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I love my ring. It's traditional, classic, regal and exactly what I wanted. I was never a solitaire girl and a giant honking ring just isn't my taste.
But I HAVE had people make comments about its size and I'd like some of you bees to help me on something I could respond with when that happens (inevitably) again.
Bigger doesn't always mean pricier ;)
By the way your ring is beautiful, I really do not understand why anybody would comment negatively even if they were compelled to be honest?
I just don't understand A) where these people who care about the size/shape/consistency of another person's ring come from and B) why anyone cares what another person thinks to begin with. I have a pearl e-ring that cost under $200, which you'd think might get negative attention but never has. And maybe if it has, I just haven't cared to notice? Don't say anything if someone says something you construe as negative. Smile, nod and ask them to pass the bean dip.
The biggest comeback you can give someone after they've made a negative comment is to literally act like it didn't phase you at all. Ignorance is bliss! :)
@delirium.megans: First one was "Oh wow!! It looks like mine but of course it is a great deal smaller..." (She trails off kind of turning my hand to look at it... adjusting her glasses).
Another said "Does this mean you'll have a small wedding too?"
And "Oh well... its cute...."
Like little snarky things... backhanded
I'm shocked (and disgusted) to think that people would make comments on your ring size. Are you referring to the size of the diamonds? Or the size of the band? Either way, please just ignore those people.
If they make a comment, just say, It's exactly what I wanted and I love it. and leave it at that.
First, let me say that your ring is beautiful!
My gut reaction would be to say something equally crappy and insulting...then I would wish that I had been the bigger person and said something classy like "This ring is EXACTLY what I wanted!"
I think the appropriate response is, "Wow, are you always that rude?"
@mrsbruff2b: It never fails to amaze me how rude people can be. You could either (a) just ignore it, depending on who the person is (i.e. I wouldn't say anything to a boss or someone in a position senior to you at work) or (b) just be honest and say "wow, that's kind of rude of you to say". You don't have to say it in a mean way, just say it simply and let them stumble over themselves apologizing to you.
I wouldn't even dignify these statements with a response. Unreal!!
@mrsbruff2b: oh that is gross. What is wrong with people? Your ring is elegant and beautiful (as you know).
I agree with @Miss Mochaccino, don't stoop to their level, just leave it at the fact that you love it.
I wouldn't even hesitate to call someone out on their nasty behavior. If it was a person I knew well or a family member I would be a little more gentle but still tell them they were being A-holes.
I would also just tell them the truth - that it's exactly the kind of ring I would want and even if we had all the money in the world I would still pick out that kind of ring. I know that's true for me. I love dainty and delicate jewelry.
I wonder when people will learn that telling someone else their diamond is small will not make THEIR diamond any bigger.
@mrsbruff2b: Wow!! What rude people. Honestly, I think the best way to be with these people is direct. To person number 1, I would just say, "Hmm, actually I disagree -- you and I have very different tastes and I think our rings don't resemble each other at all." To person number 2, I would say, "Wow, that's a really unusual comment. I'm not sure I know what you mean. Care to explain?" And then if she says small ring = less money, etc., just tell her that she's mistaken and you got what you wanted. honestly, though, don't waste time on these people. They are clearly insecure and they have shown some very shallow qualities.
@mrsbruff2b: WOW. I wouldn't even acknowledge comments like that. Reactions like that are not worth your time. 1) your ring is BEAUTIFUL! 2) I know girls who tend to get ring envy/proposal envy...even if they themselves are engaged/married! 3) People who fall into number 2 are not good friends.
Just say that you wouldn't be happy with anything else. Opinions are like buttholes- as my SO says- they all stink.
Anybody who thinks the size of their diamond defines who they are as a person, what their relationship represents and their overall worth in life is a DAMN FOOL.
They can take a flying leap. They aren't quality people and will most likely be taking off their own engagement rings soon because their men can't stand their snooty azzes.
@mrsbruff2b: Some people need to stop and think before they speak. Can't believe how rude they are!
OMG, that is insane!! First of all, your ring is GORGEOUS...I have always loved it. Second of all, once you posted a picture of it in RL perpective, and I thought it looked HUGE. So I guess it's all a matter or perception? I had a .53 ct solitaire and only had 1 person make a 'small' comment, it was someone who was unmarried at the time and it was one of those 'Oh, I love your ring! I want one just like it but bigger' comments. I let it slide, and bit my tongue years later when she got a ring smaller than mine. Personally, with those comments I'd be inclined to be completely rude back and ask if they had a large wedding to accomodate their large mouth (or butt, if I'm being totally honest)...but probably not the best idea. I would smile, accept their compliments and say 'Thank you, I think it's absolutely perfect!' Or, come right out and say 'Wow, that's really rude of you to say...' with a pityful head shake and then walk away.
