Think my FI is lying about having a Facebook

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@lostandconfused4:  do you have reason to be so suspicious?

It’s not like the account you saw had a million photos or was connected to a bunch of friends you dislike. Somehow the Facebook account was created, and he has no recollection of it. Why are you making a mountain out of a molehill? If my FI was so passive aggressively suspicious of me like you are with your FI, we’d have a come to Jesus talk stat.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Seems entirely possible that he set it up by accident at some point in the past and then forgot about it/didn’t even know he’s done it.  With all the “sign in using facebook” functionality these days, it’s probably pretty easy to register for facebook and think that you are registering for a different site.

 

If it’s an account with no info, what’s the harm?   If the page had activity that would be different.

Post # 5
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

It could still be the ex. Maybe she signed up for it on his computer and it has stayed logged in since? 

Post # 6
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8708 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@flowercrowns:  +1.

 

If my husband suddenly got super suspicious of me, I’d have a serious talk with him, because unless he had a reason to get suspicious with me, it’s really upsetting that he’d just all-of-a-sudden think I was a no-goodnick.

 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@lostandconfused4:  I’d quit holding this above his head. It’s obvious he has no idea what you are talking about. I’d be less inclined to believe him if, like PP’s said, he had photos or posts attached to that account but he doesn’t. I would hate to be questioned on something innocent like that for a year or more…

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I dont know why you are still suspicious of him years after the incident. Do you have some other reason to think he is lying?

Post # 12
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689 posts
Busy bee

I don’t use facebook anymore. I used to have an account, then deleted it (back in the day when deleting actually meant it was gone from searches, etc). Then, i got a job that req’d me to have access to fcb to update their company page. So I begrudgingly made a new facebook w/ no info, photos, nothing. I quit that job a few months in (don’t ask), and forgot about the stupid fcb account i created for months. So sure, I had an account, but I never went on it or friended anyone. If pple asked tho I always said I didn’t bc I didn’t use the thing.

I think if you don’t have legit reasons to be so suspicious, it’s not a big deal that he has an “account” w/ nothing on it. However, if you think he’s living like a double life thru fcb or something, then talk to him about it. I’d be weirded out if my SO accused me of having a fcb tho as tho I’m doing something secretly bad on there when i don’t actually use it ever. 

Post # 13
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t understand what the big deal is. Maybe if it was OkCupid or something, but not Facebook.

Post # 14
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@lostandconfused4:  I apologize. Let me reword to what I meant: I would hate to be questioned on something seemingly innocent that happened a year or more ago.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I bet if he made it at all it was probably very innoculous. 

I’d bet he made it to make his ex happy or she made it herself. She wanted to link to his account in her “Relationship” section. So he made a dummy account, let her link to it and left it be.  You said there was no information. I bet he was trying to delete it when you saw it logged in. Since there was a bunch of drama with his ex maybe he thought playing dumb was the best solution? Perhaps thinking that the less said about her  (and that period in his life) the less irate you might get?

Honestly, I’d let it be. Believe me, I know how little things can irk you but as long as he is acting trustworthy I’d see no reason to create issues in your relationship by continuing to dwell on it.. 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

He probably thought about signing up or started the process ages ago at some point, and then decided not to.  Or thought he was logging into another site but clicked “log in with facebook” and started it that way.  Either way his computer might have saved the log in info.

Also if his ex had set it up like you thought, she might have done it from his computer and again it saved the info.

It’s weird but there could be a logical innocent explination.

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