Post # 1
I’m planning on a 150-175 guest list – only very close friends/family. Other than they are ‘cute’, I can’t think of a good reason to send STD’s. Anyone who is planning on traveling will get an email/note from me. Everyone else, I will tell in conversation over the next few months. My wedding is 13 months away, so I have plenty of time. Plus, I don’t want to find myself with the ‘I sent them a STD, I must send them an invite’ issue.
Are STD’s only to avoid having to personally tell people you’ve picked a date? Am I missing something? I’m ready to cross those off a ‘to do’ list and saving on printing and postage because I’m finding them unnecessary.
Post # 3
I did not send std’s … I’m happy I didn’t. It built anticipation and everyone is dying over our invitations right now! I would never have been able to get the reaction I’m getting over the invitations we created together … which took FOREVER we struggled over doing perfect invites … so I say no. Do not send them! We are also expecting like 170’ish to come … so it’s a smallish wedding (for us).
Post # 4
I have to say, I wish I hadnt sent save the dates. I admit, it’s fun and exciting to get your date out there and let people know when you’re getting married, but it also binds you to inviting every one of those people. I had people who were so excited that we got engaged, so of course I wanted to invite them to the wedding, But now I never talk to them. My STD’s were cheap and easy, but if I could do it over again, I wouldnt. Just my thoughts on the matter! Happy planning! 🙂
Post # 5
i sent my stds via email – no printing, no postage. just me, a photo, ppt and pdf.
we did it because we only had 9 months and people needed to cross time zones and country lines to get to the wedding so we wanted to give as much advanced noice as possible. it also forced us to figure out our invite list early in the process which helped for planning purposes. it prevented the ad hoc “let’s invite the neighbor” situation.
Post # 6
Oliveyou- thats what happened to me … everyone was so excited and especially at places I frequent every week and I told like 3 different places I wished I could have a table for them … but obviously now … I’m maxed out on space … uhh bad move.
Post # 7
I’m not sending STD’s, but I’m having a very small wedding (~50 or so guests) and most are from in town.
Post # 8
Definitely don’t have to. I did, but that was because my wedding was over a holiday weekend.
Post # 9
I don’t think that STDs are a must, unless you’re getting married out of town (like WAY out of town!) or on a holiday weekend. And that’s just a courtesy…which could be taken care of via email, word of mouth, etc. like you’ve already mentioned.
I also ran into the problem of having to invite a few people that I didn’t really want to invite due to my STDs…but it was just 4 couples, so I’m not really crying about it.
Post # 10
Personally, I really enjoy Save the Dates, but I do agree that they are not necessary. I think its one of those things that if you have the room in your budget (and the time!), you should totally do.
However, they don’t have to be expensive or time consuming if you do want to do but don’t have the resources–emails, evites, or even printing the info on a photo in Kodak Gallery or Shutterfly are all perfectly great ways to get the word out. It’s not a deal breaker either way. I just really love having them on my fridge or bulletin board for the few months leading up to a friend’s wedding!
Post # 11
Def. not a must depending on the wedding. For me, a def. must. FI’s family lives across the country and I doubt half of them would show up if I didn’t do STDs. Also, e-mail not an option for me, as most of his friends/family don’t check their e-mail often or even have e-mail! (what the heck.. crazy, I know.)
Post # 12
I really enjoyed making my STD and people think they are amazing.
- out of town–it’s in FL; His family are all over FL, NJ, and Puerto Rico! Mine family are in MS, LA, and IL.
- unfortuantley, it’s a holiday weekend and I could have swore I picked one that wasn’t, but I just found out memorial is usually observed the last week/weekend of May.
- Had the budget, the time, and the cutest idea ever. (I’m gonna post pics soon)
- My family is um…low income so I wanted to give them a lot of time to save for the wedding to make it down here.
Post # 13
I agree that it totally depends on the wedding. 95% of our guests are from out of town, and my immediate family and friends from home will have to travel across the country, so we’re sending save the dates as a courtesy so people will know well in advance. That being said, I’ve been to five weddings this year that were all out of town, and all had save the dates, but I generally didn’t make my travel plans until I got the invitation and it was closer to the actual date. So I’d say, if you don’t think you need them, don’t send them!
Post # 14
It depends on you and your wedding. I am getting married on a holiday so I need them to make sure people dont make other plans such as travel or just basic holiday plans. We are having about 150 people come and for me that seems quite large. STD’s are just an easy way to send out a quick note to people we definitely want to go since we do not have e-mails for everyone. I just like the formality of this.
Post # 15
We told our nearest and dearest when the date was, and the word spread from there, so we got away just fine without doing STDs.
Post # 16
We are sending our save the dates to those few guests that we can not imagine not being at our wedding. And even though we will be TELLING everyone our date, doesn’t mean they will REMEMBER! the hard copy save the date on the fridge will keep it fresh in their mind.