(Closed) Thinking about no registry

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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1918 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had a registry and I still got some very random gifts that I don’t know what to do with, including a complete set of plates with blue crabs on them.  Most people will probably give you cash, but others prefer to give physical gifts.

Post # 4
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@futurefishy:  If you aren’t having a shower, most gifts for the wedding will probably be cash. I know some people might give you things like picture frames (because people think everyone who gets married needs a shit ton of picture frames). I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I do have a registry, too. Hope this helps.

Post # 5
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

People will get you random stuff. I think it’s better to register so you at least know what you’re getting.

Post # 6
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9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a small registry and still got some random stuff (picture frames, a zen garden, a bride and groom cake topper after the wedding), but most people gave cash.  I think if you spread by word of mouth that you’re “saving up for x” you’ll get the same amount of random gifts that anybody else would. 

Post # 7
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2382 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You’ll get some cash, some gift cards to stores you never go to, and a bunch of useless, random crap.  Go register.  I don’t know anyone who has ever said “Oh no, I have too many towels and sheet sets”.  It’s nice to have extra place settings as well, in the event of breakage or future family expansion. 

Post # 8
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3741 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I spent a ton of time creating our registries, trying to pick things in every price range, carefully selecting things that would fit in our small house, etc. I’ve gotten random towels, cake pans, candle holders, decorative bowls, etc. Of course I appreciate the gifts and the thought behind them, but some of the stuff I honestly don’t know what to do with (a napkin holder crocheted in the shape of a house?).

I think some of it is regional — at the shower thrown by my fiance’s side of the family, every gift but one was from our registry. At the shower thrown by my side of the family, many gifts were off-registry.

Post # 9
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@futurefishy:  hay im not doing either!! We already live together, have a 1 and a half year old, we have everything we need, and since our wedding is going to be so small i dont really see a need for it. Our families will know what to get us. 

Post # 10
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3403 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Why don’t people just give money!?

I always give money, because who doesn’t want it!

Honestly this whole registry thing has been so irritating, because I don’t want one, but I’m afraid of what will happen if I don’t have one..

Post # 11
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2660 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d probably create a small registry because there will always be people who don’t like giving cash.  Otherwise, I imagined that you’d get mostly cash gifts.

Post # 12
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1673 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You could do a charity registry, cancer foundation or something like that. Some people might still give you cash. This is a way for the people who feel like they MUST GET YOU SOMETHING to give you a gift without actually giving you something physical. Plus, you get to do something nice and look good at the same time. Score!

My FI haaates registries. He thinks even having one is gift grabby! I don’t agree, but since we’re having a destination wedding and it’s going to cost our guests $$$, I was going to request no gifts anyways.

I would have had a small one, probably inexpensive items only for the people that really wanted to give us things. (To prevent weird/unusable gifts, like you said.) But it was the only thing he cared about! A charity registry was the compromise. I just wanted to give an option for gifts, so that was absolutely fine with me. Now people keep telling us that we’re so sweet.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

No matter what you do, you’ll get random things. We had a small registry at two different stores. We got everything on our registries, cards with cash, and some random things that we will never, ever use, and some people didn’t give us anything. It didn’t matter a bit to us because we just wanted people to have fun on our wedding day. If there really isn’t anything you want, truly, don’t register. People will give you whatever they want anyways, so just be greatful they wanted to spend the day with you.

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