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Thank you for sharing! List like these remind me to check and recheck.
Thanks for sharing!
Hmm I am trying to see what I can add from my wedding 2 weeks ago... Well be prepared in case something breaks LOL We had to run day of to Michaels to buy a huge jar for the candy buffet since it broke night before at set up.
Start your Makeup and hair early... I am glad I did... if i had started an hour later we would have been late.
Designate someone to make sure everything is passed out or picked up.
Have a list of photos you want... thank goodness for that list!
Make sure your directions are RIGHT on your invites.. mine said go west when they should have gone east (mapquest error) Yea 5 didn't make the ceremony.
Things will go wrong but remain calm.. People were so shocked I was so calm like when they got nail polish on my dress, or the florist was late with my bouquets at my pre wedding photos with the girls, 2 people canceled hours before the wedding and I ate $140... It happens once, don't let anything bother you.. laugh it off and remember what the day is about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
These are great tips, thank you for sharing!!!
Great tips, its always good to hear from someone who just recently went through it.
You definitely had alot of solutions to those problems! Even with those issues, it soudns like things went smooth because family and friends were so willing to problem solve. Thats awesome! I hope we all have that experience.
Great tips! I'll add mine:
1) My MOH and coordinator put me in my reception dress in a hurry after the ceremony and I guess didn't the secure the back tight enough. We entered the reception shortly after and started our first dance. We had taken classes and had a choreographed routine. As soon as I did my first spin, I felt the dress slip off my chest! I was mortified that I was about to have a wardrobe malfunction, gasped and covered my chest. The crowd seemed to find it very funny, everyone laughed and clapped. From then on I was so scared and embarrassed I forgot all the steps and whispered frantically to DH "Change of plans! Stop spinning! No spins!" ; and to my horror he was like "no, these are the steps I practiced and I'm doing them". I guess he didn't know what else to do! It was the longest three minutes of my life with him dragging me like Frankenstein on the dance floor, me trying to turn while holding onto my dress for dear life and pleading with him, and feeling 120 eyes on me. Was soooo glad when it's over. And you know what? I'm sure it's mostly out of politeness, but I had several people come up to me and tell me it was a great first dance and wish they'd taken classes for theirs, and that they never noticed anything was wrong.
2) Dancing disaster #2 - During the parents' dance, DH dropped his mom during the dip! Poor woman fell on her bum. She wasn't hurt though and was a good sport about it, and everyone found it very endearing and laughed along with her and cheered again.
3) My mom stepped on her dress with her heel and ripped a good portion of it twice. She was also a great sport. She just kept ripping pieces of fabric, stuffing them in her purse and continuing like nothing happened.
4) When the DJ announced the garter toss, I noticed something was missing...My garter! During the confusion of the day I had never remembered to put it on. My coordinator saved the day, we asked the DJ to play a couple filler songs while she ran upto our room and found the thing in my suitcase. Garter toss was a great success (except for some over enthusiastic bachelors and someone almost losing an arm) and noone noticed a thing :)
Our wedding day disasters:
The prearranged people hired by the caterer to come early so I could show them one table set up, and they'd do the rest. Supposed to be there at 8:30am. By 9 no one showed...by 10,no one showed......by 12pm we were done,setting the entire venue up,both inside and out by ourselves. Good thing I didn't let anyone leave after we delivered all the boxes to the venue.
We hired 2 large vans an 2 drivers to pick up and drop off guests from the hotel and wedding location,from 3pm until 2am. We got a call from my husband from the wedding site that 30 people were waiting to be picked up from the hotel,saying no one had come for them in the past half hour. It was 15 minutes before ceremony time and we were waiting for the driver to pick up US...MOB,MOG,MOH,BM & bride....when the driver was called he said his brother (my daughter's boss) cancelled the one van and driver the night before!! How dare he and who was HE to do something like that and not tell anyone!! Needless to say,I never spoke to him at all rather than tell him off.
The caterers put some of the dinner items outside on the deck,so no one saw them (stupid). The mashed potato bar and caesar salad bar were set up and were hardly touched...they should have brought them inside,but I was too busy to notice and no one said anything to me.
The middle layer of the wedding cake was crumbling as it was cut,and they served it that way. When my sister showed me her plate I grabbed a server and asked how she could bring out cake that was a messy pile? I made her take it back and serve the bottom layer that had no problems with it. I had to TELL them?!
Everyone said they had a fabulous time anyway,but things that are beyond your control WILL happen!
I peaked at your link and you know, you worried about a lot of things but what was important, you guys looked GREAT!!! what an awsome wedding. There were a lot of features, details that you did so your guest sure would not know.. It's hard not to sweat it because we want it to look nice, go well, every one to have a good time. It's hard not to worry.. I'm about 5 weeks out and I want to call people and say send the responses back:) making me worry.
