- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Okay so I need some outside advice from people who are not my family.
I am thinking about calling off our wedding. & it’s not because of fighting, or in-law drama, etc.
Let me explain,
My future husband is in the Maryland State Police Academy. He is (was) scheduled to graduate on December 21 — in 7 weeks. He already completed 18 weeks.
Unfortunately, what he thought was a sprained knee turns out to be a torn meniscus, completely severed ACL, and a fractured tibia. This basically means that he is not allowed to graduate because he can’t complete the academy… aka, he is being kicked out with only 7 weeks to go.
Sooo, he has an appointment with an ortho surgeon hopefully this week and then they will be placing him on worker’s comp, which is only 2/3 of his current salary. We both work our butts off and are barely scraping by with our current salaries, so him being placed on workers comp for the next however many months basically means that we need to move out of our Pittsburgh apartment and move in with my parents……….. (kill me). The pay cut is essentially going to kill us.
The pay decrease is actually not what the main problem is though. The main problem is, I’m a little embarrassed to be getting married if we are living in my parents’ basement. What does that say about our financial stability? We are very fortunate that months ago, my in-laws offered to help with a huge chunk of our wedding bill. But now I’m just a little reluctant to even think about taking their money. The way I see it, if we can’t afford to be on our own, we shouldn’t be having a wedding.
To make matters worse, his doctor said he will not be physically ready to start the next academy in May, so he’d have to do the following one — in 2015! He says he can’t go through with another academy — he pretty much completed this one & it was a nightmare. I am afraid though that he won’t be able to find another decent job (he has a crim degree–useless).
I told my sister that I was thinking of calling off the wedding and she said I’m crazy.
Have any of you been in a similar situation? Am I wrong for wanting to call everything off? I have already spent about $5000 on non-refundable deposits for various venders. I don’t know what to do.