Post # 1
We all love our SOs and wouldn’t change a thing about them. However, I, at least, am a hopeless romantic while FI is much less so. I always get these ideas of things I’d love for him to do or surprise me with, but it would require a severe personality shift for him to a, think of it on his own and b, actually do it. I can’t be the only one, so what are some things you’d love for your FI to do unprovoked.
The biggest one for me is that I’d love for him to serenade me. Bonus points if it’s in Spanish. Music is a HUGE part of my life and *dream proposal* I imagined him getting together with one of my performing groups to sing for me (possibly on stage, in costume, at one of our concerts). Everyone knows I sing and play instruments. When I decided to propose to FI, everyone asked if I’d sing for him. Now they ask if I’m going to sing at the wedding. Honestly, it’s not special for me to serenade him. I do that all the damn time. It’s not special to sing in front of friends and family because many of them have paid to do so in the past. However, it would be so incredible if FI serenaded me. It’s so out if his comfort zone. It’s like, he has to really love and care about me to take the time and make the effort to do so. If I asked, he might, but I doubt he’d do it of his own volition.
Post # 3
I wish he would write long romantic texts again, he used to, doesn’t as much anymore, and we used to write long letters to each other. He also used to write really long romantic notes in cards he gave me for birthday, Christmas, whatever. The notes are shorter now. He also doesn’t initiate sex as much as I would like him to.
Post # 4
@Jacqui90: I like that too. Once, FI and I got into an argument right before I went out of town and we resolved it while I was gone. I told him I expected flowers on my doorstep when I got back. Got home, checked the mail, he sent me a letter that included a drawing of a bouquet of flowers. I loved it.
Post # 5
My SO is a rugged man, a man’s man and he plays around a lot. He could be more romantic: hold hands etc. If I snuggle up to him, he would hug me with stiff akward arms (thats how he plays.
He would be romantic but it is not often.
Post # 6
@Jacqui90: I wish this also. He used to be so sweet about writing sweet, romantic texts now I rarely get those and if I do they are also shorter. I also would like him to initiate sex more..are we with the same person? LOL
Post # 7
Stop leaving wet towels on the bed and his underwear on the floor 🙂 I wish he would say sweeter things around others. He says them to me but not so much when we are around others. I like the type of person that can get up and give a toast or speech about how awesome and lovely their wife is!
Post # 8
I wish he would buy me flowers ! That’s even a running joke between us. He is very affectionate and all, he had bought me little gifts in the past, but I wish he would buy me flowers (or little surprises like that) from time to time.
Post # 9
I just want him to put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket instead of leaving them on the bathroom floor. I also wish he was a little more spontaneous sometimes, like him just saying “hey, let’s go do this or this right now”. FH likes to have absolutely everything planned out and I’m usually like that, but sometimes it would be great just to do a spur of the moment thing every so often.
Post # 10
I wish he wouldn’t make me laugh when I’m angry. It makes me more mad but I can’t express that if I’m falling over laughing.
I also wish he’d pay me just a little more attention when we’re out in a group. I don’t mean attached at the hip or anything, but sometimes we’ve been socializing with other people and we might as well have not been at the same gathering because we didn’t socialize together. I fancy myself great company, you’re allowed to enjoy me around even when we’re with friends, buddy! He has this funny sense of urgency about being social with everyone though, and as he’s making his rounds sometimes I feel a bit overlooked.
Post # 11
@Regan7312: Similar type of person I bet lol.
Post # 12
It’s funny I told my husband i wanted him to be more romantic and say nice romatic things to me, and he did, and it was too weird and would just make me laugh. One of the times I texted him and asked if i needed to bring anything home for dinner and he said no, just your beautiful self, it was so sweet but so out of character i couldn’t stop laughing. So i guess we’re both not very romantic!
Post # 13
@NauticalDisaster: are you me or something? ahahaha it’s a huge joking between us too :p I’ve even told him if he proposes without a big bouquet, I will say no hhahaah
Post # 14
I wish he’d propose! Ha!
But, I do wish he would be a bit more romantic. I am much mushier than he is.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
I jsut wish he’d be a little bit more mindful of me and my feelings. I know it’s definitely due to the gender gap but I am constantly thinking about how I can make his day better and how or why he might be feeling a certain way. FI is completely oblivious to everything unless I spell it out for him. It would be nice to feel thought of occasionally.
Post # 16
My SO is pretty wordy though and is always telling me nice things about myself. I wish he would understand that I’m studying though and I can’t always go out or see him at the drop of a hat. I’m so close to finishing my degree and I can’t afford to screw it up now but ANY time I can’t do something he will get annoyed/upset as if I’m doing it on purpose and I just don’t want to see him.
I also wish he would initiate PDA more often like a few PPs have stated.