(Closed) This has been the worst week ever

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry this week has been difficult. I’ll say a prayer for you and your family.

Post # 5
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4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal:  I’m sorry to hear about this.  But I have to ask, why don’t you want to get married if they pass?  I’m sure that they would WANT you to get married.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal:Sorry to hear about all of this 🙁  I really hope things get better!   I also hope that your FI gives you some slack, since you’re dealing with all of this.

Post # 9
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2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: Oh no.  You posted you didn’t want to get married on Facebook?  Facebook is evil when emotions are running high, lol

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: it sounds like you need to apologize to him sincerely and just tell him your emotions are getting the better of you. I cannot imagine getting married without my closest loved ones there. It will be so hard for you, but I am sure you can do it. FI is there to support you through your tough times -and over the course of your marriage I am sorry to say there will probably be many. He might not be able to fully understand what you’re going through, but I’m sure he’ll try.

He’s probably just upset because he’s worried you don’t love him enough to marry him regardless (or something along these lines).

Maybe try relying on him for support and encouragement and see if that makes things any brigher for you.

Post # 13
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181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh wow, Im sorry your having a hard time at the moment. 

 

Please stay off facebook when you are emotional its a blackhole for sense and logic. 

I can understand you feeling negative about getting married if your grandparents pass close to your wedding date. Is that what you are feeling emotional about? Its not that you don’t want to get married ever its that the timing would feel bad, to have a celebration so close to a death?

If that is the reasoning then explain it calmly to your FIs in person, because when I read your post I was confused: “what she doesn’t ever want to get married if they die?”

I am hoping that you are just feeling that way about the date and if they pass so close to your wedding day. Even then you would not need to cancel the wedding, you can include your grandfather in the ceremony, mention him/remember him in some way. Not wanting to ever get married if your grandfather passes is an unfortunate way to feel as in the nature of life people do pass. I’m not trying to be unfeeling here, I want you to think hard about your feelings and where they are coming from. 

 

Talk with your FI openly and honestly. Do not post anything on facebook concerning this, Facebook is not a place for raw emotion, the lack of anonimity and the fact that the written word can be misunderstood means that no one should ever post on there when upset.

Go to him and tell him how you are feeling, this is the man you have chosen to spend your life with, you owe it to yourself and to him to be open and honest about your feelings and fears. 

 

I hope it all works out for you.

 

Post # 15
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3943 posts
Honey bee

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: Is your wedding date November 2012? If so, please stop thinking about wedding planning right now. I understand what its like to loose a family member and the overwhelming sadness that comes when you think about them not being with you on your special day. But I promise you, the pain gets easier to deal with. I cry when I think about my dad and grandfather not being here to see me walk down the aisle, and not dancing with me. But I can’t imagine not marrying to love of my life because of that. They will be there in spirt, and they want you to be happy.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrs.Vowrenewal: Sending you hugs and positive vibes.  I hope the week gets better for you.

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