Things You Had to Give Up in Your Wedding

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
26 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

I saved a whole bunch doing my own centerpieces, bouquets, and bouts but we still had to forgo a videographer and a photobooth. I’m mostly sad about the videographer because the day went by so fast and it would have been nice to have videos to reflect back on but a friend of ours recorded bits and pieces of our ceremony including our vows and I almost cried when I found out. As for the photobooth, it would’ve been nice to have but we seemed to manage without too.

Post # 3
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

we dont need a car.

i am having one bridesmaid only.

we are diying bouquets and other flowers, and cake.

no favours or videographer


its all still adding up to more than i expected.

Post # 4
932 posts
Busy bee

jofits:  We are the same! My mum is insisting on a ‘posh’ car (were british and thats what everyone does here) to transport us. I keep telling her I’m fine in a taxi or my dads car. We are skipping the whole bridal party – no best man, no bridesmaids etc. We are skipping videographer and our favours will be food based anyway e.g chocolate fondue bar. 

Other things for us are no DJ – were not having dancing and we are semi self catering the food and maybe the cake. 

Post # 5
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

No bridal party, Mum is making cup cakes for our cake, I borrowed vases from my sister, supermarket flowers for the tables! (I am paying a professional for my bouquet…), Thursday wedding (cheaper venue costs, half-price photographer), etsy wedding rings…..  I don’t feel I’ve had to “give up” anything – just substitute.

Post # 6
957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m not sure if I would say that I gave up anything but a lot of stuff was done to save money, my super family (grandma, mum, dad) have agreed to do the food (all of which have experience in wedding catering for friends weddings) and we’re getting couple of my mother’s friends’ daugthers to waitress for us. we aren’t having many flowers because I think it’s a waste of money honestly. my dress wasn’t expensive (but that’s nothing to do with money, I just love it!). 

Post # 7
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m not sure if I’m missing anything major thus far,  or I just have “cheap” taste or what but as it stands we’re coming in way under budget. It helps that my fiance has lived in our small town all his life and has a fair few friends giving us mates rates but we don’t feel like we’ve missed out despite having a tiny budget

Post # 8
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am giving up a DJ. We are getting married at a mansion, and the owners have offered to do the announcing for us and work the iPod. We aren’t going to have fancy cars or a limo, either. We are getting married in the garden and having the reception in the mansion. We are a beach community on Lake Michigan, so somehow we have to get 1 mile for beach pictures and back. We all drive, so that should be easy 😉

Post # 9
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

No videographer but a family friend will record the ceremony for us 

I wold have also really like a vintage ‘gelato’ cart but there’s no room left in the budget unless we cut something else!

Post # 10
2180 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The one thing I didn’t account for in my original budget was a videographer. I thought I really did want/need one – and now I really want one! We’ll see how our budget is looking as we get closer, but that’s something I’ll probably have to give up.

Post # 11
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We gave up:

Having a DJ (did ipod instead)

No limo – used family vehicles to go get pictures done

Used a newer cheaper photographer and went with her hourly rate instead of the full day package

No videographer – FIL recorded the ceremony though

No fancy cake – just a 2 tier butter cream icing cake made by the staff of our venue.

I feel like none of these were necessarily negatives though.  I would sacrifice these things again if I had to do it over.

Post # 12
92 posts
Worker bee

Great post! commenting to follow

Post # 13
1669 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

bmaus1493:  i have to say that at first i felt like i was giving up a lot, but the farther into it we got, the more i realized that there were budget-friendly options and amazing family and friends who came together and helped make it better than i could have imagined.

officiant: friend (free), photographer: friends who have an amazing business and talent ($1000), music: friend who is a performer/live muscian/guitar teacher ($400 for ceremony and reception), coordinator: close friend who used to do wedding coordinating full-time (wedding gift), centerpieces: mom – she does floral arrangements as a side business (mom’s gift to us), cake: my mamaw, aunt, and mom got together and baked enough homemade pound cakes for my 130ish guests (gift)…i could go on forever. everything worked out and fell into place. i am so grateful, and looking back…i have no regrets.

Post # 14
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

So far we have saved on videography. We decided not to skip it altogether since we think it’s important, but we are paying a friend who is fresh out of film school $500 to do it. Which is way cheaper than the going rate. We also found a photo booth deal on groupon and went with that. And we are getting married on a Sunday so that helped with the cost of our reception venue (although it made our ceremony space more expensive so I guess they canceled each other out).

Post # 15
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I really wanted a Mariachi band. First world problems. Didn’t get that. 🙂

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