Post # 1
Do you ever see or experience something and you just get this chill of knowing that IT COULD HAVE BEEN YOUR LIFE if you hadn’t made one pivotal good decision?
I’ve had two of these.
One was when FH and I (then boyfriend) moved in together in this ancient prewar building that had settled so much that the floor was coming away from the walls. I went “I don’t want any bugs in here” and put duct tape over all the spots where the floor meets the wall. When we moved out one year later, I started pulling up the tape and found, stuck to the sticky side, probably more than one hundred dead baby spiders. IT COULD HAVE BEEN MY LIFE.
The second was today, scrolling through my facebook feed, and seeing a post from the guy I ALMOST married several years ago… spewing his absolutely illogical, idiotic, king-of-missing-the-point bonkers political BS… I won’t go into details but I think most reasonable sane people reading it would give him some serious side-eye. IT COULD HAVE BEEN MY LIFE.
Have you ever gone “oh holy bananas that could have been my life” about something?
Post # 3
Most of my momenets like that involve me seeing old friends who have 4 kids at 23, old friends who still live in their parent’s basements, or things like that. It’s weird to think that if I hadn’t moved away from my hometown, I could be living the exact same life as they did.
Post # 4
I think that with some friends of ours who jumped the gun a bit when they bought their first house and are now baffled that we can afford the house we’re going to be purchasing soon. It’s amazing what a few more years of no mortgage and home costs can do for a down payment!
Post # 5
Well, not that it was a horrific thought or anything, but one of my previous boyfriends and I assumed for a long time that we would get married some day. We very well might have, if not for that one occasion where I had literally pushed him out my door, when we were both still feeling strongly for each other (don’t worry, I wasn’t being physically abusive, and I had good reason…he was seeing someone else by then and getting very close to trying to cheat on her with me). I knew in the moment I locked the door that it was a “close call.”
He married her and they had children. When I saw those kids I did have the “that could have been my life” moment. I’m glad I didn’t marry him, he wasn’t right for me… I realized that in the instant I realized that he was willing to cheat on his girlfriend, as I can’t tolerate cheaters (also, he started balding really badly shortly after that anyway :P). But before that day when he was going to betray her with me, there was a reason my feelings were so strong for him back, so it was a bittersweet moment, seeing those kids.
I love my FI many times more than him though, and he would never cheat, so I’m really thankful that my ex showed me his true character and left space in my life for my FI to come in 🙂
Post # 6
I somehow stumbled into the chance to go to University, I didn’t get pressured into it and actually everyone was surprised my choice to go. However I was 19 at the time and my then boyfriend of 4 years wasn’t as supportive (If you go I’m going to break up with you.) I don’t know where I got the courage to go when I loved this guy so much.
Needless to say we ended up breaking up in my second year of Uni and I still think geez, if I’d listened to you and done what you wanted I’d never have done all the awesome things I’ve done since. I hear through the grapevine that his life hasn’t changed one bit, and I think with most certainty that if I’d stayed with him I’d have 3 kids, and a divorce under my belt by now. IT COULD HAVE BEEN MY LIFE!
Post # 7
@joya_aspera: good for you for my settling with him! My mom always tell me “when people show you who they are,believe them.” Your story is a perfect example!
Post # 8
From the age of 3 I was best friends with this girl that lived in my neighborhood. We did EVERYthing together for years. During the summers we practically lived together, we were as close as two friends could be and no matter what other friends we had, no one came between us – it was the epitome of best friendships, lol. When we were 13 I got in an accident and was in the hospital for months, so we began to drift apart. That same year, at 13, she ended up getting pregnant and gave her baby up for adoption. She became promiscuous and very depressed about giving her child away. She did poorly in school and gave up her dreams of college. While I feel like I would have had better judgment than to find myself in her position, I do feel like my life would be very different if we hadn’t have stopped hanging out the way we had been. I almost feel like my accident was a blessing to pull me away from her and the route she ended up on. Before my accident I would have never anticipated her going down this road – it happened so suddenly!
Now she posts on Facebook constantly about her 1st child (who she has begun to contact and see). She felt such a void that she was desperate to have another kid to fill the empty spot. She had another baby at 19.