Post # 1
I don’t really want to set up a registry. I tend to buy everything I need, so there’s really not much out there I’d want to register for. I’m not doing a shower, so I don’t need one for that.
That said, what type of gifts to people usually receive if there’s no registry? Do a lot of people buy random things that become impossible to return? That’s my biggest fear.
ETA: I forgot to mention, we much prefer cash, so I don’t want to send out the impression that we want specific items.
Post # 3
I had a registry and I still got some very random gifts that I don’t know what to do with, including a complete set of plates with blue crabs on them. Most people will probably give you cash, but others prefer to give physical gifts.
Post # 4
@futurefishy: If you aren’t having a shower, most gifts for the wedding will probably be cash. I know some people might give you things like picture frames (because people think everyone who gets married needs a shit ton of picture frames). I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I do have a registry, too. Hope this helps.
Post # 5
People will get you random stuff. I think it’s better to register so you at least know what you’re getting.
Post # 6
I had a small registry and still got some random stuff (picture frames, a zen garden, a bride and groom cake topper after the wedding), but most people gave cash. I think if you spread by word of mouth that you’re “saving up for x” you’ll get the same amount of random gifts that anybody else would.
Post # 7
You’ll get some cash, some gift cards to stores you never go to, and a bunch of useless, random crap. Go register. I don’t know anyone who has ever said “Oh no, I have too many towels and sheet sets”. It’s nice to have extra place settings as well, in the event of breakage or future family expansion.
Post # 8
I spent a ton of time creating our registries, trying to pick things in every price range, carefully selecting things that would fit in our small house, etc. I’ve gotten random towels, cake pans, candle holders, decorative bowls, etc. Of course I appreciate the gifts and the thought behind them, but some of the stuff I honestly don’t know what to do with (a napkin holder crocheted in the shape of a house?).
I think some of it is regional — at the shower thrown by my fiance’s side of the family, every gift but one was from our registry. At the shower thrown by my side of the family, many gifts were off-registry.
Post # 9
@futurefishy: hay im not doing either!! We already live together, have a 1 and a half year old, we have everything we need, and since our wedding is going to be so small i dont really see a need for it. Our families will know what to get us.
Post # 10
Why don’t people just give money!?
I always give money, because who doesn’t want it!
Honestly this whole registry thing has been so irritating, because I don’t want one, but I’m afraid of what will happen if I don’t have one..
Post # 11
I’d probably create a small registry because there will always be people who don’t like giving cash. Otherwise, I imagined that you’d get mostly cash gifts.
Post # 12
You could do a charity registry, cancer foundation or something like that. Some people might still give you cash. This is a way for the people who feel like they MUST GET YOU SOMETHING to give you a gift without actually giving you something physical. Plus, you get to do something nice and look good at the same time. Score!
My FI haaates registries. He thinks even having one is gift grabby! I don’t agree, but since we’re having a destination wedding and it’s going to cost our guests $$$, I was going to request no gifts anyways.
I would have had a small one, probably inexpensive items only for the people that really wanted to give us things. (To prevent weird/unusable gifts, like you said.) But it was the only thing he cared about! A charity registry was the compromise. I just wanted to give an option for gifts, so that was absolutely fine with me. Now people keep telling us that we’re so sweet.
Post # 13
@Kat: That’s exactly how I feel. I always give cash (except for showers). I know my parents will spread the word to give cash to our family/friends, and it’s more prevelant in our culture (I was born in another country).
I just really don’t want/need anything from a Macy’s/Bed Bath & Beyond/etc. I wouldn’t even tell anyone where we’re registered if I did a registry.
Post # 14
No matter what you do, you’ll get random things. We had a small registry at two different stores. We got everything on our registries, cards with cash, and some random things that we will never, ever use, and some people didn’t give us anything. It didn’t matter a bit to us because we just wanted people to have fun on our wedding day. If there really isn’t anything you want, truly, don’t register. People will give you whatever they want anyways, so just be greatful they wanted to spend the day with you.