt realize until the picture actually posted. I wouldnt want it to be thumbnail size, but I also dont want it so big that it is chopped up into different parts. I am mostly on the bee at work and it is a smaller screen so if it is a large picture I might only be able to see the first 2/3 of it rather than the whole thing. But I know what you are saying!
@artichokey: ha, this just made me laugh out loud. i so agree!
i also find it annoying when people stumble upon a months-old thread and answer the OP's question like they might still be waiting for an answer. if someone asked which pair of shoes they should choose 6 months ago, it's probably a little late to be giving your feedback.
@moderndaisy: That's good to know. I always post links to previous threads so that people can get ideas that weren't mentioned in the thread that they have going. I was doing it to be helpful not meaning that they should do a search and not post their question.
For example, lately I've seen a bunch of posts from board bees wanting unique ideas for ring pillows. They get a few suggestions and then the thread starts dying... BUT, there are some older threads that are quite in depth about unique ring pillow ideas. In fact, there was one that someone linked for me that was before my time, but I ended up using as my inspiration.
1. Narrow-mindedness. Try and try as everyone may, there are just some people who (unfortunately) cannot and will not see beyond the norms of their own social groups, regional area, family tradition, etc. and realize the world is a big, wide place with a great number of ideas. We don't all "have" to do the same thing; and just because you are not familiar with a certain practice does not mean it's bad, wrong, "tacky", or poor etiquette.
2. Passive aggressively rude comments to questions: the classic - "No offense, but that's really "tacky"/ugly"... "Personally, I would never do it and think it's "tacky" but you can do what you want." Prefacing a rude comment with "no offense" doesn't make it less rude, and burying offensive comments into your "personal opinion" doesn't make it less insensitive.
3. THE WORD TACKY.
4. I agree with @Goodie - unfortunately, sometimes it seems the posters with a high count are "the cool kids in school" who can do no wrong. It's an online forum, people.
I don't like it when some bees post one word answers on almost every post. Maybe they really always have something to say, but it makes me feel like they are just trying to increase their status.
@Miss Bubbles: Ah! I agree- I hate the word "tacky." The word "tacky" is tacky. lol
Also, I really dislike the etiquette police. Seriously. Like if you choose to do something that goes against what etiquette says you should do, then you're a selfish freaking brat who only cares about yourself... except that's absolutely absurd. I have a mind that I am capable of using to make my OWN decisions instead of blindly following what etiquette dictates.
I wish we could delete posts. I have posted some stuff about family etc and in hindsight not the best idea...although they are anonomous it owuld be hard to find my name...my wedding pic (aka face) and connect it....
it keeps me up at night sometimes *laugh*
Posts about touchy subjects that after they blow WAY out of proportion the OP says something along the lines of "OMG, I didn't realize this would start such a controversy". Actually, unless you JUST started on the Bee, you should realize starting a thread about how you want a cash bar but your FMIL/FFIL says that is rude is going to start a huge discussion. Or how you're 16 and sick of people saying you're too young to get married. STOP STARTING THESE THREADS PEOPLE, THEY JUST END BADLY!
And trolls, lol, did anyone catch the post where a newbee went nutso on one of the hostesses and swore up a storm???
@MandaMack: No, I didn't see that post! That's crazy.
@JenniMichele: It got deleted pretty quickly. But seriously, I opened the post and the troll had gone psycho, used every inappropriate word you could think of, lol. I forget who the hostess was that they were telling off. It was a post dissing wedding wire I think.
@MandaMack: I totally agree about posts with touchy subjects. People get really surprised when others have things to say that they dont like especially regarding cash bars, etiquette when it comes to inviting guests, how young someone is, etc. If you have been around the hive then you know what will set people off - so why start?
i hate when vendors or whoever comment on your board saying "i have that dress for sale" or whatever but they only have one post and u know its a vendor. or when people ask about a site like bestbridalprices.com and all of a sudden you get posts from 25 new bees saying how great it is, when u know those are all employees making acctns to comment.
@PitBulLover: Like fine if you want to start the post, but don't do the following when the storm commences:
Either put your big girl panties on or have the thread closed, don't freak out on people for not agreeing with you.
@Mrs. DG: Responses like you are talking about are actually helpful, I just meant when people imply that your thread shouldn't be answered since there have been similar threads in the past. I don't mind links to other threads in general, esp when they have lots of pictures. I feel like that happened a lot when I first signed up and a lot of the people who used to do it are no longer around.
I also wish we had the power to delete posts or edit our own posts at any time!
@Tswife4ever: and then they freak out on you for accusing them of it!!!! I hate those too, and I just hope people don't fall for it!
Word on the giant picture thing! Half the time it's not even that big and I'm like "what are they talking about?"
I get annoyed when someone bumps a thread that's been dead and not posted on for like a year. Also bad grammar and internet lingo (LOL, ur, u, bcuz, LMAO). Just type it out.
I get a little annoyed when I feel like someone is "using" the boards... Like when someone (usually with a post count under 10) comes on and posts a question, gets a bunch of responses, and then never replies! I always like to circle back to threads I've posted on to see what the OP thought of the advice they got so I'm disappointed when they never respond. I also get a little annoyed when people post like 15 new threads in one day, but never really takes the time to comment on anyone else's. I guess I just feel like this is a really cool place and we're supposed to support each other.. so I'm annoyed when posters use it as a one way street.
But honestly I don't let it bother me much. Some people just don't "get" the 'bee. :)
The offensive thing really is annoying. It's like every word you type you have to read over and make sure you aren't "offending" anymore. Lame!
LOL (oops i just annoyed Chillmer) :) just kidding
I don't think anyone should be able to close their own threads when they don't like what they're hearing.
I also don't like it when people don't read the whole thread before they respond. Many times they are talking about the original question when the OP has added more information, which might change how they answer.
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