Post # 1
i think things are getting better with the bf and i. we a long talk about our wedding even though he not yet proposed. (in my other posts i have been very discouraged about whether or not it will actually happen due to financial circumstance, his age, etc.) for the first time we had a conversation where i felt like he was actually on board and we were on the same page. it felt really good, i must admit. i have decided to let go of obsession over the ring, the proposal and all of it. it was only making me crazy, causing us to argue and there to be so much tension. i am focusing on me right now. i am not going to let his actions dictate whether or not i am happy. i am so done with that. i love him dearly but enough is enough. i am not saying that i will wait forever…why should i? i am putting it out of my head so i can get some peace of mind!
Post # 3
Glad to hear things are going better. Those talks are always helpful in setting the landscape, so to speak. It is soooo difficult to refrain from obsessing, but it doesn’t do anyone any good to create that tense environment (I’m struggling with this right now, too). I think us waiting gals need to focus on loving our guys, loving ourselves, and RELAXING! I know – easier said than done.
For what it is worth, every time I successfully do get it out of my mind, we move a step further…
Post # 4
i agree ms. moonlight. i was going insane!!! now i feel like he would be an idiot NOT to propose to me! if he is not smart enough to see what a great thing he has then that is his loss!!
Post # 5
I agree. Sometimes guys need to see what they would lose before they will commit. I almost broke up with Boyfriend or Best Friend over a serious issue in our relationship, and during that talk he realized that he did want me and would do whatever it took to keep us together. Sometimes that’s what they need.
Post # 6
Yay Zalonia! Put it out of your head for 6 months. It helps to actually do this when you have a time in mind that you can revisit it (otherwise it may creep back in). So for now consider the seed planted and tell yourself you will expect NADA for at least 6 months. This worked well for me.