- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
I’m in the middle of making my list of guests for the wedding. My FI and I have talked about if we should include kids or not and I can’t make up my mind. My dad is one of five children in a large Italian family. I just counted the amount of people on my dad’s side and it would be 13 less without the children.
One of my reasons for not inviting them, besides saving money because of the large amount of children, is the fact that one of my dad’s sisters does not help with taking care of her children when out in public. She just yells at her husband. Granted, her children have matured but they are still unpredictable and some days are worse then others. I don’t want to have to have people chasing them around the reception site. I will be having candle centerpieces and would worry about the risk of fire.
However, there are some children that I really really like and would love to be able to see them around our wedding date. Considering that most of my family is from out of town (I have family in IN, AZ, GA, Hong Kong, etc) and it would be hard to have them have childcare I was thinking about maybe having them all get a block of rooms and having a babysitter or something watch the kids in the room. Or there is a medium sized waterpark in the hotel in which the reception is located and maybe someone could watch them or take them there so they are entertained (I could inform the family of the price and let them choose I guess) Does this sound ok or silly?
My second question is when do I know the cutoff date of “children” and “adults”. I have several cousins I would like have with me on the day of ranging in age. I think that one or two of them will not be 18 by the day of the wedding. Should I not invite any of the children of the family at all, or set an age limit? I’m not sure how I feel about all of this at all yet.