- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Let me clarify, I’m not wanting to call off the wedding completely, just cancel the wedding and elope. We are having a destination wedding in Tybee Island, GA. We have tried to keep it small, under 40 people, which is more than what we wanted in the first place, but Fiance and I both have 4 brothers and sisters, and most of them are married with one or two children. (we are both the youngest) So, that makes 27 people before inviting anyone other than parents and siblings. So, we narrowed down our guest list to another 13 people, including our best friends, and their spouses/so’s. We aren’t having attendants. However, we didn’t invite aunts and uncles, etc. other than my favorite aunt and uncle, (the reasoning behind that is that I’m EXTREMELY close to them, spent every summer with them, they have no kids so it’s like my surrogate parents) because we just didn’t have the desire to make it into such a large affair. We wanted intimate, and private. All of our parents come from very large families, and it would have turned into a circus. Just on my dad’s side I have 14 aunts and uncles, and 43 cousins. So you see how it could have ended up to be extremely huge. Anyway…now, from my side there has been not one complaint, nothing. Everyone has sent well wishes, my family gave me a shower, (surprise) and want to throw us a reception when me get back. So sweet, not that I ever expected anything of the sort. His family however…diffent story. No, not his FAMILY, just his MOM. Now, we are the only ones who are having an actual WEDDING type affair. His other brothers and sisters either eloped, or just JOP’d it:) . (I can see the allure of that) She is excited, I get that. She’s been to so many relatives and friends kid’s weddings and I feel like she is looking at this to show off a little bit. She wants to invite EVERYONE! Seriously, she has sent me guest lists, emails, etc. Wanting to invite this person or that, why can’t we invite aunts/uncles, they will be so hurt, blah blah blah. She won’t take no for an answer. Let me just add, we are paying for EVERYTHING ourselves. No help from anyone. We just bought a house, we had a baby 9 months ago, we have other things that need our financial attention, rather than a reception for 300 people she wants to invite costing us 50 grand! Seriously! We have a pretty expensive reception location, but since we were only having 40 people it was in our budget (and when I say budget I mean it, no going over one cent). However, the catering is $100 per person. She has over 70 people that she claims will be just devastated if we don’t invite them. That’s over $7000! Is she insane!?! We have both told her in no uncertain terms we will NOT be extending our guest list, and she continues to insist. Now, I find out she actually invited people! MADE PHOTO COPIES OF OUR INVITES! are you F’ing serious?!!!! These people are thinking that they are coming to our wedding and reception and there is no place for them! My husband called her and had a long heated discussion with her and reiterated what we have already told her numerous times. WE ARE NOT GOING OVER 40 PEOPLE! But, it’s kind of late now. People are already thinking they are coming. She then proceeds to tell me in a text message this morning that she is going to call them and tell them that they will need to pay for their dinner at the reception. #%£€¥%#! Aaaaaaarrrrrrggghhh! NO! I can’t even begin to tell you how incredible rude and so not Emily Post (lol) I find this! That is so low class and just plain humiliating to me. Wtf do I do?! I cried half the night, and just feel like there is no solution that won’t just embarrass the crap out of me. I want to just call off my perfect little intimate beach wedding with the fun party afterward and just go elope somewhere. I’m feeling pretty hopeless right now. Who does this crap?! we are now going to have to make embarrassing phone calls, and be like, oh sorry, no you aren’t actually invited. OMG! My Fiance is so mad at her, and I am so upset. I don’t even begin to understand where she came up with this stupid plan. Did she think I wouldn’t notice 70 people just showing up? Tybee and Atlanta aren’t far enough apart to think that a good many of them would’t make the drive. Oh, and another thing is, my reception contract and cake contract is pretty much locked in. I can add more people, but I already gave my final count. So, even if I wanted to it would be a pain. Not that I’m going to, we are firm on that, but it just puts us in such an embarrassing position.Please pardon any grammatical or spelling errors, I’m in too much of a state to proofread.