- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So I have a BM that is extremely difficult and trying to get her to do things for the wedding like pick out a dress for herself is like asking it to rain gold. I have been very flexible with her and held my frustrations in for a while now. My FI is mad and no longer wants her around or in the wedding because of what she has been doing or lack there of and how its been stressing me to tears at some points.
I recently invited her out to go over wedding stuff on Sunday night to a nice restraunt, dinner was gonna be on us. Well I tried calling and texting with no answer so me and FI went to dinner (which was amazing) and about 1030 that night I get a txt from her saying sorry been at church just got out an hour ago and dealing with more family drama, been a bad day. I didnt respond I was highly upset to put it mildly. She wanted me to believe she has been at church from noon til 9 and then the family dramam thing AGAIN. She seems to always have family drama with her mom and aunt that constantly keep here from going out, im not to sure on this. I called her the following morning and asked if she wanted to go out to dinner that night (Monday) she said she would think about it and call us back later, later came nocall, I called her and she sent a text back saying she didnt feel well sorry. Well FI was done at this point and I was not knowing what to do.
I was on FB yesterday and popped in on here page and saw that Sunday night when she was suppose to go to dinner with us but had family drama she was actually out with a friend til like 1am and on Monday night she was out till midnight with this guy she started seeing when seh told me she wanted to sleep she wasnt feeling well. I am not mad in any way that she has a life, but I try to plan the wedding things i need the BM to do(mainly try on the dresses) around the girls schedules. All the other girls have been communicating wonderfuly and those appts have worked out great. But When I set a dress appt for the girls and this one BM tells me well I can only stay for maybe 30 mins but no longer i have things to do.
Also she has been watching my puppy a few times last year when I needed to go out of town, and this last time I dont think she stayed at the house in the evening as my pup was very detacted, he didnt really know what to do when we walked in the door the last time we got back. It was very weird and his water bowl was bone dry. I confronted her on this and she swears up and down she stayed. So I let it go and assumed that maybe she just didnt fill his bowl up from the night before. So im flying out next weekend to reno(where we’re getting married) to do venue and my dress, and asked her to watch the dog. When I confirmed she would be house sitting /puppy sitting and that she would stay the night here, she seemed like maybe she may not want to do it. Well she still said yes and ive been trying to talk to her about the dog and staying here and what she needs to do wih him now as he is a bit older and has a few health issues that need to be watched. i tell her ill call her when i get off work to talk she says ok, then i call and she says she isnt feeling well and wants to just go to sleep and will call me next day. the next day comes and no call
I am worried my pup will be locked up in his crate for long hours and if she does come by only let him out for an hour or so then leave him locked up all night. He never sleeps at night in the kennel. I am tired of the lies and avoidance of this girl and I want to be able to go up to Reno and plan my wedding without being distracted on whether she came to look after my pup, like promised.
She is a 30yr old woman that has lied to me and been caught and I dont want the dog msstreated. I feel like I can t rely on her now before the wedding to do pretty much anything, so how am I suppose to rely on her to be at the wedding at all.
Oh yeah and she has been complaining about traveling to reno for the wedding saying she is tight on money , however she just bought a gym membership and is payng on top of that $45 a session for personnal trainer. I have given her a few ideas, like driving up with one of the other BM and splitting the gas to save $$$ she says she isnt sure she could afford that. But still wants to be a BM. UGH Im so frustrated, I just want to enjoy planning our wedding
Thank you for letting me rant I know this is long