- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I’ve been a member of this board for a few years, been married just over a year, but want to hide my identity. Here goes…
Hubby and I always rave about the trust between us. Our marriage vows were surrounded by trust. I’ve never trusted anyone as much as I trust him. I don’t doubt him or his intentions EVER…until now.
I had surgery just before Christmas and was given a prescription for heavy pain killers with one refill. I took two days worth of the pain killers and then called it quits and switched to OTC pain relievers. I hate pain meds, they make me nauseous and sick. I had about 30 pills left (and another 40 on the refill…that I didn’t want/need).
Hubby came home from his friend’s house just before Christmas and told me that he gave his friend some of my meds. I was LIVID. I previously dated someone that abused drugs and there was zero trust in our relationship (there was a lot more to it – he ended up going to prison)…but just not a character trait I ever wanted to be involved with again. I cried (still emotional from my surgery) and told him it was a terrible thing to do – illegal, not to mention being a shi*ty friend (encouraging drug use).
I know my husband’s friends abuse pain meds, hubby does not, but I absolutely don’t want any involvement in him giving them meds…not to mention MY meds. I made it crystal clear that I was pis*ed off and hurt – no question, he knew where I stood with it. He mentioned that we could get paid for them, rather than letting them go to waste and I told him absolutely not and told him that he’s a terrible friend (again, for enabling his friends).
There were still a handful of pills left when I checked this weekend and I mentioned that I was going to drop them off at the drugstore (turn them back in). Hubby told me to flush them, told me “Nobody turns them in,” went on and on about how embarrassing that would be. I got sidetracked and forgot (still healing from my surgery, too).
Fast forward to today. For no apparent reason (I’ve NEVER done this), I went online to look at my pharmacy records. The original prescription was filled the middle of December and low and behold, there is a refill of the pain meds from 12/26 … the day after Christmas! Our initial argument about the first meds he gave his friend was before Christmas and even after I made it crystal clear that I wasn’t okay with it, he refilled my prescription, snuck behind my back and didn’t say a word.
I’m beyond hurt and angry. I sent him a text (he’s home sick…guilty conscience I’m sure) and asked if he refilled my prescription. I then called his friend that he previously gave them to (bawling…I was so upset). He felt bad and said he did not get any more but knew my hubby had more and assumed some other friends bought them. Said he didn’t want to get in the middle and he was sincerely sorry. Hubby texts back an hour later that he did, he sold them to Friend A, B and C (not the original friend I contacted) and he was sorry. He told me to call him.
I told him I had nothing to say and did not want to speak with him. My mind is going from one thing to another – what else has he lied about? This is someone I absolutely, positively have NEVER had the slightest trust issue with. He just called me, saying he was sorry, he didn’t want me to leave him…I simply told him I couldn’t talk.
I made a list of every thought going through my mind and plan to hand it to him tonight. I just need to get checked (which is why I’m posting) – this is not me overreacting, right? This is illegal and it’s wrong. What would you do?