Thinking of NOT going home for the holidays

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: WWYD?
    Take a break this year. You can always go next year. : (19 votes)
    90 %
    Just deal and go - think of the children! . : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    502 posts
    Busy bee

    Fly out another time. Take the holidays to relax the two of you, just this one year. Then you can head out in February or something, when the cost is lower and there are fewer crowds and maybe less snow. The holidays are sometimes enjoyed the best on your own.

    I haven’t been able to spend Christmas with my family (OR my SO) for the last THREE YEARS. Not by my own choice. But by now, I look forward to a solitary holiday. It’s peaceful, it’s quiet, and I can make time in other months for a family get together. And my family isn’t bitter. They got over it pretty fast :p

    Post # 6
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @sienna76:  We moved to CA from GA 5 years ago and went back to see the family annually as well. After 5 straight years of this I feel you on the resentment. We finally bucked up and told them we wouldn’t be flying out there for at least a year so we could save some $$ (we were tired of shelling out upwards of 3G’s for a non-vacation annually) and wouldn’t ya know- people started paying to come and visit us! 

    I don’t blame you for thinking the way you are, and I totally understand! The guilt won’t really go away easily but maybe you could schedule a skype session with the family so you can still “see” them all? We do that now with every major holiday & it seems to help alot! We flew out to see them all one year for Thanksgiving & it was a mad house trying to get there & back! 

    Post # 7
    5248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We live just 20 minutes from each of our parents and we plan to spend Christmas alone this year… just the two of us in our new home as a newly married couple. We will probably see them as some point but we wont be staying over there like we normally do

    Post # 9
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @sienna76:  Relationships shouldn’t be one sided and you are doing all the work and incurring all the expense. There is nothing wrong with starting a new tradition with your husband. It’s not like they are your kids 😛

    However,  this is coming from the girl who flies to Russia every damn year at xmas, lol. However, my dad pays for everyone so I don’t mind. If I had to pay for it then there is not a chance in hell I’d be doing it.

    Post # 10
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Take a year off.  Having to do the holidays every year gets stressful, especially if you are always the ones to travel.  I’m sure if you had kids of your own, they wouldn’t expect you to travel every year.  I would just keep quiet about it until someone asks and then tell them you plan on having a quiet holiday just the two of you this year.

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