Post # 1
So FI and I were in the mall last night and we decided to go try on wedding bands for fun. Our wedding is 1 year+ away so we have PLENTY of time… but I gotta say I was SUPER disappointed after trying on bands!
I really like the look of super thin bands because I feel like wide bands look funny on my finger. One of the things I love most about my e-ring is that the band is thinner than the diamond… I know it is just a matter of preference but I really like how that looks. There just wasn’t any wedding band that I liked the look of with my ring! At first I thought I’d get a really thin micropave band but it looked funny with my e-ring because the diamonds were a different size than the diamonds in my e-ring band. Then the man suggested I try a band that matched my e-ring almost perfectly, but the look was wayyyy too wide. I felt like when you put the two together it really shrinks the size of my solitaire. Then I tried on a thin plain band and that looked weird I thought too. Sigh.
FI was not at all helpful as he said that he loves my e-ring so much he hates to see anything put next to it. We kicked around the idea of me maybe not getting a band or maybe getting a band to wear on my right hand… but I feel like then people won’t know I”m married. Also, I don’t want to wear my e-ring on my right hand w/ band on my left because I just don’t like the way it looks.
I know we have plenty of time to shop around but I was sad because I thought wedding ring shopping would be really fun and instead I just found it really frustrating 🙁
Pics of my ering (as if anyone hasn’t seen it! heh), a micropave band, and the band that matches my e-ring below.
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Post # 3
Your engagement ring is gorgeous, and looks great on its own. And you know what? Having another ring doesn’t make you any more or any less married– it’s just more metal on your finger. What are your reasons for not wanting to go without? Just that people won’t automatically know that you’re married?
You have plenty of time to make this decision, so don’t fret too much. It also might be worth seeing if your jeweler would let you wear the ring for a day or two, to see if it “grows” on you.
Post # 4
Your E-ring is fabulous!!! Congrats!
Regarding not getting a wedding ring, i think I would hold on off that decision for at least a little while. The first few times we looked at wedding rings we were disappointed too. But in the end, we just decided to have a band custom made. We are SO happy that we did! Don’t worry – you will find something that you love!
FYI: I really like the ring that goes with your E-ring (the second posted pic ) but I understand that it is a personal decision and YOU have to love it! Keep looking and don’t rule out custom work!
Post # 5
i think you’d be fine without one.. if you are really looking though, definitely check lord of the gem rings (great reviews on pricescope) and they have an ebay store
Post # 6
You could do two very thin ones, one on either side.
Otherwise, don’t get a band if you don’t want one. People will know you’re married if they see your So with you. Plus, lots of women only wear one ring nowadays–I notice it a lot and unless they’re really young, I just assume they like to wear the one. I have a friend who just prefers delicate jewelry and only wanted the one band.
Post # 7
I am totally with you on this one! I love thin bands and personally, I think it would be kinda uncomfy to have 2 rings on one little ol finger lol. I am probably the minority on this one but I say just rock the engagement ring! Thats what I plan on doing, we will probably get me an inexpensive wedding band and I will wear my e-ring most of the time. But If we go somewhere where I dont want to risk losing it or something, bam! on goes the wedding band!
Hope this helps and good luck with your decision!!
Post # 8
@jhphi- yea i don’t know… maybe just because it is nontraditional to not wear a band? I like the symbolism of exchanging new rings at the ceremony. Plus I feel like people would always mistake me for engaged v. married? I dunno. Maybe I”m being silly and I should just stick with my e-ring.
@mrsk2be- thanks 🙂
@crebre– I’ll go check them out right now!
I’m not in a hurry to buy the rings (we don’t have the money now anyways…) I was just really surprised that I didn’t like any of the ones I tried on!
Post # 9
I am also not getting a band to go with e-ring. For me, I love the look of my e-ring without it. As far as people not knowing your married-many people won’t even realize you don’t have a band. I have people compliment my e-ring now and ask how long i’ve been married…and i’m not! Plus when your out with hubby, he will have his band on.
I say keep looking to make sure you aren’t missing out something you might actually want, but don’t feel awkward without it just b/c most people have them. Go with your heart.
Post # 10
@crebre- oh my gosh, thanks a lot for introducing me to “lord of gem”!!! How am I gonna keep my mouth closed on this one! lol
Post # 11
@ejs- i think 2 bands would make it look even wider. I think if i get anything it will prob be just 1.
@honeybear- that is kind of a good point… maybe get one for the ceremony and have it as a substitute for when i don’t want to wear my e-ring. I can’t really think of a time where i won’t want to wear my e-ring… but I”m sure it will happen at some point. 🙂
Post # 12
I think that is a good idea to have it sort of as a ring that you will wear later on. You might not want to wear your diamond ring when you go out of the country on trips or if you ever have kids. I’ve heard a lot of people who don’t want to wear their engagement ring after having kids since the higher prongs are more likely to hurt the kids. I don’t see any problem with not wearing a bad every day. Even if it is considered ‘nontraditional’ there are a lot of nontraditional things that people are doing now so it’s almost becoming traditional!
Post # 13
My soon to be “step sister- in law” (its a mouthful) has an engagement ring that has a really wide band, and she has petite fingers, so she wears her wedding band on her right hand and it looks greatt. It almost is obvious that she wouldn’t wear a band with the e-ring…so you know that the band on her right hand is clearly her wedding band 🙂 So many choices! I actually love my wedding band with my e-ring, I think it highlights my solitaire.
Post # 14
@miss chicken– do you have a picture of the set?
Post # 15
So glad I found this post. Great to read all the opinions. I was/am in the same position. I love my engagement ring and when I tried on wedding bands with it it just didn’t look as nice. My partner also agreed the band took away the beauty of the engagement ring I already have. So I am just going with one ring. I was also concerned and encouraged by my mother-in-law that people will not know i’m married with only one ring and that I may regret later not getting one. But I used to work with a girl who only had one ring, she said she did get asked on occasion if she were married or engaged, but she didn’t care. Guys only have to wear one ring, so should we! It eventually felt insane to be looking for another ring to compliment the already great ring I have and to spend more money just because it’s tradition. I know i’ll be married, as will all our friends and family at the wedding. That’s the main thing, so it shouldn’t matter that I won’t have “the wedding band” to prove it. Everyone is different though. You hopefully only get married once, so you gotta do what feels right for you. If that means getting a band just for the day and wearing it on another hand or not at all later, then you should do it.
Post # 16
@spazorange- glad i’m not alone! Do you have pictures of your e-ring? I love blingy pictures 🙂