- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I thought I would start this off with good news – I think I found my dress! I loved it as soon as I saw it. It’ll be different from anyone else’s, that’s for sure. I’m hoping that the transaction will be completed tomorrow. I was going to go to Toronto in the Fall, but now I won’t have to.
Now I just need to think about what kind of veil I’ll put with it. I always thought I would be a birdcage kind of girl, but now my thoughts are changing…
So, for the last two months I have been asking my FMIL for her additions to the guest list. She wanted to invite a buttload of friends (said she would pay for them – just their meals, not the additional decorations, table settings, alcohol, etc about $600-$700 extra) since I wanted to see where we were at numbers-wise. Our hall only fits 160 (and I wasn’t wanting to put it at capacity as it is). Now we are at 170 and climbing. I have told her that she needs to pull it back in and stop making additions.
She has gone ahead and arranged with the venue that the doors will open for the dance, and even more people will come. That means that I/FI will be paying more for booze (FMIL doesn’t agree with alcohol so she didn’t offer to help that way). Trying to keep a good attitude, but the wedding budget has gone from $8,000 (yes, we are poor. But we had everyone having a plus one at that number and plenty of food/booze) to $17,000 (wayyy beyond our means). I try to say that but she says she will pay. She is giving $4,000. That leaves FI and I with $13,000 to pay when we could only manage $8,000.
So, to find a positive, I know that we still have time to work it all out. I’m not wanting to burn bridges. Honestly, if she paid for ALL the extra expenses associated with bringing guests, I wouldn’t give a hang. She just thinks that the meal is enough, and it’s like trying to move a horse when I talk to her.
FI is on her about cutting 10 of her friends off the list – it still leaves her with about 30 friends and 100+ of their family.
Well, at least there’s the DRESS! Yay!
How are you Bees handling the wedding planning stress, particularly when your budget doesn’t seem to be flying?