Post # 1
DH and I are planning to TTC within the next year. We are stuck in compromising on a timeframe, please help!
I would like to start TTC in Dec/Jan.
DH says he wants to wait until later next year (no particular time) and his only reason is because he thinks if I’m in my third trimester during the summer, “I will be hot, irritable and self-loathing all the time bc I’m huge and don’t want to wear a bathing suit or go to the beach.”
I am actually wanting to be at my biggest during the summer. With how the women in my family carry, and body frame, it’s pretty safe for me to assume I won’t gain a ton of weight, and will probably just have a cute bump. I’m excited to rock a baby bump! I figure, I can get by in the summer with dresses and things to fit over the bump, verses having to buy warm maternity clothes if we were to plan to be full term in the winter.
Also, I’d rather not give birth close to the holidays at the end of the year. Those birthdays suck and always get lumped into one of the holidays.
What are your opinions/experiences with being in the third trimester in the summer vs. winter? We have “spring” and “fall”, but honestly, the weather here may be “in-between” for about 2 weeks.
Post # 3
How hot are summers there? Where i live its generally 40 degrees which is miserable normally, let alone pregnant!
Im 6 months and already pretty tired so i woukdnt want to be at my biggest during summer. Ive always been very slim so didnt thjnk id need a lot of maternity stuff but by 14 weeks nothing fitted anymore!!
Thing is, it might take a minth it might take a year. Hard to ttc with a plan to give birth at a specific time!
Post # 4
I was large over the winter, and had a spring baby. I was SOOOOO relieved to not be pregnant over the summer, since even in the dead of winter I had the windows open and couldn’t bear to wear a jacket.
The drawback was when I was clearing ice/snow off my windshield before work in the morning… as my belly grew, the space in the middle that I could not reach also grew :/ Also, since I thought I was going to catch fire and literally die of heat exhaustion every time I put on anything heavier than a sweatshirt, my belly always had a big wet spot on it from leaning on the car.
I was also afraid of slipping in the ice.
All in all, I’m glad I had a spring baby- no worries about overheating or being too cold for the newborn, and her immune system has had ample time to mature now that we’re heading into cold and flu season.
Post # 5
I really hope you can choose, but most people don’t. It takes a bit of time to conceive and I can’t imagine you are going to stop trying for 9 months just because you don’t like the season during your last trimester. I suggest you just pick a start date for TTC and take it from there.
Post # 6
@MissCountryGirl727: My sister is TTC right now and is a little shocked that it took longer than once to conceive. She charted and did everything you are supposed to do, it just hasn’t happened yet. It’s been 4 months.
A bridemaid of mine just announced her pregnancy this weekend. She started trying in February and conceived in July.
My point: don’t over think it. It may take some time before it happens. And good luck!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MissCountryGirl727: I live in Florida so many moms try to plan their TTC windows so that they aren’t due during the summer. So I see lots of extra birth announcements in February and March. We would like to avoid me being pregnant during the summer entirely due to dehydration issues but if it takes a little while to conceive we’ll get what we get. We initially plan to start TTC in May or June 2015.
Post # 8
Yeah I think you’re overthinking a little! Although I totally wanted a summer baby, we have so many stinkin October birthdays and the holiday’s are just too crazy, then it’s 9 months of boring the rest of the year. Lucky for us it only took one shot and we are due next June. I don’t think it’s unusual to plan around delivering a certain time of year for various reasons, but you should remind your husband that you’ll be hot cranky and hormonal no matter what time of year it is! LOL Nothing wrong with a little planning just remember that once you start your plan goes out the window and you are at the mercy of mother nature
Post # 9
I get pretty heat intolerant in the Summer/Heat so we decided to TTC this month, but then skip all months until April or so, this way I won’t be super huge in the Summer.
It sucks because then you have to factor in winter time delivery in New York…uhk!
Post # 10
I’m in the minority here but my vote would be for summer…..Yes, you will most likely be hot and uncomfortable but I like the idea of rocking your biggest belly in summer dresses.
Also then you can try to hide your post-pregnancy belly in roomy winter clothes (yay!) I have also thought ahead to the following year….when your baby is almost 1 yr old it will be summer (or end of)…meaning fun times at the beach/summer holidays with grown baby that is a stage in life that is really fun. This is the time frame I am trying to hit with ttc. Mind you, I haven’t ever been pregnant so I could totally be wrong!! haha.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Yeah, if it were easy enough to actually choose when your body decided to get pregnant, I think we’d see a lot more babies born in April and May. Even if your are getting pregnant via IVF, when you have the most explicit control over the process, you still have no guarantees about which cycle will actually stick. So I really would not let this factor into my TTC timing.
That said, purely by accident DS was due in March, and I am glad that I was dealing with pregnancy hot flashes over the winter. I would have been miserable in the summer.
Post # 12
This is fun to think about but after a few cycles of TTC you will realize that trying to plan the due date is not possible. Even if you do get pregnant when you hope to, early miscarriages happen alot and can push your whole timeline back. And by that point you will just want a sticky baby and not care when its born!
Post # 13
@MissCountryGirl727: I wanted a fall/winter baby because of the fact I didnt want to deal with the heat of summer… buuuut mother nature will not cooperate with me and I’m still waiting at this point to see when I get pregnant. Planning your pregnancy is great in theory but this is why they made air conditioning 🙂
Post # 14
I would never want to be 8 months pregnant in the summer.
Maybe if I lived somewhere with cool summers but it’s HOT and HUMID here. NO WAY!! I’m miserable through that heat when I’m NOT pregnant.
I’m pretty happy to be due in April (so 3rd trimester not until after the holidays!). The only thing I don’t like about my timing is that I’m pregnant for all of college basketball season. I need some beer with my basketball and I’m not a fan of being due around the Final Four.
Dresses are comfortable and awesome though but I’d still be miserable…so no.
Post # 15
@MissCountryGirl727: Well not to burst your bubble or anything, but there’s no guarantee you get pregnant right away. I say you start trying when you are both ready to start trying, regardless of what season you’ll spend your third trimester in. Being pregnant isn’t much fun in any season, at least the 1st and 3rd trimesters aren’t.
Post # 16
@MissCountryGirl727: Well, this is a great thought, but it shouldn’t even be a deciding factor in TTC because SO many hitches can be thrown into it.
I will be my biggest during the winter (winter in ND runs from like now until April typically). I think I will be enjoying it more because if I do get really hot with flashes, I will be able to cool down faster. However, on the opposite side of things it will also be icy. Can you imagine? Walking will be enough of a chore without adding ice to it. I will probably be more hesitant to travel long distances as well, making family get-togethers hard.
However, guess what this means? This means all the fun activites I had planned for next summer already are out. Going on the choir trip with my husband to Chicago? Nope. Not gonna happen. Easter? Might be pushing a baby out. Brother’s birthday? MIL’s birthday? Might be pushing a baby out.
To be blunt, don’t even let this be a deciding factor in TTC. Yes, being pregnant in winter may make me feel more comfortable heat/cold wise, but you can’t time it down to that, and it is a borderline selfish reason to TTC to. Try when it is right for you financially, emotionally, and physically. Had we waited until the perfect time we probably would never be pregnant. Had I gotten pregnant and had to be that way in the summer, it would have been fine. There are pros and cons to both.