(Closed) This could really get awkward….

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Give him a very specific timeline and then move him out! 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Give him ground rules when he moves in, and be specific. “You can stay with us for two nights, but we expect you to have found a place by Wednesday. We’re not comfortable giving out keys to the house, so when we leave in the morning for work, you’ll need to leave too, and we’ll call you when we’re on our way home in the evening.”

Don’t let him get too comfortable, don’t give him an option to sit home and play video games and settle in.

Post # 5
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7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Also, there is NOTHING wrong with asking him to chip in to help cover bills/groceries. If he tries to overstay his welcome, tell him you’d be happy to draw up a contract where he can pay rent on a weekly basis, including the cost of utilities and extra for food if he wants to eat what you purchase.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hmm. Something I wondered as I read this is whether or not letting him stay 2 days will really help him out. Does he literally have no place else to go? And if that’s the case, where will he go after his 2 days are up?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Definitely set time limits and expectations right at the beginning. Think about whether you want him to help with chores around the house, contribute to groceries/bills, refrain from using drugs, etc. and then communicate that clearly right off the bat so he knows your expectations and can choose to abide by them or leave

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would not let him move in. because once he does he wont move out. And living with your SO AND your ex bf can get awkward. I say no to him moving in even for a day

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with the others.  Definitely make sure you set the ground rules and your FI agrees with them and promises to uphold them with his friend-being stern and all, so it doesn’t become a problem -just in case.

Post # 13
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3640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

No ifs ands or buts, draw up a contract. Stating how much he has to pay a week and/or how long he is allowed to stay. It could save you a lot of greif and hopefully you won’t need it. It just needs everyone’s signatures.

I was also go and talk to his parents, you say that you know them. Go and talk to them and ask if they could take him back because their actions are hurting the people around them aka you. He’s not going to find a place to live with no job in 2 days.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This may sound mean-but it will work. Tell your FI you just don’t feel right having sex with him, while this guy is in the house. Then stick to it.  Your FI will probably have the guy vacated within a few days.

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