This crazy ring saga……..*sigh*…just need a listening ear (kinda long)

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2003

I am so sorry you are having such a hard time with loving your ring. It’s very important that you do. Im a little confused. Do you want a whole new style? Different center and setting or just the setting? 

Post # 6
7940 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@lavenderstone:  I suggest making a folder of all your favorite settings for your cut of stone. Then narrow it down to 3-5, print them out, and take them to a local jeweler for a custom setting. I bet the originality will make you attached to it. Just be bold and decisive- don’t deliberate too much or ask the world for input. 

Post # 7
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2003

Have you thought of using Craigslist? they must pay cash and you can meet at a jewerly store So that they know it’s authentic. This eases their mind. It’s just a thought. Local only. Never use paypal of checks. Cash only. 


As far as setting goes I understand. It took me looking at over a thousand yes a thousand settings to find the right one. Eventually I came back to the first one. I would try and narrow it down to 5. look at them at on the stock photo hand or in the store. There are so many places online that will customize your setting to fit your stone. 

Post # 9
6799 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

@lavenderstone:  I’d put it up on craigslist or in the local classifieds of the newspaper since Valentine’s day is right around the corner! Don’t pawn it, you won’t make any money back on it. (I know you didn’t even mention that, but just in case). 

Maybe you could go the custom route and do a “mashup” of all the bits and pieces you like the most from different settings. That’s kind of what I did with my ring.

Post # 10
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@lavenderstone:  Can you just put the ring on the back shelf (literally and figuratively) until you come up with an option that really works for you.  If the ring was a steal, then it shouldn’t be making or breaking you financially, so I’d consider it a sunk cost on that front.  If another friend comes along who loves it, or a perfect setting comes to you in a dream, go forward with it, but dealing with the ring right now seems to be causing you a lot of stress, and it’s not actually a pressing issue.

Post # 11
1106 posts
Bumble bee

I would just hold on to it until you stumble upon your dream setting 

Post # 12
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MissSweetiepie:  +1

if you can’t make up your mind, just wait until you find THE ONE. keep your ring as is and have the stone set in the new setting later. 

Post # 13
168 posts
Blushing bee

Sorry, I’m a bit confused.

You bought the ring, then wanted to sell it multiple times, now you want to custom design a ring?

I guess my advice would be to decide if you want this diamond to be a part of your forever ring (since you mentioned now that the setting is not functional).

You could always opt for a similar setting, with a lower set center.

Good luck! Enjoy your shiny.

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