Post # 1
Our dog needed an emergency surgical procedure today, and I had to call on my parents for the $700 that we just didn’t have. With the wedding planning (my parents are paying for our entire wedding, very generously), and other life crazieness right now, it feels like there is a LOT of money being spent. I hated making that call to ask my dad if he could help our dog out, even though I know they have the money to lend us. I just feel so guilty, because they’re alraedy doing so much.
Just wondering what emergencies/issues/etc your parents have bailed you out of–hoping some bees have been in similiar situations so I don’t feel so much like a failure as a 25 y/o adult!
Post # 3
My parents don’t help out anymore (I’m 30 now and FINALLY finished with grad school), but they helped me out when I was your age and probably until I was 27 or 28. Mostly with car repairs, like new brakes. They also co-signed all my leases until I was 28.
Post # 4
A prescription. I had a terrible rash on my neck and the doctor prescribed some lotion. I had insurance but even with that it came to 315.00 dollars. When I found out how much I started crying at the CVS because I could not afford that. Called my mom and she came to get it for me. I was a year out of college, working (granted a low paying job) and living on my own yet my mom still had to rescue me!
Post # 5
I’m like you, I hate to ask even though I know my dad has it. I know he is so proud of me for being independent and I don’t want to disappoint him. We were thisclose to asking for help after a few months of my husband’s unemployment, but luckily he got some work and we don’t have to for now!
No specific bail-outs yet but I am very grateful for all the help with college and the wedding from him and also from my grandparents!
Post # 6
I’m 21. So they help me out quite a lot. But I still hate asking. (My brothers however, who are 19, don’t think twice about it)
Post # 7
When I was 21 or 22, I lost my wallet in the backseat of a cab while on a trip to Vegas with some of my girlfriends. I had to call my dad at 4 am and he had to wire me the money to pay for the hotel (which I paid back!) and help find me numbers for canceling/reordering all my cards, etc. It was quite embarrassing, but extremely helpful! Now I could call DH for something like that, but it’s nice to know your parents can help if you need it.
Someone actually found my wallet and mailed it back to me with everything in it, so I guess at least the story has a happy ending 🙂
Post # 8
I’m 21. They’be pretty much bailed me out of everything at this point in my life.
Post # 9
I’m 23. I can’t tell you the last time my mom bailed me out of anything
Post # 10
My parents haven’t helped me with anything since I was 15. I wish they were more supportive/reliable if I needed help.
Post # 11
My FSIL is 31 and her parents still pay her rent and utilites, including her phone. My future ILs promsied their two kids that as long as they were in school, they’d help them out with rent and utilities. FI is in school at 29, but hasn’t received any help from his parents since he graduated from college at 22, but his sister just keeps going back to school… maybe to have her living expenses paid?
Post # 12
@star_dust: yeah, that’s another thing that bothers me!! my parents bought me a car (well, multiple cars…long stories, none of them my fault!), paid for college in full, have repaired my car, paid my rent in college, etc, etc, etc. The past couple years, I’ve been all fine and dandy on my own, paying for grad school myself, etc. Now with this wedding and the dog needing something and a new full time job that pays less than my previous contract job…I’ve had to ask for some help and I feel like such a failure!! They paid my way up until I was like, 21, and I feel like i’m just back tracking and I’m back in that mode where I call and they immediately say “wait, do you need money?” just like in college lol.
Post # 13
My mother hasn’t bailed me out of anything in my adult years. It’s not that she wouldn’t, I just haven’t had to ask her. She did loan me some money back when I was like 21 so that I could use it for a down payment on a car but she was paid back in full within a few months.
If you need help, you should ask for it. That’s what family is for. The worst they can say is no and then atleast you tried. It’s one thing if you’re asking for money to fund a trip for Spring Break. It’s another when you need to pay for an emergency procedure to save a loved one (which include pets).
Post # 14
Luckily now I don’t need them to bail me out of much because DH and I are financially stable, but if it weren’t for my parents bailing me out all of those years I don’t think I could be where I am now. My parents paid for about 90% of our wedding, are helping pay my school loans, mom takes me shopping all of the time to get decorations for the house, and now they will be furnishing our nursery as a gift to us. I am the only girl and my parents still do anything I need them to and will drop everything if I need them. And DH and I never pay for anything when we are with my parents like dinner or things like that. Enjoy having the support system and just make sure they know how grateful you are.
Post # 15
When I was in college (22?) my parents helped me make the first payment for my study abroad in Italy.
When I first started having bad health problems, before I got in to see a specialist or get any kind of medication, I could not work for 3 months. My parents gave $2000 (more help than I had asked for) to help my FI and I with rent payment/general living expenses.
Post # 16
My parents helped me out with pretty much anything (22) so long as I had a clear plan for paying them back and adhere to it. Now that FI and I actually make more money then they do, we can’t ask.
Once, I didn’t pay them back for the money I borrowed until months later and they stopped cosigning on my student loans – a fair punishment, I think.
I hope to do the same for my son some day.
ETA: Except during the times that it really mattered, like when I was literally starving and pregnant. But, that’s another issue. I would never do that to my son.