Things you shouldn't be thinking about during sex.

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Haha I’m terrible when it comes to doing this.  I LOVE sex, I enjoy it very much but I still get side tracked sometimes.  Especially when it is just getting started I have a hard time keeping my mind off of other things.  Luckily FI is the same way and we have stupid conversations until we really get into it, like what we need from Walmart lol.  But even after that sometimes I start thinking about weird stuff.  

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

My SO and I have a tendency to joke around and say dumb things during sex. Its not really serious at all sometimes, so I dont feel so weird having odd thoughts. Dont get me wrong, I love it. Its like my favorite activity.

One time, though, we were going at it and I was looking at him and suddenly I was craving nachos. So I started planning out getting nachos in my head. Then I wondered if I would rather want ribs. Apparently he was thinking about food too. We’re pretty in sync sometimes lol

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

Mattyfeets:  I’ve totally thought about food before!

sometimes I start creating mental lists, like what we need from the grocery store or what chores need to get done around the house -__-

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

OMg thank you. My mind sometimes wanders like crazy and i have to snap out of it. Seriously female brains are insane.  

Pretty sure i thought about laundry last time we did the deed.  And also about the book i was reading because i really wanted to finish it that day. LOL ohhhhh my poor husband. My brain is always spinning it will be my downfall. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

My husband is a ‘Street smart’ type of guy. Yes, I was fully aware of the ‘Street’ side of him prior getting together, I accepted all that from him…. He have childhood friends who are doing drugs, thugs/gangsters too. Some of his friends got arrested two months ago for transporting/possession drugs.

Now in defense of my husband, that is his friends, NOT him. My husband doesn’t do drugs, he doesn’t even smoke or drink…. He should NOT be held resposnible for what his childhood friends do. He can’t control what his friends do; if they keep do stupid things, they will get arrested, problem solved.

So two months ago when his friends got arrested, I was scare and very worried. Because sometimes he hang around with his friends in group, watching NFL Football at their place…. And this give me worries because if they get busted, my husband will be charge in “Guilty of association” for being in the same place with them.

So at that time when we had sex; Lord, my mind start wandering off. Endless worries and worries of what happen if one day he no longer here with me? This sure get me distracted during sex…. I’m sure any girl who love their man would be worry the same way as I do. When you love someone so much, you afraid of lose that person.

So yeah, during sex, all my mind can think of was would he be here with me tomorrow? What will I do when he is gone? Is he gonna get arrested one day for being in the same place with his ‘Street’ friends?…. Argg!! His love for the ‘Street’ is more than his love for me, etc….

Well we married now, he is an awesome husband. He working 2 jobs, everyday 12-14 hours shift. So he doesn’t even have time to sleep let alone hang out with his ‘Street’ friends. But I admit, I sure do worried sometimes.

Advice for the ladies out there, Do Not, Do Not, try to NOT fall in love with a guy who have tooooo much “Street smart”. The guy who have the “Street’ side, and especially the guy are loyal to his childhood “Street” friends. Because you will go through the same worries as I do above…. You are better off if fall for the “Scholar”, the “Book smart” type of guy.

But I was sexually attracted to the “Street” side of my husband. The attraction was too intense that I end up being his wife despite I know I will always continue to have worries about him…. I ain’t a good girl neither. I’m just ‘the girl in the hood”, as he is ‘the guy in the hood’. So I darn know how the game work, and he beat me in it, Lol!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

independentgirl:   so your saying that you shouldn’t date people from lower income areas even if they are hard working and devoted too you because their friends may be doing illegal things?

Your view of your relationship is so dysfunctional there is no way anyone should be taking advice from you. 

 

Onto the topic..

I have children so half the time my mind is listening…is that the door? Was that the door?  Is someone coming up the stairs?  It’s mostly I don’t want my children coming in on us (even though the older ones aren’t even children I think it would be mortifying) I walked in on my parents doing a 69 when I was 9 and I swear to god that image is burned into my brain and I can’t erase it.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

smoocherific:  

NO, you misunderstand me. I am saying, don’t fall in love with guys who have tooooo much “Street smart”, guys who have the “Street” life. Because you will have worries about them, worries about their safety when they out in the street hanging around with friends who are thugs/gangsters, HARDCORE drugs dealers/users.

In my post, I clearly say it. I am the “girl in the hood”, and my husband is the “guy in the hood”, so we both are the same class…. I also defense my husband that he is NOT his friends, and he should not be held reponsible for what his friends do. BUT… he have friends that are gangsters, he have friends who are hardcore drugs dealers, I am talking about hardcore drugs here like Cocaine, Meth, Heroin, NOT the simple weed stuff alright.

When your DH have childhood friends that are these type of people, repeated gangsters/hardcore drug dealers. You will be very worried when you date him, because you know very well that he hanging round with these type of people; IF they get busted, he will be get busted along with them…. Check into the “Guilty by association” law here in USA, here are very strict on this.

That is all I’m saying. I accepted my husband for who he is, I married him! I know he loves the “Street” MORE than me, and I accepted that too…. I don’t know about you, but anyone would be worried if their BF/Husband have childhood friends who are Gangsters and HARDCORE Drugs user/dealers…. Last time my husband’s childhood friends get arrested for possession/transportting: METH, HEROIN and COCAINE…. If you tell me you don’t worry, then you clearly don’t love the guy.

So what if those that possession/transporting hardcore drugs are his friends, these drugs ruin people lives, ruins people family. I have every rights to be worried, especially they are MY husband’s childhood friends…. I know he is loyalty to his friends, but it would be darn nice if he hang around with them less…. How about I don’t want my future children grow up around these kinds of drugs? How about I don’t want my future children to grow up around um Gangsters? How about I don’t want my future children to grow up around violence?

Anyways, I make my point clear enough…. And if my husband still insist on hanging around with his gangsters/Hardcore drugs user friends, and one day he end up behind bar from Guilty by Associations” because he happened to be in the same place with them…. Then fine, I will wash my face with tears everyday to wait for him come out of jail…. But this day unlikely to happen, because my husband have alot of ‘Street smart’, way enough to know how to protect himself from trouble. He is not stupid, and he never once get in trouble with the laws. I TRUST my husband.

 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

OMG im not the only one haha….im terrible when it comes to my hubby giving me oral and my feet are on his shoulders(i know TMI lol) but ill be like wow i really need to change my toe nail polish..hmm what should i go with this week..haha then i have to snap out of it!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

smoocherific:  

“I walked in on my parents doing a 69 when I was 9 and I swear to god that image is burned into my brain and I can’t erase it.”

HAHAHAHA Omg you made me literally laugh out loud…. how horrifying that must have been for you. How many years passed before you could make eye contact with them again? LOL

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Slack3ers_Wife:   I’m 37…it’s still an image that I see all too clearly.  Maybe one day I’ll get some type of hypnosis to eradicate that memory..lol. it doesn’t bother me it’s just…When I’m doing the deed I get super paranoid about an image like that being burned into my children’s head as well. ..I basically barricade the door..keep the t.v on..but try to listen. .it’s terrible..lol. 

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

lol Yes, for sure. I can definetly see why you’d go the extra mile to save your kids from the same fate lol 🙂

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yes, all the time the main one is. Is are headboard is up against the window with long drapes over the window and these Windows face on the front side of the house on the first floor. I wonder can people tell, like is the curtain moving when the head board knocks up against it. Does it slightly make the curtain move back and forth. I wonder about this mostly in the summer time and a ton of other random thoughts.

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