Actually, the best thing to do in that situation is reply "Thank you". Clearly they didn't mean it as a compliment, but if you imply that you took it that way, they will be alerted to the fact that they made a rude remard or obvious statement that was unsolicited.
People can be so moronic. Don't worry about what other people say because at the end of the day, they aren't the ones wearing the ring, you are. People put so much emphsis on how big or how small a diamond is and it's disgusting. The size of a diamond does NOT represent how much you are loved. Any ring at all shows that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
I think you have a very lovely, classy ring. Bigger isn't always better, trust me. I have a D VVS2 princess cut solitaire. And it's only half a carat! I could have gotton a carat with what my FI spent on it, but quality meant for than quantity to me.
Smile and ignore the mean remarks. Focus your energy not on them, but on how much you are loved!!
@Dandelion D: Heheh I'm the same way. I would have to fight the urge to say something like, "Yup, small rocks, small wedding. How about you, did you choose your giant diamonds to go with your giant fingers?"
Instead of course I would plaster a smile on my face and say, "I just love it, I fill up with joy every time I see it on my finger." And in my head I would add "...bitch." LOL
I'm LOLing at all the comebacks!!
Um...I'm not exactly sure if these people are seeing the same ring we're seeing here. Your ring is GORGEOUS! And I see that your ring is from Spence too! YAY ring siblings!! Our rings are from the same home. ^_^
I'm sorry I can't help you from experience. No one's really said anything mean or snarky about mine...I have a 0.59ct round brilliant so it's not exactly big LOL. Don't worry...at the meet-up, we're all gonna be oohing and aahing over your ring!
where do these people come from? nobody has ever said anything negative to me about my rings, my wedding, or anything! I can't believe all of these threads I read about rude comments.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, people suck!
I agree with @spaniel: I think the appropriate response is, "Wow, are you always that rude?"
comments that blatantly rude should be totally called out. shame on that woman!
My center is .39 carats (J VVS2) The rounds are .19 carats G VS2 (cut classified as excellent).
- I don't really know what those mean hahah. I hope its something good. I know that I love my ring and I know that's all that matters. FI were engaged on our 10 year anniversary, I was so excited to show my ring. But after some comments like those, now I'm a little self concious when people ask to see it...
@janie-janie: Some co-workers and acquintences that I haven't seen in a while.
I had a friend do something similiar, when I saw her for the first time since getting engaged (of course I posted a pic of the ring on FB) she came up to me, grabbed my hand and looked at my ring. This is more or less normal of friends who are excited over engagements...however I will never forget what she said next: "OMG it is as big as it looks" with a disgusted tone...then immediately said "I need a bigger ring now...I need to tell XXX that tonight" I just looked at her and god bless my friend who was standing there and just looked at the girl that made the comment and went "um, rude" and we moved on. I thought it was the perfect response. No sense being catty back - just "thats rude" and move on.
People and their inability to filter what comes out of their mouths never ceases to amaze me!
ETA: you're ring is gorgeous...forget silly girls and what they say!
First of all, your ring is beautiful!
I respond to any off comments about my ring with, "Thank you, I love it" or "Thank you, it is perfect for me."
I kept my mouth shut when I saw my friend get slammed for her small diamond by a friend of a friend of ours. Long story short:
Girl with small diamond gets snarked on by girl with big diamond. Little does Miss Snark know that WE know her now husband went into major debt (12K) to accommodate Miss Snark so she could have the ring she just had to have.
We both wanted to scream at her - oh yea? well at least our guys are financially responsible and don't have girls that pester them about getting a huge rock just to impress other people.
Ohhh that felt good - if I can'd do it in public at least i can do it on the Bee.
I read those ridiculous comments people made to you - Gees, get a life people! Your ring is absolutely beautiful! Let it shine like the love you and your FI have!!
I am so glad I've never met these rude people in real life. It's absolutey shocking what someone else feels is ok to say. And depressing. Like, how miserable do you have to be to immediately feel the urge to put down someone who has something that gives them happiness? Really! What's wrong with them?
I wish I was as quick witted as you ladies. I'd probably be too shocked to reply or I'd "accidentally" punch someone in the throat. 
My responses are typically:
-If I wanted a huge rock, I would have had sex with a millionaire.
-Yes, it's small it's but boy does it sparkle.
-Yeah it's tiny, but so are my fingers.
and others... but it involves put downs and vulgur languge.
I agree that saying "thank you" is the classiest response, but you could also try:
"Yeah, but then we're not as shallow as you are"
"It is smaller, but at least it's not so ugly"
"I know, I specifically told him I'd like one like yours, but not so garish"
BTW I'm not putting down larger rings, just people that look down on smaller ones.
@mrsbruff2b: Please don't be self-conscious about showing it off!!! Your ring is beautiful!
Your ring is beautiful! I always find that women who make comments like that are secretly unsatisfied with their relationships or with something else going on in their lives. Your ring is gorgeous and I'm sure your FI is proud of it, so you'd better show it off! :)
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