Thanks for sharing! :) It's always such a great reminder to know that things WILL go wrong, and that's okay!
P.S. I LOVE that you played (or planned on playing) the Aggie War Hymn :)
@meliss- I'm sorry about the wardrope malfunction. Ihad that same thing happen to me once during West Side Story. I played the lead dancer and had a quick costume change. My dress was vintage and the straps broke. I danced with one arm holding up the girls and my now strapsless dress LOL! Glad that you made it through
@smyley- Man good thing you guys stayed to set things up.
@tytbody- Thanks for checking out my link. We had a wonderful time.
@amanda.lynn- I think my Aggie Buddies were fine with the second re-do attempt. And it gave my Longhorn SIL and BIL a chance to jump out of their seats and stand in front of us holding up their hook-em sign. :)
Here's our list:
However, after being together for nearly nine years (during most of which time we couldn't legally get married anywhere), we were so thrilled to be married that nothing else mattered.
At ours -- I forgot the guest book!
And our greeter got there late so many people stood as they were not directed to nearby seating!
These are a lot of mishaps but it sounds like everyones weddings turned out great. Here are mine:
Things always go wrong. Some of them are avoidable, some aren't. Here's mine:
1) We were running late for pictures because of hair and makeup. I am pretty sure we didn't get a lot of pictures I really wanted because of time. However, I trust that my photographer got some good candids.
2) Our caterer was rude and inappropriately dressed. She charged us more than we were quoted and some of the food was wrong.
3) The cake was noticeably crooked.
4) The background music in the reception tent never got played.
5) It was really freaking hot and a lot of people left early because of that.
None of these things ruined our day! It was beautiful and I couldn't have been happier.
Sooo glad to be able to get this out! I am such a perfectionist that in spite of all the things that went right I can't help but think about the few things that went wrong.
1. My DH's family was 2 hours late to the rehearsal dinner.
2. My MOH/hairstylist was so busy getting pics taken that she was an hour late to do my hair so I ended up doing it myself so that wedding would still be on time. It still turned out great Thank God!
3. The cake was slightly crooked but delicious, so delicious we ran out!
4. The centerpieces were not done the way I had envisioned or requested them to be.
We had things go wrong at ours too, I think everyone does!
The biggest thing (to me) was that the DJ played the wrong song for my processional! I was really upset because I had envisioned walking down the aisle to it for years and he played a totally different part of the song that wasnt what I requested.
People were late because the freeway most people had to take to get there was closed so they had to backtrack (But we ran 30 minutes late anyways so it wasnt a big deal)
Our limo driver went MIA during the cocktail reception, we wanted to go across the harbor to the lighthouse to take pics and he was no where to be found. My makeup artist booked it and ran all around to find him.
Since we were late getting back to start the reception, my dad and another bridesmaid helped my mom and other girls with my bustle. They didnt know to tie them end to end super tight so part of my dress was dragging all night. My mom kept following me aroudn with pins to stick it up and hold it :)
We forgot a turn in our first dance but no one knew but us!
Our DJ walked away from his table while people were eating so there were several times that the music stopped and didnt transition between songs.
All in all though, our wedding was perfect even with the mistakes.
I also had things go wrong on my wedding day:
1. The flower girls walked down the aisle before I did because i was trying to get the bridesmaids to pull my train out. They didnt carry it very much so it got dirty too.
2. the photographer kept disappearing and didnt take many of the photos i wanted. the wind blew and my thring is on the wrong side of my face in some of the photos. the photographer is also now charging us more then we originally agreed.
3.the venue didnt put jugs of orange juice on the tables which i completly forgot and the waitresses werent offering the guests coca cola so i had to remind them to do that
4. Not many people filled in the guest book
5. my groom was petrified of doing the first dance so it turned out to be a bit stressful
6. the DJ didnt play any of the songs i had wanted to hear as my husband forgot to send him the list of songs and we had planned to play a CD throughout the meal but had other background music as didnt get the CD
7. my grand dad got drunk so my grand parents left before the speeches and cutting off cake but they had witnessed the ceremony and had dinner so that was good8. i forgot to toss my boquet in the madness of the day
I think there must be hitches at every wedding tho!
it is frustrating but i try and focus on all the good things like the ceremony being perfect and the good weather we got on the day.
A bunch of things went wrong at ours too but it was still a beautiful day. In order of least to most significant.
7) My step brothers didn't think they were supposed to be in the family photos for whatever reason even though my DOC put them on the email so they didn't show up at the photo spot. There was too much going on for me to realize what happened until it was too late. They came into my life when I was an adult and because we only see each other once a year we are not super close so it wasn't the end of the world but it would have been nice to include them.
