(Closed) This is just TOO FRUSTERATING!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe you should let him know the ring isn’t the important thing? Maybe find a more inexpensive one in the meantime?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

It’s so hard when finances are tight.  We’re going thru that now and it’s soooo hard.  it’s really easy when finances aren’t a concern.  We are learning how to deal with the situation and with each other during this time, I mean it’s definitely something that will either bring you closer and you can learn how to work thru things as a couple .. or it could be the thing that ends it.  

I would completely tell him that it’s not about the ring for you, that should at least let some of the pressure off you two.  

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Sorry to hear the tough times that are going on but If I can give you some advice I would tell you that being away from eachother during hard times doesn’t bring you closer it can cause resentment or strain … I know because me and my fiancé used to think that was the answer .. Time apart.. Then we started therapy ( not because we were at rock bottom but because we could tell how we were handling our situation wasn’t making things better) and in our sessions she taught us that supporting eachother and showing you won’t walk away when things get tough brings a huge sense of security and closeness to the relationship … Sorry I wrote Alot lol but I hope it helps you guys like it helped my relationship.. And like I said we werent in a horrible circumstances we were just misplacing our intentions and miscommunicating our thoughts … Best of luck lots of hugs! 🙂

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Does a ring necessarily equal engagement for you? If not why don’t you let him know the ring can come at a later time all you care about is spending the rest of your life with him. Maybe that will turn the situation around

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

How far is he ?? And when was the last time you talked to him? 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If your happy and know you’re going to be with each other forever, have some faith that it will all work out.

I personally think you should take a wedding/ engagement off the table.  It sounds like its adding more stress to the relationship by having expectations that can’t be met at this point in time. The stress of what he can’t do financially may be what’s causing the relationship breakdown.

You can’t build a house on a weak foundation. Focus on work and getting yourself into a management position while he continues to save. This will get rid of any resentment at work. The rest will follow naturally. It really sounds like the only issue is the engagement ring… I’m sure you guys don’t want that! (I read your previous post that’s why I’m commenting on all issues).

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well think about this

 

Would you rather an engagement ring and then for things to be so stressed and financially tight that it ruins your relationship or would you rather be sleeping next to a man who you know wants to marry you, with good intentions but just can’t give you what you want at the moment… If he won a scratch off tomorrow and was paid up in the cost of everything and had money left over, would he buy you that ring… If the answer is yes than don’t linger on the what ifs… First off that’s no way to live and it causes disease 🙂 be healthy happy and enjoy being inlove 

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