- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC
I haven’t posted here in a long, long time mainly because I’ve been really down about wedding planning and wedding costs. I got engaged in May 2011 and it feels like we’ve made zero progress. We still want to get married just as much if not more than we did then, but it’s not going anywhere.
I tried on a few dresses with my mom and a good friend, which was great, but other than that no solid wedding planning has happened. We don’t even have a date and have no idea about a venue. Our wedding planning kind of went in cycles. At first we found some wedding venues we liked and bookmarked them to go look at, then we decided we couldn’t really afford a venue and didn’t feel comfortable spending all that money on one day. We then decided that maybe we could have it in a good friend’s backyard. No one has really come out of the woodwork as an option.
I’m just really bummed out that everyone who got engaged after me has already gotten married. I even have people asking me if we’ve broken up because they haven’t heard any news in awhile. This is all really disheartening.
So, I got to thinking about what I really want in a wedding. I want:
- A nice pretty backdrop – preferably somewhere outside
- Pictures of us – we don’t have many and I’d like to have them to look back on when I’m older
- A pretty dress – I’ve always wanted a nice wedding dress to feel really “bridal” for the day
- Personalized vows – This is the most important thing to me
That’s really all I want. Do you think eloping should be on the table? Fly somewhere nice and get married with some pictures and a dress? I just want to be able to call him my husband and have good memories.
My parents will not be upset if they aren’t there – they just want us to be happy.
Would it be acceptable to send out an announcement afterwards and say we’ll be somewhere at a certain time to celebrate? We don’t have money to pay for a dinner and don’t expect any gifts. Would it be okay to say, for example, “Sarah and Coltan will be at (place – maybe a casual bar) at (time) and would love to see you to celebrate their new marriage.”
I’m kind of down and confused, bees. I would love input and hope you’ve all been well since I haven’t been around here in months.