This has been circulating around FB…

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

In my opinion, this is disgusting. Ugh. I hate all of it. I don’t find any of it amusing or even a little funny.Not to mention it’s so sexist and so misogynistic. 

Post # 4
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52 posts
Worker bee

@invisabee:  I think it’s a spoof of rules of dating my daughter. I’m pretty sure, which I see much more often 😛 

Post # 7
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52 posts
Worker bee

@invisabee:  Haha maybe not. I’ve always seen different variants of the girl version. Personally I think they’re both pretty stupid. I thought it was always meant as a joke though! Are you sure they are serious? I’ve never taking it seriously 😛 

 

Post # 8
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@invisabee:  Sadly this is pretty much true for most “Mama’s Boys”….not all men…just men who cling onto their mothers for dear life, haha.

Post # 9
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@invisabee:  Yeah I could see that. I guess for me, I just think it’s incredibly sexist and misogynistic. 

Post # 10
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8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t take any of this type of stuff on FB seriously so it doesn’t bother me. I’ve also (knock on wood) never had an issue with any guy I’ve dated and their mother.

Post # 11
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@invisabee:  

@forgetaboutme:  

What funny rules! These are jokes and I view them as such…

I love these about as much as I love this:

Post # 13
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@invisabee:  because BOTH women don’t budge and the middle man stays in the middle. 

My MIL sent me a similar picture and we both laughed about it! My DH is my MIL’s only boy and is also her youngest child so giving him up was hard on her. My mother in law went from being my husbands only support to being his secondary support and that must have sucked! DH is currently out of country and shares his communication time with both me and his mother. He is not my property and he can depend on his mom as much as he wants. I have the right to leave and it isn’t my place to control or limit their relationship. I am respectful of her and she is respectful of me. 

I think this MIL v.s DIL debate is silly and all parties need to grow up.

Post # 15
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592 posts
Busy bee

As a silly fb meme I think its funny, almost sweet. It has a loving protective sentiment behind it when not posted in seriousness. I take it like I would any other meme someone posts, an exaggerated joke in which people identify with a healthy basic truth. (The healthy truth being that no parent would want their child hurt, disrespected or taken advantage of.)

Were it truly someone’s life philosophy, I’d feel sad for them. When people hold on to their children too tight, it typically wrecks them for years, sometimes decades. Its not just SO’s that suffer, friendships, careers and lives of grandchildren too. 

If someone truly aligned with every word, well that’s a really sad, lonely, sick and twisted version of love. Those are statements people make when they want to own another person and people aren’t objects to be owned. To want that much control means a both the controller and the controlled are terribly insecure and codependent.

Post # 16
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@invisabee:  things like what? a meme that is supposed to be funny? 

If a MIL is too controlling then it is what it is and you can’t control them (the MIL or the child she is controlling). My opinion could possibly change under different circumstances but I highly doubt it. My own mother is not someone I enjoy and I grew up my whole life wishing she would grow up and meet me half way. I learned she is her own person and it isn’t right for me to ask her to live by MY standards. Sometimes you just need to take someone for who they are and leave it at that. You don’t have to like what she does in order to like her. I am positive that you could improve yourself in some way to make the relationship a little better. We could all use a little change. 

***I understand a mother and mother in law are different but this way of thinking applies to ALL relationships. The only person who you can dictate is yourself and what gives you the right impose your standards onto others. I am truly sorry your MIL is a pain in the butt and I am sure plenty of people can sympathize. If you can’t change your actions then change your prespective. 

 

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