@Merinda1994: Ooh, I have a lot to share with you!
First of all I have eloped twice. My first was in the court house (not even court house, more like country clerk’s office, she just stood up from her desk!). We just wore regular clothes, went to work afterwards. NOT SPECIAL! No ring, dress, flowers, nada. And because I really thought we were going to redo it all, I told everyone to not congratulate us now, we’re doing over soon. And that did not happen. So uneventful.
My second elopement was a full on wedding for two – dress, cake, champagne, photographer and vacation in one! It was a perfect combination of who we are and what we believe in.
Anybody planning a wedding and just decide to elope?
When my husband and I were engaged, we felt we should do the wedding route. I did not get the wedding the first time, and it was his first wedding. The families had not met, people can come to us finally (most had never travelled to us yet), our friends of all corners of the earthy can finally meet. It’ll be grand! Well it was really hard to plan. We even had the money but I did not like spending it. My family was very apathetic to it all well in advance. My dad died while we were engaged (we knew it was coming so we just cancelled the whole idea). He died a month before our “would be” wedding day (the day we had booked/paid for), so that is good that we cancelled it. Very sad all around.
After he passed away and we mourned, we still had to get married. We tried to do just an immediate family only wedding but still there were road blocks. It was just easiest if we went on a vacation and got married wherever in the world we wanted. It was hard to choose! We had ideas for 3 different countries and 5 different states believe it or not. We wanted to spend $5k in all, but it was more like $7k for wedding and vacation.
We ended up doing an 11 day road trip to the Canadian Rockies an got married in a national park. The lodge there offered an elopement package and it was ABSOLUTELY perfect.
Did you have any regrets?
I do not regret one minute of it. I am sad how my family was so blah to it all, but in the end I really got an amazing day. It would not have been that amazing if I had worry about their sourpuss attitudes all day or my mother having a crying fit because she felt ugly (like she did on my sister’s wedding day)! We even got to hike 5 miles on the day of our wedding. Such bliss!
I may never get to see our families meet or have them all in the same room. There are worse things in life however. We have so much to be fortunate for though.
We still got a few gifts from immediate family (total surprise), but had to forgo all the prewedding parties and such.
How did you make your day feel special?
I got a wedding dress, H got a suit. The elopement package came with a custom bouquet and bout, champagne for toasting and dinner, a three course wedding dinner, a personal wedding cake (which fed us for 4 days). It came with a wedding planner to make it all happen. We had never been there before, and we just had to show up and look good! I also got a very nice photographer to come out for 3 hours to photograph us. She was really good. We got to add our own touch to the vows. We opted to add components of our heritage. For his Swedish side, we walked into the ceremony together arm in arm (a normal custom there). This was right after our first look. For my Irish side, we added an Old Irish Blessing that was not religious and worked for me. I considered a few more touches, but that was what we did in the end.
So in the end, this idea is not for everyone. I do occasionally wonder how I would have felt spending twice as much for a party and finally having family meet (that is if they would have shown up).
However, sometimes Plan B can be equally awesome or even more awesome! There are several routes that will work for your wedding day. The options are endless. I am in love with how our entire day and weddingmoon turned out. It was perfect for us!