Post # 1
So my FI thinks its silly that I’m bummed out at all the people from my side (about 30 people) that are unable to attend our wedding. All but one family on my FI’s side accepted. Now I know there are several factors contributing to that including, (1) my family having to travel a minimum of 2 hrs to come to the venue and his family only 30 minutes (2) the time of year, we picked memorial day weekend. I thought I would be ok with people declining because it decreases our catering bill considerably however, I’m just feeling sad. I’m two months out. Should I begin to invite people who I couldn’t invite before or should I just embrace a more intimate wedding? (I know I can do whatever I want, I would just like some advice).
Post # 3
I’d want to be surrounded by family and friends so I would probably invite people I couldnt invite before.
Post # 4
I love small, intimate weddings so I would just embrace it. But there is nothing wrong with having B-list invites if you really want to extend the invitation to those you didn’t invite the first time around.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice ladies
Post # 6
Don’t feel bad! Many of my (pretty large) family RSVPed saying they were coming to the wedding, but a handful of cousins said they can’t make it. I’m spending more time dwelling on the fact that those cousins can’t make it than the fact that many other equally great people can.
I think sometimes when we picture our wedding day, we imagine particular people there, even if we’re not incredibly close to them, so when they can’t make it, it’s still a little sad.
Post # 7
I am a small wedding fan, but my FI would say invite everyone you couldn’t the first time around!
Post # 9
I would definitely invite the people you were unable to accomodate before! It bums me out to not invite my group of works friends, I am actually looking forward to some declines from those distant relatives so I can have the people I really want to share my day! Unfortunately it is worth sacrificing that over family drama that day!