Things your MIL says that drives you nuts

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I could write a book with all the crap my mil says. Some highlights are, calling my DH (her only child) “it”, telling me not to read anything about baby development because babies don’t read the internet. Oh, and when we found out I had to have a c-section we asked our parents not to tell anybody till we knew everybody was ok, she went and told everybody she works with. A week before DH and I got married she told me she thinks she should stage an intervention because DH drinks too much. He drinks a few beers when he’s with his buddies, which isn’t very often. 

I have soooo much more, but DD is done nursing so that means I don’t get to keep posting. Ill come back with more!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

It’s not so much one particular thing she says, but she speaks like Edith Bunker so everything comes across as whiny and annoying. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee

It’s not so much what my MIL says that’s annoying, although there’s been plenty of that over the years — so much so that I don’t even keep track of it any more. It’s more that she is an extremely manipulative person who likes to get her own way. Even if you don’t want to do something, or you specifically tell her not to do something, she will go ahead and do it. And then, she laughs about it to your face. Sadly, my mom is the same way — although she manipulates through guilt. So I have it from both sides. Bleh.

 

@ConRtist:  I love, love, love your response to your MIL’s annoying (and cruel) statement. It’s so perfect and sweet. Your DH is lucky to have you!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

She is just a bit contradicting in her opinions on food. She states eating organic is so important (which I agree…) but then she coats the food in “lite salt” (aka MSG) and non-organic Montreal steak seasoning… a seasoning she using on everything (veggies, meatballs, chicken, seriously almost everything).

It’s not that I care too much. I think it’s the way that she talks about how important it is to eat organic. It almost comes off high and mighty. FI and I agree organic is the best, but we cant afford to buy it 100% of the time. So then for her to completely “ruin” her expensive organic food with chemicals, it just beyond me. I just don’t get it… 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

regarding wedding planning, my FMIL will say things like “You aren’t doing XYZ…are you?” Which, to me, sounds like “I don’t like this, so I really hope you don’t do it.” Ugh. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My FMIL – barely says anything! I’m told its because she doesn’t want to seem like she’s over involved and that she likes me but its hard sometimes to see this since she just seems so “disinterested”. I know she is an opinionated woman (by what my fiance says) but she’s like talking to a brick wall .. kinda sad since I always pictured having more of relationship with the man I would be marrying’s mother. 

Its completely the opposite extreme … I wish there was a happy medium! (not too involved or outspoken and not what I am experiencing now) 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Not my MIL, but my FIL.

Man is CONVINCED the government is this completely evil force that has never done anything right ever, and if you disagree, you’re basically a sheep following the herd.

And I want to be like “YOU ARE A TRUCK DRIVER. HOW DO YOU LIKE THOSE ROADS, HMM?”

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My MIL is a sweet lady but sometimes she says annoying things that bug me. She would always say things about us having children and it became so annoying my DH told her to stop! We used to live with the inlaws and then everything they did bugged me but now that we are out I feel less irritated by them!

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My MIL repeats herself alot.  Same stories over and over…and each time she says it like she hasnt told me. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My MIL has a heart of gold, but she has a sickeningly positive outlook on every aspect of life, and is so easily amazing/amusing/impressed by even the most mundane things.  Her response to basically everything in life is “Oh how FUN!!!”  It can be really grating… and I never realized that tea-towels, bird feeders, throw pillows, etc, were “So fun!”  Ugh!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

When we mentioned we were looking at new washers, she cut us off asking, “Why do you need a new one? Yours is newer than mine and mine is still fine. You don’t need a new one”. Excuse me? It’s not your home, decision or business. Plus the washer and dryer wasa gift she bought as a wedding gift for my husband and his first wife. 

Shortly, after we got engaged, we went to her house for a birthday dinner. It was her birthday and that’s fine…we are there to celebrate her. But we had gotten engaged 3 days before. We were at her house for over an hour before she even acknowledged we were engaged. Nothing until then. She traipsed around her house showing us new curtains. When she finally said something she asked to see my ring. I show it to her and she said, “Oh. A princess cut”. Only it’s not…it’s round. Then she said, “You are getting the matching ring, right?” I said, “No…I don’t think so. I’m getting something else.” She said, “You must get the matching ring. That’s what I did…see?” And then started talking about her ring.

When DH called to tell her we were engaged, her first thing she said was, “Are you sure?”. 

She also assumes I don’t work. Literally thinks this. Right after we got engaged, we made a joint decision for me to quit the awful job I had. It was rough for a few months but we made it through. She really had a problem that I had quit. Made all sorts of rude comments. Then, when I got a new job, since she never asks about anything regarding our life, she didn’t know. Now DH doesn’t really talk to her (for her trying to ruin our wedding and marriage)…at least right now. But he still gets messages from time to time with her asking where I work and how do we afford, such and such. And b/c he doesn’t answer her, she sends more messages like “When is that wife of yours going to get a job?”. Except I have one and it pays quite well!! 🙂

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OP, you are a braver woman than I am – I couldn’t handle having my MIL in my house!  I’d probably end up saying some very true things in a less than gracious manner.  

@SparkleBee11 – I can relate to this.  I am very conscious of how we eat, so we do eat primarily organic food, stay away from additives to the extent possible, etc.  My MIL thinks she eats healthy because she uses whole wheat bread (good), but then will allow any and every kind of processed, additive-packed food (what?!).  She doesn’t let the family eat much red meat because of the fat content (fine), but they have ice cream almost daily.  It’s confusing, at best. 

Overall – lots of the “don’t worry about me, I’ll be fine” sort of lines.  We see my inlaws at least weekly at church, but she never fails to mention (typically weekly) when she sees us how she never sees us.  It’s grating.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My MIL LOOOOOOOOOOOOVES commenting on my husband’s weight and my weight.  It’s really classy.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ConRtist:  there is only one thing EVER in all the years I have been with DH that my MIL said, I had expressed how I wanted to throw DH and surprise party and she said “save your money, you are going to be having kids soon and will want to buy a house”

Now I didn’t get too crazy about it because she means well, she has never ever said anything to disrespect me, or put me down, she really is just looking out for me.

But I was taken back because I was like well, I am paying for it all on my own, so don’t worry about the money. Its my money and I will do what I want with it. ANd its not just her, this goes for anyone, don’t tell me how to spend my money.

Other than that one comment, I can’t say anything else. My MIL is an amazing woman, and she has always been there for me.

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