Post # 1
I am trying to take as little advice as possible(except from the bees:) Yes that’s right! I want to have a great wedding, and not have to worry about what a wedding “SHOULD” look like. I am paying $30,000+ out of my own hard earned pocket, so I am going to do things my way. I can care less what you are supposed to register for. I just smile and nod as people give me advice, and I get a lot of it, but it is going in one ear and out the other.
No church, no pre-cana, no church music, no readings, no receiving line, no garter, no cake cutting, no grand reception entrance, no fine china, no cash bars, and definitely no abstinence.
Anyone else feel the same as I do?
Post # 3
While I definitely feel the same as you do I am having a harder time sticking to it. My Fiance and I are definitely paying for over half of our wedding but we are getting some assistance. So we are tying to take into consideration of what everyone else wants without ruining what we want. But it is really hard to find that line.
Post # 4
I sound like a hard a**, but I still tow the line on some things. I always keep my guests in consideration, because they are all traveling from out of town. I think it is easier for me to stick to my guns if I have it in writing.
Post # 5
My Fi and I decided to have a destination wedding and of course the parents had to say something about it, but that’s what we wanted! Heck we’re the ones paying for it, so they have no say! But their cool with it now, but it does get annoying when someone says something and their opinions were never asked for!
Post # 6
I completely agree with you! My fiance and I are paying for our wedding. His mom offered to give us some money and we said okay as long as no strings are attached. We didn’t want to sound mean, but we know how opinionated everyone gets when a wedding is planned and ultimately all that matters is that we have the day of our dreams! It’s our wedding afterall. Of course that doesn’t change anyone because we still has his parents asking us to invite people who we weren’t even close to. We just politely told them no because we’re on a budget and we only want to have our family and friends who are closest to us at our big day! I don’t think they liked hearing that, but what can you do? Not everyone will agree with your choices. All that matters is that you and your fiance are happy 🙂
Post # 7
I am with you. I cannot stand the comment I seem to be receiving from so many people: The confused look, followed by the “shrug”, then the “I’ve never seen that at a wedding before…”
UGGHHHH….Good I am glad you have never seen that before! That was my plan!!!! To be original!
Post # 8
I understand. When Mr. FF and I started this is was very traditional and what I felt everyone else would want. Now it has transformed into us. It is everything we could/would want in our wedding. Stick to your guns. You are paying for it. You rock!
Post # 9
It is hard to have your own vision for the wedding and you will continue to get advice. I wanted just a cake and punch reception. Fiance wanted a big fancy wedding. So I had to give in. Now I’m okay with it all. I’m not doing a garter/boquet toss and he’s okay with that. It’s hard to find that balance between what you want and what other’s want. Good luck!
Post # 10
I second heathaah- why wouldn’t you want to be original on your wedding day? Where is the fun for your guests if your wedding was the exact replica as the wedding they attended the weekend before?