(Closed) Thinking of firing our DOC

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Oh heck!  I would have second thoughts about her as well.  Would the venue coordinator be able to pick up some extra responsibilities?  Are you getting married and having the reception in the same place?

Post # 4
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2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

She works for you, since you hired you and paid her in full.  I wouldn’t fire her, because I wouldn’t want to lose all that money.   She needs to report to you (or FI), though.  Tell her you don’t want her confirming with vendors, because someone else will be taking care of that task.  Veto her timeline, and tell her your needs.  Be strong.  If she can’t adapt to different situations, she’s not very good at her job and i would make sure I would say that in your review of her.

Sorry you have to deal with this.

Post # 5
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Sounds like she is causing trouble rather than streamlining things. Doesn’t that utterly defeat the purpose of having a coordinator?

I would just work with the venue’s coordinator and leave it at that. Too many cooks, etc.

Post # 6
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d sit down with the post you wrote, and go over your problems point by point, and discuss contract termination and a partial refund. (If she’s uncooperative, I’d point out that at this point, any reviews you write of her services won’t exactly be glowing.)

Post # 8
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

That sucks, that is a big chunk of money to walk away from. Still, at this point, I think it’s worth asking yourself, “What’s it buying us?” If it’s actually buying you some services that are somewhat helpful to you, that’s one thing – but if it’s buying you problems, well, then, it’s a sunk cost and hanging on to it in order to say “at least it didn’t go to waste” means it’s actually “buying” you additional difficulties. There may come a point when it’s actually worth paying this lady to go away.

I would, however, do as another poster said and see what you can do about a partial refund. Try to salvage what you can and get out now!

Post # 9
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@sportsgal31:  What does your contract say?  Have a read over it with FI, and then arrange a meeting with her and force the issues out in the open.  If both of you are finding it impossible to deal with her, then something needs to be done.  Would there be an extra charge by the coordinator to take on more responsibility?

I would mention to DOC that her attitude up to now will not be winning her any stars on your review of her services.

One thing for sure, delete her off FB, or if you can’t be arsed with the possible drama that involves, at least filter her posts, so you don’t have to see every little detail. 

Post # 10
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1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Word of advice, the way she communcates with you in emails and over texts/person will be how she communicates with your family and guests.  

Follow your gut.

I wish I had fired my DOC.  I wish I had followed my gut instinct. 

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