(Closed) This is horrible…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can your mom or MIL help sleuth it out by casually asking?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it would be better to recieve two than none at all!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I dunno if it would be better to get 2 because then they’d think that they didn’t make much of an impression on you guys. I agree with getting family to sleuth it up a bit or just call those people and casually ask if they got their thank-you’s yet as you think the post office may have lost some (devious I know).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s way worse to receive none at all, but I would definitely try to find out if possible who might have actually received theirs.  I like the above suggestion of calling people you’re unsure about and explaining that there was a “mishap”.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

There were about 5 people we received gifts from that I had the same problem.  I couldn’t remember if I’d already sent them a thank you or not.  I opted for sending 2 cards.  In the thank you card, I wrote something along these lines…”I’m sorry if this is the second time you’re receiving this card, things have been very hectic around here, as you can imagine!  I just wanted to make sure you know how much we really appreciate your gift.”  It’s probably not the most tactful or graceful way to do it, but it works and I think people understand what a busy and hectic time it its.  Two people commented to me that they did receive 2 thank you cards and they laughed about it and said they fest twice as special.  Everyone loves being thanked and getting mail!  Would something like that work for you?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I like missomally’s tactic! I would rather receive 2 than none at all, and her message is cute and a very nice way of saying, “sorry I’m a scatterbrain and can’t remember if I sent you a thank you or not!” My vote is to send 2 rather than none!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Better to receive two than none!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would rather get 2 than none! If I got 2 I’d chalk it up to post wedding craziness!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

especially if you say in the note that you would rather send two because you really love the gift, i think it is ok. or you could blame the post office!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Send 2.  I’ve done that inadvertantly before and the person that received the second thank you was really pleased!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I’m on the 2 bandwagon. One of my friends got married last June, and I didn’t get a thank you until FEBRUARY. I thought it was insane, but I was happy to finally get one. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

TWO! TWO!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

definitelty better to send two!!

ancedotal story: my grandmom didnt talk to my cousin for 6 months a few years ago because he never sent a thank you note for a present he received.  granted it wasnt a wedding gift-it was a birthday present. and my grandmom is admitedly crazy, but still.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@rachaelrobin:  in my family (atleast with my aunt’s), it’s a HUGE deal if you don’t send a thank you within a month.  So whenever I get a gift, I immediately sit down and write it, address it.  Too many calls about “did you get my gift?” but said in such a way that it clearly implies that I should write my thank you (and rightfully so).  Oh and great spelling of your name 🙂

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