Post # 1
Due to the drama surrounding my mess of a wedding… we’re considering cutting our losses and eloping. THIS WEEKEND. I have the go ahead to take friday off to get the marriage license, if FI is off as well… but what am I forgetting?
luckily, my dress is ready, and in the shop so I can pick it up thursday (and just hope to gawd it fits!)
What else? What might we need?
***this is not a for sure thing, but I want to be prepared, I’d say there is a 75-80% possibility at this point.
Post # 3
A license and someone to say “I do” in front of.
Everything else is gravy.
Rings, dress, suit, a couple close friends (or random strangers) as witnesses, photographer, dinner reservations, a bottle of champagne.
Post # 4
@Elvis: shit, rings. shit. WE DONT HAVE RINGS!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Witnesses– you’ll need 2 people to sign your license with you. Also, you’ll want to confirm with the county clerk’s office that they don’t have any additional requirements (this varries by state/county).
Other than that, all you really need is a JOP and the love of your life!
ETA: You don’t need rings. Shop for them after– there’s no reason to rush that purchase to match anything else. Just like some people pick out their e-ring together, you can shop for wedding bands after the wedding too. My husband and I still haven’t found his ring.
Post # 6
Some states require you have the marriage license at least 72 hours before you actually say your vows. Make sure that is not the case in your state. Otherwise, you better apply for your license today. You will need a divorce decree (if applicable), license & birth certificates.
You really do not need anything else besides your hubby.
Post # 7
Do you have anything picked out at a local jeweler? (You should totally be able to find something before Friday, no sweat. Or Etsy, and do a local search and ask if you can pick up the item.)
Post # 8
doing the license research now. eep!
Post # 9
@mayflowerbride13: Let us know how it works out. 🙂
Post # 10
Don’t panic, most jewelers will put you on a rush basis if they find out your getting married in two days! Do not be afraid to tell them exactly what you are trying to do, more often than not, people will be happy to help. Same goes with the license, websites are pretty comprehensive so you should be fine.
Our list was this:
Him, me, dress, tux, rings, license, champagne and toasting flutes…it was kind of important to me that we drink out of those the night we got married and we saved the bottle!
Post # 11
In our state we only had to have the date of our divorce and we got the license immediately. We also don’t have to have any witnesses. You don’t have to have rings either, that was an optional part of the ceremony in our state.
When we go to the courthouse we will have: Us, Our Outfits, Our Rings, the License, the Photography, a Bouquet, His Bout (a surprise), 2 Cupcakes for “cake” pictures after.
I hope everything works out just the way you want it to!
Post # 12
Some states don’t require witnesses. Texas is one of them. 🙂
Be sure you have someone to take photos. Even if it’s not a professional, you’ll want to have these later!
We had: our outfits, wedding bands, bouquet I made from grocery store floral section flowers (wrapped in burlap and ribbon and an antique brooch which was my “something old”), props for our photographer (old quilt, “we eloped” chalkboard, “hitched” burlap bunting I made, large picture frame, a few other odds and ends)… can’t remember what else!
Post # 13
@AJ1982: Just noticed we are date twins!
op-While eloping seems like a good way to deal with you ILs will your parents understand?
Post # 14
Oooh, good luck! Here’s hoping it goes off without a hitch for you two. 🙂
Post # 15
Niagra Falls has a 24 hr waiting period. So if you sign the paper in person at 5 pm on Friday you can’t be married until Saturday at 5:01 pm unless you have the waiting period waived.
Write some vows and start trying to recoup your deposits. Since you’re so far out, the vendors may be interested in giving your date to someone else.
You also have think about how to notify everyone.
Post # 16
@MrsBroccoli: I can think of a few ways she can notify her FMIL. *snicker*