- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So I currently have a BA (major in English, minor in History). The original plan was to go to law school but I unfortunately didn’t get in . Plan B was to be a teacher but I decided to take a year off school and really think about it before applying to do my B.Ed. During my year off, I got a job at an insurance company, and decided I enjoyed the work, and loved the people I worked with, and decided to stay. Not so much because I didn’t want to be a teacher, but because I liked my current job.
After a few years there I realised that I wasn’t going to get too far in the company without some sort of business degree (at least a BComm, if not an MBA) so I decided to start working on that. I registered for a 4 year program and was able to transfer nearly a year of courses from my first degree as electives. Since I can’t afford to quit work and go to school full time, and the part time program at my local university won’t work with my current work schedule, I decided to take online courses.
Well that’s not going so well. The courses just don’t interest me at all, I can’t focus and it’s taking me forever to get through a course! At the rate I’m going I probably won’t finish my degree for another 8-9 years, and that’s just not something that interests me.
Recently though an opportunity has come up that would combine teaching with horseback riding. I started taking lessons awhile ago and absolutely LOVE it, to the point where I’ll probably be buying a horse of my own in the next year or so and starting to compete. I have an opportunity to become a certified riding coach at the stable where I take lessons – they have a coaching mentorship program and my coach thinks I’d be great at it. I’d have to take a few additional lessons, write a few exams and then be able to coach beginner lessons while working up to a more advanced coaching level. It would probably take about 2 years, 3 at the most to get to the point where I’d be teaching beginer lessons. I’ve had to take a couple courses already to get to my current level and was able to get through the material super quick because it’s something that actually REALLY interests me. I haven’t had much formal training in the saddle, but did a fair amount of rididing when I was younger and can do most of the things required on the advanced level tests, I just need to work on a few techniques a little to get there. It’s more the theory side of things that I have to work on (when I was younger it was more about getting on a horse and riding than formal lessons). My coach is amazed at how well I’m doing techinically. We’ve sat down together and looked at what I can do on a horse and what you need to do to move up through the various levels and she agrees that it would just take some studying on the theory side of things, and some additional training on the riding side of things to go through the various levels.
My ‘career’ goals at this point: well to be honest I don’t know what they are. I love the people I work with and the company I work for, but I don’t think I’ll be able to advance that much within the company. I don’t think I’d be able to go somewhere else and get much higher than I could at my current company either, without going back to school. Quitting or cutting back my hours to focus more on school isn’t really financially in the cards for us. But as much as I love my job, the pay isn’t that great, and that’s pretty much the only thing I’d like to change – it would be nice to earn more money so I could actually afford a horse or two and be able to compete!
Coaching would help me do that in 2 ways – I’d be earning some extra money to help afford my horse, and the coaching would get me extra time at the barn and working with horses to get to where I can compete. I am fully aware that coaching part time on it’s own won’t provide enough income to fund a horse and all that goes with it and competitions, it would just be a little extra to help out. We have a fair amount of wiggle room in our budget, especially if I stopped taking my classes, and there’s definitely several areas where I’d cut back in order to afford a horse and competitions.
But then this brings me to another problem: I feel like I keep changing my mind about what I want to do. What if the same thing happens with the horseback riding coaching though? I get part way through and decide that I don’t want to do it either? And I’d feel pretty terrible about the money I’ve wasted taking the few extra courses I’ve taken so far! Not to mention how much DH has sacrificed to help me with school (he’s helped pay for some of the courses and has picked up a lot of the ‘slack’ at home, doing the lion’s share of the house work so that I can study). I know he’d be dissapointed in me if I quit school too.
I really don’t know what to do! I guess I’m just looking for advice from bees who had a hard time deciding ‘what they wanted to be when they grow up’, but who have decided now. How did you make that decision? Any regrets?