6) My florist got the colours all wrong for my bouquet. I hated it. I wanted bold, fuschia pinks and yellows and I got lavender and yellow. For some reason he did a better job (though still not quite right) for the bridesmaids. Sadly, I was envious of the bridesmaids bouquets.
5) My sister (who was a BM) was supposed to walk her daughter (who was flower girl) down the aisle last. Well my niece was too cranky to go so my sister walked down alone which would have been fine except the bridal party song ended right when my sister started to walk so she had to walk down the aisle completely by herself and to no music. I felt bad for her.
4) My fiance and I completely botched our practiced first dance. It was a waltz. We had taken a lesson and practiced over and over again. The obvious mistakes clearly entertained the crowd which I guess is a good thing. :)
3) Children were not invited (excpet for those of immediate family) and three people brought theirs uninvited at the last minute anyway. The worst part about this is that the relatives who respected our wishes definitely took notice and I imagine they thought it was our fault.
2)The DJ played the wrong version of the song for me to walk down the aisle too. I had clearly requested and written orchestral version on the list and he playd the accordian version. An orchestra and an accordian send off two very different vibes. Besides that, the DJ was great.
1) My Grandpa (my last remaining granparent) and his companion didn't show up at the last minute because he wasn't feeling well. He passed away unexpectedly at around 6 am the next morning. :( The good thing is that I called him when I found out that he couldn't make it and he was in good spirits and we had a nice chat.
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So I wanted to share with everyone what went wrong at our wedding. I'm not upset over these items but I wanted to share my list in hopes that it helps some of you realize now that there is no such thing as a perfect wedding in terms of the little details. I've often read posts and comments about how these weddings on the blogs appear perfect and how can we measure up to those expectations. Here is a link to my post with some photos from our wedding. Looking at the photos you would never know that some of the little details were wrong or didn't happen.
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-few-more-photos-from-our-1940s-wedding
So here is our list of what went wrong or didn't happen that day.
1. Our original DJ didn't show up. He did find a replacement who showed up on time and did everything we had requested of the first DJ.
2. My mom painted our airplane logo on a piece of asile runner fabric. She did an amazing job, but the fabric was too light weight to stay down in place outside. We tried tape, rocks, etc. to keep it in place. In the end we ditched the asile runner and cut the end off that had the logo. We hung the logo on the table skirting that the cake was on. Which was nice because then everyone could see it.
3. The wind was so bad that it caused the flower arrangement hanging from the gazebo to fall minutes before the ceremony. I didn't even know this had happened and believe me no one else but the flower shop crew knew either. They picked up the broken arrangement and used it on the food serving line.
4. The balls of hydranges in the tall glass cylinders lining the asile way shriveled up due to the heat and humidty. It wasn't as pretty as we would have wanted but my guests still thought they were.
5. We forgot to do the bouqet toss because I had planned to toss it as we ran to the get-away car. I was so caught up in the moment that I forgot to grab it off the table as I ran out the door.
6. The Aggie War Hymm song was downloaded and played on the IPod during the band's break. It only downloaded the first minute of the song. So we played it again and laughed at ourselves.
7. Our signature drink was the Pink Cotton Candy Martini. I had purchase martini glasses (real glass) to display behind the bar with the cotton candy pre-set in them. I wanted a pretty picture of all the martini glasses filled with yummy cotton candy. Well the cotton candy won't sit out very long before it dissovles. So we were going to fill them 30 minutes before the reception started. It didn't happen because getting the food served in time was more important. Our guests never knew the difference. They still enjoyed the Martini's.
8. I forgot that our food menu had soup. Thus I didn't rent soup bowls. My venue coordinator had plastic bowls and spoons that she set out instead.
9. The bakery didn't show up until 30 minutes before the event started. I was a little nervous by this but she showed up and the cakes were wonderful. Again no one but me and my bridemaids knew that she wasn't there in time.
10. Our programs couldn't sit out in the open because it was too windy. So we placed them in a decorated box at the end of the asile. No one opened the box so the guests didn't know they were in there. My girlfriend realized this and her and her boyfriend got up and distributed the programs to the guests.
11. The table cloths I rented for the cake, candy and ice cream tables didn't go all the way to the floor like the linen place said they would. The ends of the tables weren't covered. So my aunt used the black table skirting that the venue offered and put it under the purple table cloths. Then she took the sides of the purple cloth and gathered them at the corners and held it in place with some stick pins and then put a flower arrangement at each corner to finish it off.
12. One of the cakes was suppose to have sugar paste flowers. The bakery mis-understood me and thought that I was going to put real flowers on there. So my aunt's flower shop used some flowers from the centerpieces to put in place.
I think that's all. Again I hope that by me sharing the imprefections of my wedding will hopefully help you realize "not to sweat the small stuff"