- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
The backstory: My FI’s eldest brother got engaged just weeks before FI and myself and the family told us to back off and wait til his brother married before planning our wedding as to not step on their toes. BULLSH*T, I thought!! But none the less, we had to respect that they beat us to the punch and not utter a word about our plans til they said their vows.(FI’s family threatened to have our heads if we didn’t. They are crazy control freaks!)
Well, they married in June 2009 and FI and I had been engaged since August 2008 so we immediately began our wedding planning PUBLICLY in July 2009 (We had secretly been planning since we became engaged but just kept it between the two of us. No fun!). After numerous date changes (because of FI’s controlling fam) we finally were given “permission” to settle with 10/09/10 which gives us an extremely long engagement.
Well, we set our date, booked our photographer, I bought my dress and we were just about to book our reception site (a little over a week ago now) when FI got word that his middle brother was talking about asking his gf of 2yrs to marry him. Cool right?! WRONG! Problem is, this brother thinks that it would be more than convenient to plan his wedding for right around mine and FI’s (within about 2-6 months).
FI and I stressed on the fact that w/us taking time off for our own wedding/honeymoon, we couldn’t possibly save enough money or request more time off to attend his brothers wedding (not to mention that its gonna take place all the way on the east coast!).
Well, FMIL recently went out of her way to try and convince me that FI and I should do a “secret” wedding and get it over with and have a “real” ceremony later. Don’t get me wrong, this is what I’ve wanted all along but coming from this super traditional, super controlling woman, to just give up control and tradition and say “to hell with it, go have a vegas wedding!” I knew something was up.
I asked her in the nicest non-offending way possible if she was encouraging this type of wedding because her middle son is planning his wedding for the same time as ours and she played dumb but FI and I both know that she just doesn’t want us to cause middle brother “grief” for his wedding plans.
FI and I talked it over and we both agreed that although we will now have to cancel our vendors and lose our deposits, we would much rather have a quicky wedding that is hassle free than deal with the drama associated with his brothers wedding being too close.
Then today, I found out that FI’s brother has officially purchased his gf’s engagement ring and plans to ask her asap! NOW, the drama will begin, again!!!
FI and I will again be shoved out of the way for his “wonderful” brothers.
So now, instead of planning for that big extravagant wedding that his family wanted and stressing over our budget, we are now scrambling to put together a small vegas wedding with a max of 30 guests but we still want it to feel like a wedding!!
THE STRESS NEVER ENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!
FYI: I previously posted on the emotional board telling the complete story. It is titled: Just another problem (ranting)
I just needed to update the story and rant some more… lol