Post # 1
So i already have my dress and downpayments on photographer and wedding venue. But this wedding has been a lot of fun but a lot of stress and we are still a year out. Fiance and I are considering just going to paris and having our ceremony there.. taking pictures there.. with my daughter Maid/Matron of Honor and best man. The only thing I will really regret is not getting married in the air force chapel. What do you think? Am I just freaking out? Has anyone done this before? Did you regret it?
Post # 3
i think you will regret not having everyone their….
Post # 4
I also had the same exact thoughts! My Fiance talked me down off of the ledge, and when I finally came too and took a few breaths, I realized that this is the wedding I have been dreaming of. I was married once before, and it was not “my” wedding, if you know what I mean. So, now after that one dramatic moment, I feel WONDERFUL and stress free in the wedding planning. I am sticking with first instincts on everything. Too much information (internet, books, tv) about weddings can get people to change everything…multiple times in the course of the planning. I have learned i’m less stressed when I decide on something and stick with it.
That being said, do what makes you happy. Think about the end result. What fills your heart up? Do just that.
Post # 5
I am going to be the counter to the traditional idea that you will regret not having a big wedding. I am a couple months out, and now that the big decisions have been made, things are busy, but not necessarily as stressful anymore. However, while I am excited for the wedding and think it is going to be an awesome time, if I started over planning this knowing what I know now, I would 100% NOT be planning the wedding I am planning now. We would have gotten married in Yosemite Valley with only our immediate family and best friends, and eaten dinner at the Awahnee Hotel as our “reception”. 100%.
It’s not that this isn’t the wedding I dream of, because really, that’s just my fiance and I getting married with our closest there. I WILL have that with our actual wedding, so I am not upset at all, but we also have so much more that has taken so much time and effort and money that is pretty unnecessary to me. My biggest “regret” with the whole thing is that I am going to look back on the last year of my life and know that I spent it planning a party. A fun party that celebrates the best thing to ever happen to me, but still, a party.
Not to be a downer, but the point I am trying to make is: you still have a lot of time. Really think about what you want, and if it’s a big wedding, do it! But don’t think you HAVE to just because everyone tells you you’ll regret not doing it.
Post # 6
@srunnerv6: well.. FI’s family is not coming and we are already doing a Destination Wedding in Colorado (where we met and where the Air Force academy chapel is..) so the guests on both of our sides will already be limited.. BUT I think you might be right…I really want my grandmother there.. and I dont think that would be possible if I were to do it in Paris.
@TheJeanses2012: I feel like, for the most part, I do make up my mind and stick to it. For instance, I booked the church 2 years out lol yes! 2 years. I booked my venue with only Fiance seeing it, I was on facetime. I bought the first dress I tried on and knew the theme we would use without a doubt. I don’t necc think the wedding planning is that stressfull…I just feel like it is a lot of effort for an event that will be very small anyways. I just think.. why the hell don’t we go to paris.. save a ton of money and have amazing pictures?! But the wedding I have always dreamed of has been a great party with close friends… and we wouldn’t have that in paris. It would just be 5 of us..
@baliahi1029: money.. so much money being spent… I am still in school and just seeing us leak so much money makes me nervous…
Post # 7
I also think you will regret it. if you have major stuff done, try and take a break, you have some time before you need to work on everything. that may help you. and then do paris for honeymoon